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Finding love with someone of the opposite sex starts with understanding yourself and what you genuinely seek in a partner.
Reflect on your values, interests, and goals to identify what aligns with your vision for a relationship.
Engage in activities and communities that resonate with your passions, expanding your social circle naturally. Be open, approachable, and willing to take genuine interest in others.
Communication and honesty are key—express your true self and listen actively. Building a connection takes time, so be patient and resilient.
How can I find someone for me; still enters the back of your mind. But remember, love often blooms when you’re focused on personal growth and embracing life’s opportunities.
Here are some important factors:
1) IT ALL BEGINS WITH ‘PERSONALITY’ FOCUS.
Your search should clearly focus on the other person’s personality.
It would be great to find someone that has something in common with you. That’ll come over time once you slowly get to know the person.
Remember, that’s when you’re the most relaxed, the most satisfied. Knowing you have someone you can talk about things with.
Before, getting over the challenge of just meeting someone, would’ve been tough. With everyone masking up before, you never got a chance to see how nice looking or how ugly a person really is.
2) CAN’T MEET IN PERSON? THEN TALK FIRST ONLINE!
As far as looks are concerned, you’d have to guess and ask yourself, “Just how ugly is that person behind the mask?”
You can really get a good feel for a person through ‘face-time.’ No need to worry about fakes because you know who you’re talking to already. (Make sure it’s a ‘live video chat).
You’ve already met. Now you can start getting to know each other better through video. Keep in mind, things have changed in todays world of dating.
You may not like communicating this way, but for now, it’s just something we all have to deal with. Meeting someone in todays time is NOT an impossible task!
It’s just how you go about it. And the way you do that is by being respectable towards the other person (even online)!
3) SETTING UP IN PERSON 1ST DATE TO KNOW EACH OTHER BETTER.
Once you’re both feeling comfortable and safe with each other, a good first meeting at a restaurant or some other place you both agree on would be nice.
Many more good things can come out of a meeting like this. You can really find out more about the ‘compatibility factor’ among yourselves.
There’s much information you can uncover about a person in a relaxed restaurant environment. (One thing you’ll find out right away is what one of their favorite foods are).
4) DON’T LET FEAR OF COMMITMENT STOP YOU FROM GETTING CLOSE.
After much texting, calls and safe ‘in person’ meetings you feel you know this person very well.
(Maybe he or she is the one). Maybe it’s time!
You’ve been single long enough. It’s been 3 years now and a spouse would be nice.
But of course along with commitment comes ‘Trust.’ (This is so important in any relationship). Trust should be valued among couples and not taken for granted.
TRUST & COMMITMENT
Trust and commitment are the cornerstones of any strong relationship.
Trust is built through consistent honesty, reliability, and transparency, forming a foundation where both partners feel secure and valued.
It requires time and effort to develop, but once established, it fosters intimacy and mutual respect.
“Commitment involves dedicating oneself ‘to nurturing the relationship, even through challenges.”
It means prioritizing your partner’s well-being and investing in shared goals. Both trust and commitment are reciprocal; as you demonstrate these qualities, they strengthen the bond and deepen the connection.
Together, they create a resilient partnership where love can thrive and grow.
Love and trust are essential for a strong relationship. Love involves deep emotional connection and mutual respect, while trust is built through consistent honesty and reliability.
Together, they create a secure foundation, enabling partners to feel valued and supported. This combination fosters intimacy and strengthens the relationship over time.
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A well crafted write up on selecting the best compatible mates, I was literally satisfied and was getting all my questions answered by your article even when I haven’t really gotten to the end of the article. It’s a great piece I must confess.
A lot of relationship these days are not working out because we haven’t really figured out our soul mates. One shouldn’t really be desperate in taking that path. it’s takes a lot of time and patience but it’s finally worth the wait at the end of the day. Powerful yet cool tips on dating and relationship in general. Great write up. Thanks for this piece.
Thanks Tony for stopping by and reading my article. I’m glad to here you got your questions answered. Love, dating and relationships is a tricky thing. A roller coaster of emotions! Like you mention Tony, knowing and figuring out our soul mates before ‘shacking up’ together is important. Most folks make this move too soon and ‘no good’ becomes of it.
Hey Ron,
I would like to congratulate you on hitting all points in the dating game. As for me, I find as I get older, finding that one special person slips even further into the distance.
You are correct in saying that as we get older we grow in maturity and gain more confidence. I really enjoyed the style of your composition which kept my attention, from inception to completion.
This is a must read for anyone embarking on a relationship. Thank you for sharing!
Paul, were both in the same boat when it comes down to us older cats dating. I personally like younger women (but that’s just me). We grow older and wiser over the years. We gotta watch these younger chicks trying to ‘play the game’ on us older dudes. But there are older women looking to date guys their own age. They’re lonely too! Everyone needs some type of companionship.
