How To Find Love After Divorce – Folks Seek Their Soul Mate

How To Find Love After Divorce - Folks Seek Their Soul Mate


Although Divorced, Love Still Can Be Found.

It All Came To An End!


You just can’t believe it has happened! It all comes crashing down. After dealing with courts, lawyers and lots of other paperwork, you now find yourself ‘free at last.’ Maybe not by choice. For 20 years you’ve tried keeping the home together, but things just didn’t go as planned.

You felt you’ve done your part. You also think to yourself, “You’re damn sure glad no children wasn’t involved.” The next time you hope to see the inside of a courtroom and that is to support a friend. 

Now that you’re free, you try getting back ‘into the swing of things.’ Friends call, you start hanging out, but you’re a little stiff and out of practice! Three years now have past. How to find love after divorce is at the forefront of your mind.    

Can I Find Love After Divorce? Folks Find Their Soul Mate.
                       Remembering Happier Times

You start thinking about other couples that break up and afterwards, eventually find a new love interest who makes them happy.

After your few years of freedom, you do admit to yourself that you do miss having ‘that special someone’ in your life.

You know that ‘special’ person is out there, but after what you’ve been through, you sure in hell is not in any rush!



Rough Starting Out


Now here you are! Out in the ‘free world’ thinking, “What the hell do I do now?” Things aren’t the same as they were over 20 years ago. Meeting others still wasn’t that easy though. (You never realized how many crazy ass people there were out here).

But It could’ve been that you still had your ex on your mind.)

Being fresh on the scene, you really tried getting to know different individuals you’d run across, friends having set you up. Blind dates, (Oh boy! You experienced all the channels).

But that same feeling just wasn’t there. There’s a certain feeling that you get when you meet someone, that’s hard to explain.

A feeling only you can understand. Only you can describe. (You got that same feeling when you met your ex for the first time.)

So far those you’ve met are so transparent. The excitement of the single life is starting to wear thin! You now want to meet someone that you can really get into. Someone where you’ll both understand each other. Someone you can feel good about.

You figure three years is enough! You’re exhausted! You kind of miss being married, but don’t want to deal with all the bullshit that usually comes with it.

Jealousy, insecurity, lying, cheating, infidelity is what comes along in an unstable marriage. But as long as you’re with the right person, then these are issues that could be worked out.      


Getting A Good Vibe 


Communication is ‘key’ in any relationship! This was something you and your ex was lacking. (The only way it seem that you and your ex communicated, was when you were at each other throats.) 

Can I Find Love After Divorce? Folks Find Their Soul Mate
                       Young Couple In Love

Marriage could be a great thing, once two parties are comfortable with each other and enjoy the same interest.

But if you are going in one direction and your spouse in the other, then    things in your marriage will never work.

One afternoon, while sitting in your favorite restaurant having lunch, you notice a ‘person who’s interesting’ over at the next table.

You both make eye contact. (You try keeping your anxiousness to a minimum.)  You feel this is the break you’ve been waiting for that could change your boring life. No more dealing with the dating scene (At least you hope). 

You would really like to get to know this person (Besides eye contact has already been established!)  Now you think it’s just a matter of ‘making that move.’

You finally found someone, but still worried about this person ending up being a ‘dud!’ You start thinking to yourself, “I’ve found that special someone I’ve been searching for all my life!”

You’re just ecstatic and thinking, “Boy! I still got it.” Going through different people after your divorce can be exhausting. As any human actions would be after ‘reeling from a divorce’, we all go through rough times meeting the opposite sex (or in some cases, the same sex, but that’s another story).

Nothing Is Guaranteed In Life But Death & Taxes


But regardless of how any relationship turns out after a chance meeting and possible connection, remember NOTHING is guaranteed in life!

All relationships aren’t perfect. You may find yourself drifting apart from one another.  This feeling of ‘drifting apart’ seem to only occur when your significant other constantly gives you the 3rd degree every time you leave the house.

Some folks just like putting the pressure on the other, just for the hell of it. (If you end up with an ‘asshole,’ it’s bound to happen).

When you’re on your phone, they want to know who you talking to?  Are you dealing with a fearful spouse or partner in your relationship who constantly display bouts of jealousy and insecurity?

