By Ronald Kennedy, author

September 30, 2024

Does Problem With Character Affect Self-Esteem?

“The Writing Is On The Wall”

“Self-esteem is confidence in one’s own worth or abilities. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself as well as emotional states, such as triumph, despair, and shame. Don’t let the emotional state regarding the ‘fear of anxiety’ get added to the list.”

It doesn’t matter your sexual preference, but when it boils down to love, dating & relationships, trusting yourself and decisions is ‘key.’ Where good character comes into play, self esteem is needed to sustain it. ‘Being your own person is important!’

You may ask; “Is self-esteem a characteristic?” Psychologists usually regard self-esteem as enduring personality characteristic (trait self-esteem), though normal, short-term variations (state self-esteem) also exist.

“How can you boost your self esteem” you ask? Well, we’ve researched this and list four major components toward establishing one’s own self-worth.

Remember, ‘self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves.’

FOUR IMPORTANT SELF ESTEEM TACTICS.

Self-Esteem Booster #1…(Self-confidence) Making The Most Of Yourself:
Every person is an embryonic God within him/herself. When people go into therapy, they explore their deeper subconscious thoughts and are able to find the divinity within themselves. They discover that there is good within every person.

So the more time you take to honestly evaluate your strengths, as well as your weaknesses, the better you’ll feel about yourself. Even if you’re afraid that your core is negative, don’t despair.

We promise you that it is not. The deeper you go within yourself, the more positive qualities you’ll find.

Self-Esteem Booster #2…Inventory Your Strengths:

It’s time you get to know more about yourself. Take a piece of paper and write down your strengths and weaknesses. Begin with your strengths. Include things that you’ve accomplished, ways in which you feel good about yourself, and things that are potentially good about you.

If you have a problem regarding something that you can change and make better, include it on your improvement list.

It’s helpful to know your negatives and realize that you’re not locked into them. You may not be able to change everything, but just coming face to face with your own limitations is, paradoxically, a strength in itself.
It’s not so much what you have, but how you face what you have and what you are that makes you a strong person.

You may want to divide your list into categories. Include physical appearance, intelligence, personality, vocational qualities, social qualities, and so on.

By looking at the categories, it will probably be easier for you to figure out what your strong points are, as well as weaknesses that you may want to improve.

As you feel more confident and become more aware of your strengths, you will be better able to use these strengths to gain the respect and desire of the one you want.

Part of this evaluation process is to determine the factors that make you unique. Each and every person has special qualities that help make them more desirable to others.

Self-Esteem Booster #3…Be Real In Your Identity:

The more real you are as a person, the easier it is for others to relate to you and become emotionally attached to you. Being real means being honest about your frailties and weakness. (Although we’re not suggesting that you go trumpeting them through the streets!)

Get to know the real you! You are a wonderful human being. Concentrate on that, The real person within you is always easy for others to love. That’s where the expression “To know me is to love me” came from.

The more a person gets to know the real you, the more he/she will feel attracted to you. But this self-analysis may be hard for you. What can you do? Focus on the real strengths that you possess (and everyone has real strengths).

Next, explore those areas that you’d really like to improve, and determine strategies for doing so. You’ll start feeling better almost instantly. In fact, you won’t even have to accomplish all of your goals to feel like a better, more lovable person.

You’ll begin feeling this way as soon as you start getting a grip on your life! Really!

Self-Esteem Booster #4…A Feeling of Belonging:

We all are dreamers and group joiners! We’ve been told at an early age in our lives that we can accomplish anything we put our minds to. Just believe in yourself! In addition, we all belong to several groups: family, friends, school, sports team, etc.

Of course, we also define ourselves by belonging to these groups, by the relationships we have with other people and the experiences we have in these groups.

Over time as we grow and meet new people (especially online) we experience and enjoy a sense of belonging.

The feeling of solidarity, seeking out other group members, sharing and communicating well is what it’s all about.

However, despite everything else, we know that believing in yourself and accepting yourself for who you are is an important factor in success, relationships, and happiness.

Also, self-esteem plays an important role in living a flourishing life. It provides us with belief in our abilities and the motivation to carry them out, ultimately reaching fulfillment as we navigate life a positive outlook.

WHY IS SELF-ESTEEM SO IMPORTANT?

Some people will think about this question and ask “why!” The reason why self-esteem is so important is because it impacts your relationships, your emotional health, and your overall well-being.

It also influences motivation, as people with a healthy, positive view of themselves understand their potential and may feel inspired to take on new challenges.

“Just always keep in mind that self-esteem is a positive or negative orientation toward one’s worth or value. People are motivated to have high self-esteem, and having it indicates positive self-regards, NOT egotism.” 

WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM ISSUES?

Also, many folks wonder what do the experts mean by, “Self-Esteem Issues?” “How does low self-esteem affect us?”

If you have low self-esteem or confidence, you may hide yourself away from social situations, stop trying new things, and avoid things you find challenging. In the short term, avoiding challenging and difficult situations might make you feel safe.

Don’t let your ‘low self-esteem’ bring on anxiety attacks! You start to worry about not getting your act together. All issues can easily be resolved with the right direction and guidance.