I personally think to successfully date a woman really need some sort of research and understanding. I’ve got a guy friend who will do all the “asking” about the woman she wanted to date before asking her out. He’ll check her Facebook & Instagram, look into the job that she’s doing now and even first ask her friends out to know more before setting the date! Don’t you think dating is a strategy game?
Hi Florence, thanks for checking in. The ‘guy friend’ you describe in your letter sounds like he assembled his own ‘game plan’ in regards to dating. (I guess you do what you gotta do, but this is to the extreme.) A lot of planning went into this. (I never heard of anyone going this far). A strategy game? It sure looks like it in this case.
A very useful post! I’m afraid I can’t use it, because I am married! However, I think it has great significance for young people. The viewpoints in the post on the relationship between men and women are new. It provides a new perspective for us to think about this eternal topic!
Sam, although you may be married, I appreciate you checking in with me. Yes, this material could help guide a young single in the right direction. When it comes down to dating, some folks ‘pull all the stops’ in regards to finding that special someone.
Hey, great post. It makes me remember when I was on the dating scene. After a while, I actually got bored of meeting new people. I really was ready to settle down and found that after meeting a few people, I got a bit monotonous meeting new people who just weren’t the right fit. It’s different for everyone, and depends on where you’re at in your single journey. I like that you’ve given tips on basic approaches as well as not being too caught up in a particular look, age or nationality. Yes, be open to meeting a wide variety of different people, you just never know what will click when you discover new things about each other. Thanks for sharing.
Well put Kat. Many folks limit themselves when it comes down to seeking & searching out that ‘special someone.’ Like you say Kat, that person looking has to be open to all races and nationality. There are good people in all races. You might pass up a ‘diamond in the rough’ when you limit yourself to only one particular type. Keep your mind and heart open!
Your post well detailed and engaging. It have been skeptical about online dating. Even though some of my close friends engage in it without caution. I love the way you xrayed it. I will be kind to share with my friends so that everyone can be safe and maximize the potentials internet offers. Your home page is beautiful.
Online dating can be ok to some, but a disaster for many. People who have used this type of service sometime complain. (some have even taken the other person to court regarding money matters. Just can’t give up money too fast.) You have to get to know the person first before getting too personal and displaying all your business.
You may not realize oh Donald that you actually gave more assistance in this post. I am a kind shy and intimidated by gorgeous looking girls even online. Your five basic approach to singles helped immensely. I will summon more confidence the next time I go out for a date. Thank you.
Thanks for checking back. It’s Ronald, not Donald. I’m glad this post will help you out on your future searches. Better yet my friend look into this book I posted on my site that will help build your confidence. Paschal, You’ll approach woman in a whole different way. You’ll feel great! Here’s the link: https://confidentman.net/confi…
Great post and good info.
Honestly, online dating was always bad to me, I found girls who wanted a rich men, you know, the cliche girls that you find there.
They are looking for a dream prince, which isn’t existing.
But I found my wife there, she’s one in a million.
Now, about dating games, I never did that actually, and I don’t think it is for everybody right?
For who you would recommend it the most?
Thanks for sharing!
Congrats to you, my friend Emmanuel for find your ‘dream girl’ using the online dating service that’s offered. Some folks have terrible luck with those. (like you say ‘gold diggers’ waiting to pounce on the gullible.) Dating games are something that will never go away. People run games on each other to get over. These types are the ones you don’t want to get involved with. Dating games are for individuals playing the field and not taking things for real.
Good post. I like the way how you map out your points. The author sense of humor is really cool. Trust me, love is really blind most time. Going out to really check on someone for the first time is always scary at first because it is not easy to connect with the person. But at the end, love is beautiful
Hello my friend. Glad you enjoyed my post. I understand when you touched on ‘first-time’ jitters. That can really shake a person up. They really have to learn to relax and take time understanding the other’s personality. Some folks don’t open up right away and that will make you take time to adjust.Yes, the final stage hopefully will be love.
Any relationship that puts trust and commitment in the back burner is bound to fail. These factors are very important bedrock upon which any long lasting relationship is built. Both parties in a relationship have to always reach a compromise and be more understanding of each other for they would have both built habits over the years that would be difficult to change.
Honesty and comment should always be put at the ‘Head of the Class!’ Like you said , if this factor wasn’t incorporated into the equation, then the relationship is doomed! Time heals all wounds in regards to men and women trying to build a long term relationship. Ennymatics, each party has to function on the same page.
A very interesting article with some much information and educative things to learn from it
how playing the dating game must not be taken lightly,you have said many thing to be watch out for in relationships and also many things to do in relationships in other not to get hurt or been used and dump at the long run.
i find this article so helpful because am single.i will follow most of the lessons I learnt from this article
Thank you Ajibola40 for your compliments. I try to put together articles which provide helpful information to my readers. It’s serious business when it comes down to love, dating and relationship. (It can put you on a roller coaster of emotions). Please share this with any of your other single friends. I hope this information will help them too.