If so, I recommend that you face the issue and deal with it as soon as possible by undertaking these task:

Task #1 – Identify the source of the situation


There was an interview conducted between couples to help them identify any possible behavior that might justify this type of attitude. Just getting started is a big issue. An issue that can get well out of hand if not contained.

The question was addressed to the accuser; “Do you have a reason for displaying this type of action? If so, what are those reasons?”

Many times the answer was always the same; one partner has violated the others trust. And if violations of trust have occurred, the suspecting person has a tendency to wonder, “Is he or she being truthful? Is he or she being straightforward with me?” Once burned, twice careful.

This situation means that the couple does, in fact, have issues to work through. A deeper dialogue may be important – perhaps with a therapist or a pastoral counselor present as a guide.

Depending on how far out the couple is in regards to restoring calm within the relationship, a professional person still may have a hard time getting a handle on things.

Can I Find Love After Divorce? Folks Find Their Soul Mate
        Betrayed woman wondering “what’s next?”

Without some type of guidance when problems brew, your relationship will surely suffer.

Once you identify the sources of your miss-trust, you have to move into new territory: the territory of trust. Remember, this is No dating game. This is some serious shit!

For the person who is the object of miss-trust, this means making sure that you never give your partner a new reason to be worried. You have to “walk the straight and narrow path” to reestablish trust.

For the miss-trusting person, the goal is to realize how much harm he or she is doing to the relationship by being so worried. Even though you’ve entered a relationship that is exclusive, you both still need a certain amount of freedom – a certain amount of room to grow and to develop and to be yourself.

Task #2 – Grasp the damage that ‘non-trust’ can do


If you are coping with this suspicious behavior, you need to grasp as soon as possible that this emotion will damage your relationship in the long term. Non-trust can’t do any good for the relationship. It can even effect you mentally.

You’re dealing with a ‘demon’ – what Shakespeare called “the green-eyed monster.” This monster will destroy relationships every single time!

This monster can attack and even devour your whole relationship if you allow it to. So if you don’t deal with it head-on, this ‘green-eyed monster’ can ultimately ruin what you and your partner are trying to build together. (Going down the same track together, is a better way to put it.)

Do you realize that this attitude demonstrates that you don’t have a very mature relationship? A relationship that can become ‘unraveled’ in no time and ‘more rocky’ as time goes on.

Can I Find Love After Divorce? Folks Find Their Soul Mate
                  Live-in partners out shopping

Because when you have a mature relationship, there’s a sense of freedom, of trust, of willingness to let the other person be.

Let your spouse develop. Otherwise, you’re clinging to a rather adolescent attitude.

Here’s another important question that you should ask yourself: Does the person you’ve married belong to you as a thing you own? Or is he or she a gift you’ve received?

 Your husband or wife is autonomous – a separate person. If you perceive the other person as a thing – an object you own – it’s not only a false assumption, it also suffocates the other person.

Think back to a time when you dealt with someone you deemed no good, and expressed how you felt to that person. Now answer these questions about what resulted from that situation:

  • How did your partner or spouse react?
  • What was the outcome of the situation?
  • Looking back now, did you have cause for the miss-trust?
  • What were the circumstances?
  • Can you see now how you might have misinterpreted the situation?
  • Did your expression of insecurity strengthen your relationship-or weaken it?
  • Did your expression of miss-trust deepen communication between you and your partner – or make it more likely that he or she would hold back from you?

As you think over the answers to these questions, I think you’ll probably agree that your expression of jealousy probably had the opposite effect from what you may intended or desired. Instead of fostering closeness, it probably became a wedge that drove you and your spouse apart.

Instead of encouraging your partner to confide in you, it probably prompted him or her to hold back from you. Not trusting isn’t a force that strengthens a couple’s relationship. On the contrary, it’s often a “solvent” that loosens the ties between the partners.

Task #3 – Learn to deal with jealousy


Next, you need to face this problem head-on and deal with it. This task involves two separate actions – one for the worried and concerned partner or spouse, another for the person that is the object of miss-trust.

