How To Handle The Pre-Date Phone Call – 6 Steps Will Show You How It’s Done.

Ronald Kennedy

Publish Date: June 6, 2021

Updated: February 19, 2022

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“As a rule, call when you want to hear your date’s voice, when you’re upset, and when you plan on talking for a few minutes or longer.

On the other hand, text to say hello, good morning, or good night, or to make specific plans that don’t require an actual phone conversation.”

In This Article:

Step 1) Be honest regarding purpose of call.

Step 2) Why it’s important to leave message.

Step 3) Why it’s a Big ‘No-No’ to call their job.

Step 4) Don’t be a ‘pesky’ repeated caller. 

Step 5) Keep track of the clock. Be mindful of the time.

Step 6) Make sure you have a ‘clear head’ before calling.

Don’t Play Games With Folks!

Making that first call can be scary! (I do find people rather text than make an actual call).  Signs of the times. Texting vs calling? Which do you like more? But whatever your choice; Don’t play games! How to handle the pre-date phone call is the first step!

If you took somebody’s number and said you were going to call them, then do it. Call them!

Everyone can agree they’ve been played by that game before. In addition, don’t wait a week just to show you aren’t desperate. Two to three days is the optimal time frame to wait before calling someone. See this amazing video now, “Text The Romance Back 2.0”

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“Older gentlemen combining business with pleasure.”

But women really love it when the guy calls the very next day.

It’s flattering and shows that he really is interested and is secure enough to not have to play games.

If you’re really not planning on calling that person, don’t take the number just to be nice.

How to handle the pre-date phone call is something you should organize in your mind, before even picking up the cell. You wait to long, your nerves will start to kick in, then you’ll be wondering, “How to Manage your relationship.”

Not calling is rude and that person deserves honesty, rather than waiting by the phone for a call you know isn’t coming.

People Are Starting To Mingle Face-to-Face.

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“After texting for months, couple finally meet in person”

Folks are ditching the face mask! In person, face-to-face meetings are back again.

People mingle and meet now where ever appropriate.

Always keep in mind, when it boils down to setting up a pre-date phone call, it’s not always initiated by the man.

Many anxious women also will make that call first too.

But regardless of whoever makes the call first, it should be done in a respectable and timely manner. (You don’t want to piss the other person off before you even get a chance to get things finalized).

Six Pre-Date Mobile Call Tips, Used By Both Men & Women!

Step 1) Be honest regarding purpose of call.

When you get someone on the phone, be honest with them as to why you are calling. Don’t lead them on! If it’s their friend you are interested in, tell them.

Or if it’s a connection in your company that you want, tell them that’s the only reason for the call.

Don’t make a date if you’re really not interested. Try to be as honest with them as you can. Don’t say you’re busy if you’re not.

If you don’t want to get together, then tell them that you don’t. It’s better to hurt someone in the beginning than to lead them on. This applies to both sexes!

Step 2) Why it’s important to leave message.

If the person isn’t home, leave a message on their cell (Voice or text). Don’t just hang up before the voice message ends, like an idiot. You know all cell phones have caller ID.

They will eventually see it, know it’s you and figured you just ‘wimped out!’

Leave a short, brief message. Don’t get cutesy on the phone and ‘blow it’ for your ass. Just leave something simple and direct. If she’s really interested, she’ll see your number in her caller ID and call u back.

Step 3) Why it’s a Big ‘No-No’ to call their job.

Don’t make your initial call to her when she’s at work, unless she tells you in advance it’s ok. Many employers don’t allow employees to chat on line or do personal calling during work hours.

This could create tension between their employer and your ass with him/her for calling at the wrong time.

Step 4) Don’t be a ‘pesky’ repeated caller.

If the first call isn’t returned, you can leave a maximum of one message two to three days later. That gives them a little leeway if they were swamped at work or out of town. After that, don’t call anymore! Don’t be in denial.

(I personally use my own ‘Ron 3 step rule’: within the first 3 days, ‘two texts and a phone call.’ If no response back, to hell with them and keep it moving).

This person probably isn’t going to call you and most likely is NOT interested. Don’t keep calling – they’ll think you’re a stalker.

Step 5) Keep track of the clock. Be mindful of the time.

Not everyone stays up to watch “Stupid Pet Tricks” on the old ‘Jay Leno Tonight’ show some years back. (I still remember his show. He’s retired now.)

About 9pm is the latest to call someone, (Depending on their time zone) and don’t call any earlier than 10am on weekdays and 11am on weekends (They may work, so it’s important to be respectable of time).

Step 6) Make sure you have a ‘clear head’ before calling.

Make sure you are in a good frame of mind to call someone. Don’t call someone while you’re trying to read emails or come across a tax audit notice in the regular mail delivery & get pissed off.

In Conclusion

Just remember my friend. Getting that person on the phone is only half the battle. Now that you’ve got their ear, what the heck do you do? What do you talk about? Really that’s up to you. (Just relax and don’t fire off a bunch of questions.)

But most importantly, don’t keep someone on the phone too long! You don’t have to let them know about you whole life story before the date even starts! (Hell! That’s what the damn date is for!)

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Ronald Kennedy

A relationship expert handling any issue, Ron say's "No problem is too big or small." (My door is always open!) Also Ron is a comedy writer, (Wrote a book entitled, "How To Select a Compatible Mate.") A cartoonist and oil painter who studied at the Art institute of Chicago in 1980, Ron later decided to take a different career path. In 1997, he attended Harold Washington College and majored in hearing disabilities around the globe. (Go to https://babydosign.com and read some very interesting articles regarding children with hearing disabilities.) Ron's been working successfully online since 2004 and enjoyed helping others succeed along the way! Follow me on Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram and Twitter.

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