I enjoy reading this interesting article, Indeed dating games is a necessary thing that should happen to men and women alike. However, the danger inherent in dating games is what some people ignore completely, especially when they claim to have fallen in love It is worse in this generation where people don’t understand what trust is and are not interested in commitment. Dating games ought to be dome with some amount of caution because human being are sometimes not what they claim to be most especially when it involves online dating. This is a major reason most people end up being heart broken or they get emotionally damaged,
When one gets into a relationship, it is imperative to study the ingredients in the other partner, understand their make up and assess the compatibility before plunging into serious affair that may not lead to anywhere. When we begin to be honest with our self and trustworthy, relationships will be more enjoyable and dating games becomes fruitful without bitterness..
Well put my friend. Dating, now-a-days, has become a ‘train wreck’for most. People don’t know what they want. When they think they’ve found that special someone, they screw it up by cheating, before the first relationship settles in. Some folks just love ‘playing the game’ and not satisfied with one person. Honesty goes out the window and variety is ‘the spice of life.’
Thanks for sharing useful dating advice. Trust and commitment is a must for any relationship. I have had a few broken relationships in the past and the main reason was lack of commitment from both side. I think it is not difficult to find love but to keep your partner for a long time. Compatibility is also not a big issue as long as you have mutual respect for each other.
Being compatible first, gets the ball rolling. Once that connection is made, sincerity, honesty and trust should filter in. Those elements should play a main role in determining just how things are going to be, or should. Sadly though, it’s not a perfect world out here. When it comes to dating, to most folks, it is what it is.
The dating game…. to play it or not? What a topic.
I “unfortunately” have been married a few times and I wish I would have had a better perspective of what I was doing the first 2 times. I’m definitely always thinking how to convey what went wrong to my daughter in the best way so hopefully, she is ahead of the game.
Although this is such a touchy topic, I think you’ve done a marvelous job at laying it out.
Thanks
Thanks my friend for reading and compliment. Regarding your other marriages, the ‘third time’s the charm (at least, I hope.)lol. But most people do look back, learn from their mistakes, re-group and move on with their lives. I agree when you touched on the younger generation; hell, they can teach us a thing or two. Lol
This is a lovely write up filled with truths.
I must confess, this article really got my full attention and it was so interesting reading through it. It is quite a while I read such an interesting article like this. I really commend you for the great effort you put together in writing this piece. Basically in my opinion and as you have rightfully written, Trust and commitment are the two basic ingredients needed for a long-lasting relationship. Thanks for sharing this with us.
Thanks for reading my post, Michael. Now-a-day, there’s just too many games played among folks who actively date. Some out here don’t know what they want. Thrust and commitment goes a ‘long way’ when it boils down to long lasting relationships. This element is a sorely missed ingredient.
Awesome! What an incredible and insightful blog post; Thanks for this wonderful enlightenment. This is an expensive information that is very hard to come by on any blog and i must say it’s an eye opener for me
You have several excellent points in your article. I have always known dating games are not to be taking lightly. Its very important younger ones learn from experiences in order not to fall into the same pit they have once fell into.
Great article here!
Thank you my friend for checking back in. Your comments are always appreciated. Dating now-a-day can leave you with a roller coaster of emotions. Both men and women have to go into a relationship with an open mind and heart. Get to know one another before plunging too deep, too fest. Follow my advice and you can’t go wrong.
What A fantastic article…with a little cartoon comedy portion. I love it.. can anyone fall in love? This is the right article to read to those who plan to make a good relationship. To make a healthy, successful and happy life…a dating game is not easy and perfect for those who searching a lifetime partner. it’s a true date, but it’s only a game. I think this article is open minded and helpful to all single.
Hello my friend. Thank you for reading and the compliment. You ask, ‘can anyone fall in love?’ Of course! If your heart is open to others and remain that way, I see no problem with this as a starting point. You’ll know if he or she is the right one for you. Remember, nothing happens overnight. Have patience! Don’t force the play. Let the game come to you.
Hi Ronald,
There are many comments here, which are seen in very few posts. It is clear that the matter is very impressive and appealing. I and my wife read your Dating Games article together and felt humor and memorize our past romantic days. The fact that such an interesting article has not been read for a long time. From my experience, the man who is satisfied with one woman is rare. The man has one foot in the water and the other on the ground. However, for a loving, happy, successful and committed relationship requires mutual respect, sympathy, deep faith, etc. Thanks for giving such an amazing article with a lovely video.