Can I Find Love After Divorce? Folks Find Their Soul Mate

If you are the worried or concerned spouse…Next time you feel that green-eyed monster rear its ugly head, stop and ask yourself the following questions:

  • Why am I feeling this way? What am I afraid of?
  • Has my partner given me a reason to fear this?
  • Could there be another explanation for his/her behavior?
  • Are there ways I can cope with my uncertainties that are better than subjecting my partner to my worries and concerns?

Answering these questions will help you widen the scope of your insights so that you don’t fall into habitual accusing. Unless it’s just in your blood, and this is some ‘form of entertainment’ for you; making others life miserable.

If you’re dealing with an accusing person… ask yourself these questions the next time you’re confronted with a series of concerned questions from your spouse or partner.

  • Why would my spouse feel this way? What is he/she afraid of?
  • Did I do anything to contribute to this fear?
  • What can I do to ease this fear in the future?
  • Are there ways we can discuss the situation so that we can diminish the risk of my partner’s habitual ‘drilling ‘ me.

Task#4 – Consider the possibility that accusing is part of a bigger problem


 Sometime insecurities can be part of what’s called obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). This disorder can be a serious mental health problem – a disorder in which obsessive thoughts and/or compulsive behaviors plague you.

Can I Find Love After Divorce? Folks Find Their Soul Mate

An example of this would be a husband who can’t stop obsessing over his wife or partner’s whereabouts and activities, or whose compulsively tracks her movements, phone calls, or e-mail. No one wants a ‘a non-trusting partner or spouse.

Think about how many times you saw on your local news station or read a news feed on your cell phone about a guy getting suspicious of his woman cheating?

She may not be. She may clearly be innocent.

But this dude has built up images in his mind of his lady with another guy. He mentally goes off ‘the deep end’ and takes his woman’s life. (Some even go as far as to take the children’s life as well.)

I just heard a story like this recently, on my local news station. I feel so bad and angry too when children are involved.

Now with early intervention, that situation may not ever have gotten to that point. His mental health could have been evaluated way ahead of time; thus avoiding disaster. So sad!

Sometimes OCD is the result of personal trauma in the past. There may also be a biochemical aspect to the disorder.

If you believe that you (or your spouse) may be suffering from OCD, I urge you to seek professional mental health counseling. This disorder isn’t a situation that should cause you feelings of shame; it’s a genuine health problems, not a moral failing.

It isn’t your fault. But it is a situation that you can’t ignore, and you must address it as soon as possible.

Speak with your physician or call a referral service to find a mental health professional, or else raise the issue with your pastor.

“Remember, help for your significant other is right around the corner.”

Long dark brown hair. Sexy exotic eyes. Nice ruby red lips. Magnificent body!  Then just like that,…WHAM!! Alarm clock goes off. Time to go to work! (I got to stop watching that damn porn before bedtime!)LOL.

I emerged from that deep dream state with a smile on my face. Shit felt so real!

Sexual Orientation Should Not Matter


Can I Find Love After Divorce? Folks Find Their Soul Mate

Regardless, when it boils down to relationships, I always say no matter if it’s man and woman or same sex couple, it doesn’t matter! Love is Love…no matter how you look at it! There’s someone for everybody!

Can I Find Love After Divorce? Folks Find Their Soul Mate

One of the biggest self-improvements that I’ve made in my life is finally selecting the right mate.

The woman that would eventually become my wife!

Since I found the right woman and started building a relationship in regards to this growing process, I had to know to keep the peace within the home.

Having now someone I’m compatible with eases all pain of loneliness, and replaces it with joy and happiness.

Never Turn Down Positive Guidance In Your Life:


Follow these guidelines: Don’t Rush In You know that when you get yourself in too deep fast, this level of involvement makes you panic when the fantasy lifts.

Can I Find Love After Divorce? Folks Find Their Soul Mate
                   Enjoying A New Happy Life

You have to keep reminding yourself of how badly you react when relationships start to get real. Now-a-day, sex doesn’t matter.

Same sex couples have the right to be in love to, just like anyone else.

You also need to think more about how your behavior is making the other person feel.

Your breakneck pace sets up a whirlwind. If it doesn’t scare your love interest away, it’s so compelling; it can only provide the basis for an enormous fall.

As a man, it’s always in your favor to try staying on her good side. You  figure keeping the peace at home, for as long as you can will cause less problems.

Remember, there’s one very simple way out of this: SLOW DOWN. Take your time. Let the intimacy develop gradually.

Think before you leap. Avoid breakneck courtships and start evaluating a relationship step by step as it’s developing.

Trying to find folks ‘on the re-bound’ only means being with someone who can fill the void after they  have being dumped!  Sometimes hooking up way too quickly is not good!

Time must be taken out to know him or her. The only thing on your mind is being lonely again! But let’s face it, it’s more than just a lonely thing. You get a little horny as well! This is your brain on sex and really, at the moment, that’s all that’s important!

Careful consideration must be in order, when selecting that perfect mate. Certain expectations must be met. (Just don’t get too picky. No one’s perfect. 

The process of finding someone who’s nice and maybe a little interesting, can become a big task but is very doable. Doable….and fun!!

Don’t Give Partners Unrealistic Expectations


Hopeful Couple Wondering If They Have A Future: You have to understand the weight of your words. Words are important and how you use them.

Phrases such as “I’ve never met anyone like you before,” “I’m never this attracted to anyone,” and “I can’t wait for you to meet my sister – the two of you will really get along,” are incredibly seductive.

Can I Find Love After Divorce? Folks Find Their Soul Mate

They evoke a feeling of specialty that encourages your partner to have high expectations as well as placing heavy pressure on you to come through with a commitment. Sure, romance is fun.

But to many people romance means love, and love mean marriage. Watch your words.

If you use words that convey caring and the promise of a future, the other person may respond accordingly.

Certain phrases can cause even a first date’s attitude toward you to change totally – sometimes from casual to “overboard” in a single evening.  


Don’t Make Things Worse For Yourself


Don’t Misrepresent Your Romantic History Or Your Romantic Attitude Don’t make it sound as though your previous relationships ended because your ex-partners were somehow lacking.

It’s important that you accept responsibility for your participation and learn as much as you can from it. Blaming your execs can also deceive your new partner, Someone who likes you is going to want to accept what you say at face value.

If you tell someone, “Your different,” he/she wants to believe you. If you say, “I want this relationship to be different,” or, “I think this relationship can be different,” he/she wants to share that hope.

Don’t convey attitudes without thinking about what you are saying. For example, if you mean “We don’t know each other well enough to have sex, “don’t say, “I would never go to bed with anyone unless I was certain the relationship is going to work out.”

Otherwise the moment you go to bed, your partner is going to assume it means a long-term commitment. Keep in mind that at this stage you have no idea how the relationship will work out. You may want it to be different, but wanting is not enough.

Just Try Keeping Your Act Together


Until you are totally sure, avoid implying anything that can confuse your partner about your past or your intentions for the present – or the future.

Can I Find Love After Divorce? Folks Find Their Soul Mate

Don’t Knock Yourself Out Trying To Impress A Potential Partner When you pull out all the stops to make an impression, your actions are saying,

“This relationship is very important to me; I want to make it work.”

That may be true right now, but how will you feel in six weeks or six months?

Today you are overwhelmingly interested; tomorrow you may just feel overwhelmed. Everyone has a different method of impressing dates. What are yours? Do you share the most intimate details of your life right away?

If you do, your partner can’t help but think you are already clear about your intentions for developing a very sharing and exclusive relationship. Do you spend excessively on restaurants, gifts, or trips? Do you cook wonderful meals or bring elegant gifts?

All of this makes it appear that you’re taking the relationship very seriously, and it puts a lot of pressure on you to keep delivering. The reality is that you can’t possibly be ready for something this serious this soon.

Your behavior needs to reflect this fact. If you have a history of eventually being haunted by everything you gave in the beginning, it’s time to become comfortable with giving less.

No one, who’s interested in you is going to walk away because you didn’t tell them your deepest, darkest secrets during your first phone call or take them to Paris on your first date.


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  1. Chris says:

    Hi Ronald,

    Such levity on a website is refreshing! However, I was lost on what your post was actually about. What was I to take from that post – as a male? Also, I feel your site is a catering toward a male demographic, since you are a male writing from your own perspective, with that said, your site seems a bit feminine in art style, as if you are catering toward a female demographic. Am I incorrect?