Sincerely,
Ranao
Thank you Ranao, I appreciate the compliments. The dating arena is sometime too great for most to handle. What I mean by that is the folks that’s been ‘out of commission’ for some time. Maybe you’re an older person, who lost a spouse and now suddenly find themselves back out on the dating scene. A hard adjustment. But with patience, careful searching (if you are looking) and openness, you can develop a successful, master plan tailored to fit your needs.
Hi
This is a fantastic article with all related information about dating game and serious involvement with relationship. I would not know so much information about it if I did not read your article. After reading your article, I have learned the professional ethics and considerable rules while playing the dating games. I believe many people yet don’t know the breakup reason, mismatched and failure of dating event. I am going to share it with my other friends. Thanks for writing this helpful topic.
Thank you my friend for reading. People in the dating world have a lot of decisions to make. Good or bad, they have to be made. I try to post constructive rules in this article. Rules and ways to live by. Some folks out there looking, don’t know what they want. They run around in circles, notknowing what they want.
Tons of value to be found on this post on selecting compatible mates. This is a great and simple to follow guide on playing the dating games.
You laid it all out clearly and showed series of examples that helped emphasize your various points. This is a good advice on what to look for in a partner. I love the fact that you told us to always ask questions on the type of person we are dating.
Thanks for the eye opener.
Yes Ola, a person, male or female, should always have some idea of what they’re seeking even before venturing off in search of a mate. But just don’t settle for anybody. Carefully ease into a relationship. Check the flow regarding how things are going. You’ll know when to open up all the way!
Hey, Ronald!
How to select a compatible mate, is one topic I have alot of interest in.
I agree that age, nationality and other unnecessary rules and regulations should go to the back burner, in terms of things to put into consideration when selecting a mate.
Your tips on how to get someone to date you, such as: humor, making intelligent and relevant conversation, smiling, having self confidence and being honest, are real deals in my opinion.
Thanks peace, glad you enjoyed my article. Selecting a compatible mate is a daunting task for most because I feel most folks don’t know what they’re seeking. Find the ‘perfect’ mate and you’re halfway there. But it really takes two to make it all come together and become satisfying for both involved. As far as race and nationality is concerned, that should never be an issue. Personality should be at ‘the head of the class’.
The relationship between a man and a woman can at times be complicated. Sometimes we might ask ourselves what does a guy or girl is in a particular person that makes them remain with that person even if the person is a no good person. The way our hearts work is just strange.
When you are in love with someone you just don’t care about the type of life the person is living. All you would be interested in is to just be with that person all the time. That is just the way the world was created. Only when you don’t love the person that you would begin to consider things like wealth and looks and similar things that do not really show the heart of a person.
Jay you made some interesting comments. You hear folks say ‘follow your heart’, but sometime that may lead you down a dangerous and missguided road. You really have to also use your head. Thinking with a straight head is also a good start. Illegal drugs or even alcohol may distort your perception of someone, that before you know it, you’ve gotten yourself into something that will have you thinking, “What the hell just happened?”
I found the article very interesting. I totally agree with you, a lot of times people get intimidated by the outer beauty of a person, and therefore hinder themselves from experiencing the inner beauty the person holds. Often times, we meet stunning people, who tick or the right boxes but are very lonely. You would never be able to know this except you make effort to know the person. In the end, not everyone has forgotten about trust and commitment, however there are only just a few left.
Hey Louis, that outer beauty just won’t cut it regarding a serious and sincere relationship. Of course all guys want that ‘fine sexy mama’ and women want that ‘tall, handsome muscular dude.’ But they never stop to think, ‘what’s up stairs?’ Do they have enough brains to make rational decisions in a relationship? How’s the personality? A lot to cover. Also love, trust and commitment should head the list.
I think you hit the nail on the head there when you pointed out that there are a lot of lonely people capable of love, and a lot of people in relationships that just don’t get on together!
A great post here that will surely ring true with more than a few singles at the moment. Do you feel that internet dating has now got to the point where it outperforms regular dating (through results)?
Hi Chris, thanks for checking in. When it comes to dating and relationship, some folks tend to make up their own rules. Most likely rules that will soon be broken. As far as internet dating versus face-to-face dating goes, I personally feel nothing will replace the actual physical meeting of a person. You can discover more when conversing, as opposed to folks lying to you behind a screen.
This I must say is an interesting article, Though dating has never been easier, frustrations with it have never been more vocal and finding love has never seemed more treacherous, We are living in times where the impact, visibility and perceived importance of the young are enormous. I am happy I came across this post and I’m hoping for more from you.
Thank you my friend. I’m hoping you share this with others. Some people tend to get misguided with the wrong information regarding how to handle relationships and what to expect in the long run. I try to lay out information which deem helpful to all seeking love, even in treacherous times. I have a ton of helpful information on this subject. Please share my post.
I love your take on dating, relationships and tips on finding that special someone. You’ve just given me a thoroughly good laugh so my hat is off to you sir, very well written it was very entertaining. To be honest I am SO glad I don’t have to worry about this any longer having found my prince. But not before kissing my share of frogs! I always found that when I met someone new things were wonderful for a while during the “honeymoon” period, but then real life would creep in and things would start to go south. It can get really frustrating when it just never works out and you feel like you’re never going to meet the “one”. That’s why I reckon it’s important to be friends first so you know exactly what you’re getting into. What importance do you place on friendship before starting a physical relationship with someone?
Yes Rachael, you will kiss many frogs before that ‘special someone’ appears. This seem to be the ‘norm’ for both men and women. Eventually, good things do happen! (You found your prince. That’s great!) Some couples would wanna scream “Where is the Love?” as the song from the 1980’s goes. There seem to be a shortage of this among couples. To answer your question Rachael, what I think is ‘key’ in a friendship, which could blossom into love, is the personality of an individual. This is the barometer which help sets the standards and outcome of how things will be regarding a good relationship.
Hi Ronald,
This is a very interesting post. It is informative and funny. “The 14 Red Flags of Dating: The Art of Manliness” was hilarious. Will you add a female version, “The 14 Red Flags of Dating: The Art of Womanliness”?
When I did the retrospect of my past relationships, I realize most of the time I was the problem. I especially had commitment issues.
I loved the “The Five Basic Approach for Singles”. Your profile of the different approaches was very well done. It is a good chart to show where one is in the “dating scene”.
Your final thought on the “The Reality of Love” was sad but true.
I think this is a very good website for charting out a course of action in the dating world.
I enjoyed this post very much. Thank you, Ronald.
johnny, the Grey Wolf.
Hey Johnny, glad you enjoyed my post. I try to be as thourhal as I can, touching on ‘key’ elements which hopefully will help others. Instead of couples making up their own rules and guidelines to follow regarding keeping their relationship intact, they should just concentrate on following good, solid guidelines. (…my post!)LOL. I keep it real, with a touch of comedy just to keep things interesting. Please share my post with your social media contacts.
What an engaging and interesting article. I really took my time to read through and was looking forward to your final point and conclusion. I have actually learnt from it. I won’t be intimidated by a woman’s outer beauty anymore. Each time I see a beautiful woman, I always think that she must be in a relationship and not knowing that it’s not always so. Some of them might be single like me and equally searching for a faithful partner too. Next time I will take a very bold step and walk up to her and initiate a conversation. Thanks for your wonderful article.
Thanks for reading my friend. Regarding women, never feel intimidated by a woman’s pretty looks. They’re looking too. Just waiting also for that ‘special someone.’ Of course, they won’t ever tell you. They’ll always play hard to get. That’s part of the dating game and the rules we play by. But all rules are made to be broken. Yes my friend Kenechi, keep your head up high right along with your confidence. You are bound to score!
I really like the way you carefully establish your point. The five points you mentioned are really meant for guys like me who are really shy to approach ladies and I am. It will be helpful to me. I must say that online dating has not been favorable to many but yet I have friends that got their spouses online and they are happily married. Most of the time the right approach is needed to engage a partner, the wrong may backfire later. You did a good job with this.
Thank you Fortune for reading my post and voicing your experience. Sometimes it’s tough when it boils down to selecting a mate that’s compatible. Online dating may work for some, but not for others. As you stated my friend, the right approach is needed in regards to capturing that special someone. Or a person can just follow my five basic steps for instant ans guaranteed success. Fortune, please share this with others.
Its a pity the younger ones are not taking dating and courtship serious like we did during our days. The affection is no longer there. I could remember I took my relationship/ courtship very serious because I knew this is the person I would apend the rest of my life with so there should be no mistake. I have a happy family now and I am bold to say it couldn’t have been better than this.
Thanks for sharing this lovely article
I guess you can say Wealthfather, that with us both being from the ‘old school,’ things now-a-day regarding dating and relationships just ain’t the same. Young folks, at least some of them, take love for granted. Getting serious with someone is a joke. Now It’s all about getting to know someone long enough to have good sex, and then later get ‘kicked to the curb.’
This piece is an embodiment of excellence. Sheer awesomeness! Such exasperating writing to cover all angles concerning getting involved in a relationship and what to look up to and ought not to look up to.
selecting a partner is not all about who is the best and most awesome. Its usually about the imperfections that you’re willing to make perfect by becoming a part of them. My partner is a very hot tempered person whom I met through mingle2 dating site but after several months, I realise her flaws and I was willing to stand by her even till now.
Thanks for the compliments my friend. The dating world can be an adventure. A wild roller coaster ride of ups and downs. Finding the right person is always not that easy. Being around that person may make you happy, maybe not. (Only time will tell). I guess it all depends on what you you willing to put up with.