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Chris, and thanks for commenting. I try appealing to both sexes. All men have a soft or feminine side in them. A caring side. Although most would deny it, figuring it may damage their macho status. I guess my caring and softer side comes out in my posting of images. Some my post are written strictly for women, and some for men. One or two may hang in the balance and could go either way, depending on who’s reading. I hope this offer some clarity.

  2. Blame says:

    Many years ago, I did look for love on a rebound. It was my first ex and it was painful to watch her leave me. That’s why I quickly wanted to move on to the next relationship so I don’t feel so alone watching everybody else matching themselves in pairs. As years pass by I also realized that that’s not the right thing to do, because I haven’t learned anything from the first relationship and I moved my problems to the next one. Thanks for the golden words my friend.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you Blame for commenting. Ah yes, those painful past relationships! So hard to let go, but life goes on. I’ve always said there’s ‘somebody for for everyone.’ Just have patience, it’ll come. Blame, I don’t know how your current relationship status is, but I also offer helpful information that could change your whole life around. “Make woman want you” is one I strongly recommend. Blame, If you feel that you ‘have it altogether’ and don’t need this, please pass this link and site, along to someone you feel it can help. Let me know how it goes.

  3. SaM says:

    Man I really enjoy your articles. This one pretty serious and truthful. And again there is the funny part as well. You have described very well the main points on dating. I like that you do not censor yourself and write from the heart. I laughed a lot about how tough it is to be a man with eyes when women breasts are around. Very thoughtful. You covered all the controversial aspects of dating between men and women. And at the end what I liked most is that it becomes clear that it was a true story written in even a better way! Great! Keep doing your thing! You are definitely good at it!

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thanks again Sam for your kind words. There’s no sense in pulling punches and sugar coating a topic so real. Even when I expose my serious side,I still like to include a ‘splash’ of humor just to keep things light. Thank again for reading. Let me know if I can help you with anything. Sam, I also offer incredible information on my site, in regards to helping people seek love, compassion, and romance from the opposite sex.

  4. Deb says:

    Did you do the cartoon on your page Ron? I loved it 🙂 I had a very long marriage, (27 years) and then a 6 year relationship before finding my current husband and love of my life. I found both my previous partner and my husband online, relatively quickly. I think honesty was the most important thing. So many people try to find their “perfect” mate and then think they have to make themselves appear better than they are to “catch them”. I did that with my first husband and was very unhappy for a lot of that 27 years. With the second two relationships I was myself and just let the relationships develop naturally and they have both been much more successful.

    I think it’s lovely that you are trying to help people be more successful at finding relationships. A good relationship is the icing on top of life 🙂

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you Deb for your kind words and comments. All the artwork was done by me except for the ‘office love monkey’ & ‘the frogs’ from the other page. I love cartooning and been drawing for many years. I’m glad you were comfortable enough to share your past story. I see you’ve been through some changes. The great thing about it all is that you finally found ‘the love of your life.’ Congrats to you. A good solid relationship, filled with honesty, is the icing on the cake. Thank you again for stopping by Deb.

      Deb, If you feel my site can help someone you know, along with the material I offer here, please feel free to pass this info along.

  5. Daniel says:

    I personally found it very difficult to meet the perfect partner. In fact it took me over ten years to meet my wife. There are ups and downs in every relationship and if I am honest there are things I would like to change (but only small things). However, my wife also has so many strong qualities as well. So people should always bare in mind that if things are not perfect, then neither are they and we should all learn to tolerate those little imperfections.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Daniel and thanks for dropping by. I guess everyone don’t get it right the first time (including myself.) It’s good to know now you’ve found the ‘love of your life.’ I agree there are issues that arise among long standing couples and no relationship is perfect. What’s needed is to resolve things right away as they develop and not let things get to far out of hand. Couples should make sure they are on the same page when it comes down to making important decisions. Daniel, let me know if you have any questions. I’ll be happy to assist you.

  6. Salvatore V Jenkins Jr. says:

    This was definitely a good read and the just of it was all true. I think even after we find the one we feel connected to or love there is still judgement and we just can’t help ourselves we are only human.

    However at the end of the day in my opinion it’s about finding a friend that is willing to put up with your bad habits and you can deal with theirs’. Amongst all this both of you entertain each other and enjoy each others company.