Thank you so much to the author who has written down this kind of such a beneficial article. This article opened my mind to the fact that there are ways to play love games in a reasonable way. i love the approach you listed here for the singles, which made me fall in love once again. I recommend this post for all singles.
Thanks again Tracy, for viewing my site. Some folks are lucky in love, some aren’t. (It all depends on who’s asking). LOL. Some try to stay in the game and deal with what life has to offer. Others may walk away before they even get to know their selection. Love is a funny thing! Please Tracy, share this article with others on social media.
Hi Ronald and thank you so much for this post
I laughed I thought a lot and I enjoyed this.
Tony Robbins said- !st you must become very good friends and you must be good for each other and when this occurs, then you may contemplate taking it further but not until that day which should be more than 24 hours – lol Seriously it could be a year- Who cares as long as its real
I really loved this post-Ronald- you rock!!
Hi Vicki my friend. Glad you enjoyed my post (…just makes me feel all warm & tingly inside)lol. But seriously, I felt I done my job when I can write enjoyable articles. Articles that make others laugh. Yes, the dating game is really something to behold and as real as it gets.
Vicki, please share my post with your other contacts. Thanks!
This is a very interesting article I love to read. Relationship is very easy to say but what is there in, is very critical.It takes extra thoughts and sacrifice to conclude on who to choose as a life partner. The most funniest part is falling in love with someone your friend might detest thinking he/she doesn’t worth it This is just to believe the fact that ‘what is good for me might not be your taste. Love they say is blind, so we have to do our things in our own pace just to be responsible for our actions at the long run. This article is useful for many guys toying with women’s emotions after gaining her love, trust and commitment,using it as their weakness. This is why most lady make it hard for guy that loves them because of the poor outcome from their experience. This tough attitude of the ladies make it hard for other innocent guys that love them to approach because of fear of rejection. See karma!
Hello Stella my friend. You make some interesting points. The dating world can be a crazy world. A roller coaster of emotional turns and twists. They say to ‘follow your heart’ but sometimes your heart can be misled. Something to think about. Please share this article with other.
I think finding the compatible mate is quite hard, because most of the people I have seen on dating sites are not there to find relationship. So, it’s pretty hard to find someone who is looking to establish something real. Now where do you find a guy who want that?
To answer to your scenario, I think after 3 years with him, I will give him an opportunity to explain himself but 3 years is not enough to know everything about someone ( unless you’re with him 24/7). I will end the relationship because I hate liars but I will definitely take time to know the why and how…
Thanks
Good points you made, my friend. Three years is more than enough time to get to know someone, all their faults and what direction do they want their life to go in. But I find folks still out there, fumbling around, searching and looking. Not only do they not know where they’re headed, but also, don’t know what they’re looking for.
I believe that at the end of the day, finding your “perfect” mate is a highly subjective thing. I mean yeah, there are definitely some basics but every woman is different. Also, based on different circumstances that are going on in your life, you’ll be meeting different kinds of women.
I really believe that the dating game is highly subjective and dynamic.
At least this has been the case for me…
What’s your take on this?
Thanks Harry for chiming in. My take would be ‘whatever floats your boat!’ To each his own,(and that type of stuff.) As you pointed out, a man will have different women come in and out of his life. It’s up to him to chose his ladies wisely, get a very good feel for them so he doesn’t get ‘burnt’ in the long run. Please share my article with others.
No one ever teaches you about relationships and feeling and being yourself. We’re all just thrown in a water and you have to learn as you go. I met people who, in my opinion had no idea what a healthy relationship should look like and didn’t even bother to listen to other people. That’s why I like the youtube video you provided, it’s like a little tap on shoulder.
I’m always interested in topics like human interaction, attraction and such and am looking forward to reading your work.
Best,
Katya
Thank you Katya, for stopping by. When it comes to relationships, most folks are just out here going through life with NO direction or any idea what they want or what their looking for. (I have two friends myself that’s like this). The guys I know find women, have their way with them, then kick ’em to the curb. (They been doing this for years). This is why these dudes been single for a very long time. (They probably threw away some good ones).
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Hey there Ronald,
Knowing what you want in the relationship and your other half, is the first step for a good relationship. For better or worse, you need a few failures, in order to figure it out. Then it’s self-confidence. You need to believe in yourself, and trust yourself and love yourself. Because if you don’t no one will.
Relationships need work. Sacrifices. Compromises. If you’re not willing to do so, then stay single!
Marios
Hey Marios, love is a ‘two-way street.’ In order to make any relationship work, we all gotta be on the same page. If one have plans that’s in the opposite direction of the other, then this won’t cut it. Understanding, trust and honesty is what keeps a relationship strong. There isn’t enough of this going around! Back to the basics!