    Good Article!

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you Salvatore for commenting. Most folks don’t seem to realize that you first must become friends with your potential mate, before you become lovers. This action is what makes a strong and solid relationship. I agree with you Salvatore on the part about judging our mate. It seems no mater how long together, there’s still certain instances where you’re judging the others decision on particular matters.

      But for the most part, at the end of the day, it’s all good. Glad you enjoyed the article. So my friend, how’s your love life? I also offer some valuable and helpful info on my site. I strongly recommend you read this report, “How To Become An Alpha Male” by John Alexander, Again, thanks for checking in. Please share my site with others.

  7. Charlotte says:

    I came across this post whilst browsing, and wow this really made me laugh. What you said is so true of so many relationships – especially finding someone on the rebound!
    I think the most important part of any relationship is sticking with it, understanding the person is different from you and accepting them and loving them for who they are. If you are always out looking for the ‘perfect’ one, you’ll never find them.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you Charlotte for running across my site. i guess It’s much better than you not seeing it at Glad you enjoyed the article. It’s amazing that after a hard breakup between couples, you figure somewhere down the line you’ll be picked up on the rebound. No effort will be placed on your part in regards to establishing a serious search. Compatibility is what’s ‘Key’ in any relationship. Second is trust.

      Some folks end up with losers from the start, then try sticking it out because the thought was put into their mind, they won’t find anyone else if they leave the relationship. So sad. But sometime things will work out for the better. Again Charlotte, thanks for commenting. Let me know if I can help you with anything else.

  8. Farhan says:

    It’s so true when you talk about people desperately looking for a replacement right after a horrible break up. I guess this isn’t the healthiest approach, as you are not trying to get to know your new partner inside out.

    And yeah, men have testosterone for a reason. As a man, I can definitely vouch for that. I think women instinctively know this as well, I mean, just look at how much they put on themselves just to be attractive.

    Another great article. Keep it up!

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you Farhan for commenting. In every relationship, things don’t always go as planned. There are gonna be ups and downs! When that big breakup hits, there you go; rushing to find that replacement. Some men and women, feel the need that they gotta have someone in their lives. (of course, like you said, never really having a good opportunity to know the person). You jump from the frying pan into the fire.

      And as far as men are concerned when it comes to the female anatomy, hey, they got those hot body parts for a reason! They go to great lengths to please. They love the attention!

      Thank you for checking in Farhan. Let me know if I could assist you with anything else.

  9. Ariel Baradarian says:

    You wrote something very important in the beginning. Correct me if I’m wrong, but you wrote that the problem with many relationships is that the guys and girls sometimes date initially because they get physically attracted to each other without seeing each other’s personalities, interests, goals, etc. As an Orthodox Jew who used to not be religious, I see the value of dating without physical contact (or limited) before marriage to solve this problem. When you limit the physical part, you are forced to focus on the person his/herself. You have to see them who they are, and it makes the relationship deeper and more meaningful.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you Ariel for checking in and commenting. As I stated before, a lot of folks that have been involved in long-term relationships and then suddenly over time, it’s over, they jump into another too fast. Many just can’t deal with the fact of being lonely. Never mind where their head is at, in regards to that ‘new person.’ They just gotta have someone in their life!

      They figure, as time go on, they’ll eventually get inside there new mate’s head and understand their likes, and dislikes, goals, what turns them on, etc; On the surface, they appear to be just what the doctor order, but underneath, they may not be what that person is really looking for. I agree, we all look for a deep and long lasting relationship from within, but there’s no guarantee things will necessarily turn out that way. Do you agree?

      Thank you my friend, for commenting. Let me know if you have any other questions or concerns.

  10. Thia says:

    Whaha, you have a very unique writing style – very engaging and keeps one wondering what’s coming next.

    But, yes, sometimes I just cannot understand why men and women were created to be so different! Because of this I decided to keep my life uncomplicated and just pass.

    But it is quite entertaining having the ring seat in all the relationship issues between men and women.

    For everyone else out there, hope you find what you are looking for in a partner!