Great post. It’s very important to choose the mates we like to build our spend our lives with. Especially when it comes to marriage. Of course, love can blind us with feelings of butterflies in our stomach. But we should consider the act of the man or the partner. Whether they are good or bad for us.
I didn’t see this before I began my relationship with my husband because he’s so good in making you feel in love. But then, as fool as I am, I got hooked with the idea of building relationship since it was my first time to have a man in my life other than my father.
In the end, we got married. Then, the signs start showing up. He’s overly emotional to the point he’s shutting me off and everybody else, including his mother. The fact that he could do the same with his own female family members, he could do that to me. It was frustrating to the point I told him, “Fuck you. I hate your motherfucking drama!”
Then, he woke up from his senses. He cried and cried. He has never felt that bad for hurting me, the woman he only loved. As much as I wanted to leave him, I couldn’t because I love him so much. He’s currently changing his ways of treating me. There I saw his effort of building the broken relationship with me. I appreciate that, but it doesn’t mean I have already forgotten what he did to me over the years.
Wow! What drama you’ve gone through in your relationship. Sounds like you and hubby are trying to get back on track. Sometimes situations call for you to get pissed & walk before the guy comes to his senses. He knows he has a good woman, but fail to see the good in you. Threatening to leave is like a ‘slap in the face!!’
(But hey Mecyll remember, if things don’t work out, you got my number!)LOL!!
It’s been a while since I was in the dating game, I was married for 15 years but we had to go our separate ways so I need to get myself back out there on the market
I’m really nervous though, I don’t think I could get into online dating as it wasn’t around before I got married so I need to have a think about what I want to do next
Do you have any more tips about online dating?
Hey Matthew, keep the faith. One failed marriage should not stop you from ‘testing the water.’ To answer your question regarding online dating, me personally I’m not a big fan of online dating (I’ve heard too many ‘horror stories’). I believe in face-to-face meeting. Matt, just keep yourself available. Attend events where you most likely will meet women. Just be yourself (women hate phonies), and have a sense of humor! (women love to laugh).
Partnership is made in heaven and marriage takes place on earth.
This is a lovely and funny writing style.
Well, You’ve point out about some approaches in your article. I just want to Emphasis about most important one- CONFIDENCE-. yes, confidence is master key point here. just be yourself and do not pretend yourself to be any one else. you don’t need to cover a mask on your face, BE Granded, if someone deserves to spend time with you,then he or she put effort to keep relationship seriously, if not you just move on and walk away.
Thanks budy
Thank you my friend for your fine compliments. I find the humor in whatever life has to offer. Even in dating; some situations could be funny, some disastrous. But together, strong couples survive through anything. I agree when you say ‘confidence’ is a key element a person should have when searching for a mate. Also, never rule out, ‘just be yourself’ (the ladies hate phonies)!
That video had me giggling and then guffawing!!! Although its pointed at women, I’ve seen plenty of men display many of these same red flags. The light hearted humour in the beginning keeps a person (well, me, anyways!) reading.
Your points are definitely of value to both sexes. Reading this as a female I could see many cross connections. The failures and attributes you describe can definitely be seen (and noted) in both. You give very savvy advise on how to meet and make an impression on a perspective mate. I especially, though, appreciated your comments on commitment. So many get caught up in the dating game and that initial flush that they ignore the red flags and plow straight into a horrifying relationship.
Put the same effort into finding the right mate as you would finding your ideal car and follow the advice here! You’ll be miles ahead of most!
Thank you my friend for reading and enjoying my article. Love is like a baseball game, ‘three strikes you out.’ Many emotions and feelings are incorporated into building a relationship. Both people has to want the same things out of life to make things work. He has to understand her needs and vice versa. Only time will tell!
What’s really great about this article is that i can see what qualities i should have, to get someone I’m really compatible with. I’ve messed up a couple of time and it really pissed me off when i start thinking of my past relationships so i gave myself a break, but then, i tried getting back to a new relationship and it looks like i can’t attract a lady anymore, it makes feel more bad. In my last relationship, I did let my insecurities hold her back, and I was sometimes jealous. You’ve given me a lot to think about Ronald, I think your tips will be very useful on my quest for a new and compatible soulmate.
Regards!
You know Jordan, I don’t know why it’s like that in regards to leaving an old relationship, going into a new one. It appears we lose our luster, our desire slowly fades. That’s why it seems difficult to get started again. We have to think back on what went wrong the first time. Once we get back on track, everything will be fine.
another funny yet informative post! I loved the video! tell me did you film it yourself or was it professionally done? I am in the process of explaining to my son that in high school dating was all about the click you were in. But after graduation and upon entering college it become more about what a man can offer as far as financial stability and safety!
….also being a man when it comes to raising kids!
Glad you enjoyed my post and video. Thanks for reading! The video was a pre-prepared video that was given rights to use. Good idea to inform your son on the realities of the dating life. It’s amazing knowing how situations change over time. Things start off cool at the beginning of a relationship, then later….It’s ‘All About The Benjamins!’
Thanks for this article. It got me thinking a lot more about dating and relationships. I have not thought about that as much lately because I am focusing on my career and finances a lot, and area of my life which I would really like to improve.
I think once I am doing a bit better financially then it will be easier to do dating because I guess Financial stability is something that the other person might be looking for.
But I want to thank you for this article because like I said it gave me a lot to think about just in terms of dating and relationships.
Well Charles, not all the ladies are looking for the fat wallet. Some women out there are just looking for kindness, gentleness, understanding and trust to name a few. I guess a ‘fat wallet’ would sweeten things up! But if a woman only looked at me in a financial way (Maybe the only way), then I wouldn’t want her. I’d lose interest quick and ‘kick her to the curb.’
Thank you very much for your post. It is a timely article for me. I got divorced from my wife some while ago and am still in the process of recovering. Your article gives me a lot of tips on how to play the dating game, which soon or late I need to play.
I like your five basic approaches for singles. I always think I am old and it is not appropriate for me to have a date. I am a Chinese and prefer to meet Chinese women. You are right that I need to keep my mind open since there are beautiful types of women in all races. Apparently my divorce has detrimental effects on my relationship with women. My confidence is deteriorated. I see you have “The Confident Man Program”. I am going to do more search on this and try to sign up for a such program.
It is kind of you sharing such powerful information. I think today could be a turn point for me to plan new relationship with women.
Hey Anthony, I know divorces can be tough. Just hold your head up and hang in there! It’s not the end of the world and never too late. (So age has nothing to do with it.) Get back out there, Tony! There’s somebody for everybody! I really, strongly feel the ‘Confident Man’ information will greatly help you. The sooner you get started, the better.
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Really interesting article about love, sex and selecting a compatible mate. You bring a lot of insight into this very important part of life. I loved your tips for singles. A lot of these ideas are common sense but unfortunately sometimes in love, we forget the most important rules and throw common sense out the window, so it’s nice to be reminded again about what’s important. I was really struck by your quote that “so many people are in love and not together and so many people who are together and not in love”, it is so true. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the rest of the world, God knows we need it!
Thank you Highlife101, for reading and enjoying my site. Yes, I lay it all out on the table. I agree that love will have your mind like putty, not being able to think straight. As the song goes; “What the world needs now, is love sweet love..” holds a lot of truth. This may be the solution to are world problems. It’s so sad that we just can’t all get along!
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This is an absolutely accurate post. Many people out there don’t know what they want so instead taking the chance to go for a lady they want, they just sit back convincing themselves that they can’t get her. Most people, both make are female are also truly scared of commitment and like a friend once told me, you’re not mature for a relationship if you’re scared of being committed. I also like that you said that some are in love but not in a relationship and some are in a relationship and not in love. I guess it all boils down to finding that right person and knowing it deep down that this is truly the one for me. Nobody wants to make mistakes there because at a point, it’s not rectifiable. It’s a good post you’ve written there. Awesome stuff
Thank you Henderson for the compliment. Really appreciate it. When people are in love, emotions remind me of a roller coaster, flowing up and down the tracks of life. Some folks can handle it, some can’t, getting very emotional. Some individuals, regardless being man or woman, don’t even know what true love is. You must respect good committed relationships. They are hard to find!
What an insightful article. Your humor kept me intrigued and genuinely interested.
As for the dating game, I have been out of it for many years now, but believe you have hit the nail on the head with this article. We need to remember we are not in a relationship for the short term (hopefully not) but for the long term. You want someone compatible and shares your interests.
I love that you included ways to approach the opposite sex. I am sure you included approaches that others would never think of. It is amazing how many ways you can approach conversations with others. You just need to do it, the more you do it the more it comes natural to you.
Thanks!
I’m glad you enjoyed my article, Wanda. Hopefully, you can pass this valuable information along to others who may benefit from it. Trust along with being compatible & honest is ‘key’ in any relationship. Get it right! A person should go for the long term and be happy (Hopefully)!
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You got a funny and interesting way on explaining things about dating. What I like most, is your real an honest suggestion on how to approach singles. It’s all true in a woman’s point of view – one who’s really interested in dating and not hustling. Being yourself on a date would bring out the best in you. Pretending would lead to lies which is the complete opposite of your goal – to know each other better. Always start with a right foot and good intention. Thanks for sharing your point of view in this matter.
Thank you my friend, for reading and enjoying my article. I try keeping things on a ‘real tip’ and giving my single readers a ‘springboard’ to getting started in the dating world. We all need a platform and I’m hoping I could provide that voice along with action for the single person. Please share my article with others.