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Thia. Thanks for checking in and commenting. It sounds to me Thia, is that you’re ‘throwing in the towel’ regarding the relationship and dating scene. There’s always somebody for everybody. But with men seeking a certain type just as women, there’s that middle position that eventually erupts when two heads meet. No one seems to be satisfied with the out come. So the search continues. Playing it safe with no complications Thia, is the way to go!

      Again Thia, wanna thank you for dropping by. Let me know if I can assist you with anything else.

  11. Jen says:

    I wasn’t sure to laugh, roll my eyes, or take this article seriously. It had plenty of funny parts, so you definitely made me laugh at all the different personalities you mention. I think men are much lonelier when they are out of a relationship than women, particularly as I’ve seen from experience. They need a relationship and they need sex, and they are relentless!

    I’ve not been in a relationship for over 5 years now and I’m not lonely, nor am I even looking for a relationship at this point. I truly love my independence. It’s also amazing when you are single, you find many kindred souls – other people (mostly women) that find they don’t need a relationship either.

    IMO, dating is totally overrated. Men love ogling beautiful women and women love shopping (including online) – you are spot on! What a great read – thank you for the entertainment!!

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hello Jen. Thank you for dropping in. I’m glad you enjoyed my writing Jen. I always try to instill humor when I write and at the same time, touch on the truth. I like folks to view a subject in a lighthearted way, but take it to heart. If someone say they got a good chuckle from my article, then I feel I’ve accomplished my goal.

      When it comes down to the single man or woman searching for their ‘soul mate’, the lonely mind-set can be a drawback. What I mean by this, depending on the length of time you’ve been flying solo, your search efforts seem not as urgent. You carry this mind-set that you’ll never find anyone, so therefore your search isn’t that swift.

      Jen, do you think that’s what you and your lady friends been going through over the past 5 years? When I view your pic Jen, you appear to be a nice looking woman, so I know you’re not single because of looks. Other personal issues’ perhaps? I don’t know. I always say there’s ‘somebody for everybody!’

      There are plenty of single (and lonely) dudes are here that would love to make a hook up with a beautiful woman. You mentioned as men, we gotta have a good relationship with plenty of hot sex! (..Yes,Yes)! But when it comes down to venturing out into the dating world, one must be careful about selecting the proper mate. Someone they plan on spending the rest of their life with.

      Again Jen, thanks for commenting. Let me know if I can help with anything else.

  12. Brandon says:

    Wow, thanks for writing such a funny, informative, and helpful article. You really covered so many aspects of dating, and finding someone who is compatible for you. I like what you wrote about rebounding, and how it is a good idea to be patient before you start hooking up with new people. Like you said, finding someone who is compatible to you will make life a whole lot easier!

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you Brandon. I’m glad you enjoyed it. Although I wrote on a comical theme, I hope you still found some value in this post. When I write, I try covering as much ground as I can, touching on issues that affect the single man or woman.

      Sometime the dating scene can be a ‘rough jungle.’ Everybody’s out trying to get what they can. Most really not giving a damn about who they hurt! These, sometimes, are the type that’ll use you. Play you like a fiddle!…especially when they know they’ve got you on the rebound. You’re vulnerable to anything. Move to fast, you lose!

      But don’t get me wrong, there are some good, honest and caring people out there. Like I stated in my post, just have to be patient. I always say it’s a feeling you get within you, when you meet someone. You’ll know. Sadly, most don’t wait for that ‘feeling’….and those are the ones that get burnt.

      Thanks again Brandon for checking in. Let me know if I can help you with anything else.

  13. Maria says:

    Before I started dating my current husband I had a long list of qualities written down that my future boyfriend should have, including non-smoker. But interestingly all things on the list lost their meaning when I fell in love. I didn’t even let it bother too much that he smoked.

    But now after 10 years together I have started to think that maybe I should have kept that list close to me and made sure that at least on third of the qualities were met. I think now that having something in common could make things a lot easier…

    So, having a checklist of the most important things you value is important, even though I don’t know how to keep it in real life because as you say, the looks are the first thing to be noticed.

    by the way, I totally understand that men can’t help look the boobs and I actually do it myself too, but not while talking to that person.

    Thank you for this interesting post even though I didn’t always get your humor but you have a very particular way to write.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you for commenting Maria. I guess you can say my writing style is ‘one of a kind’. No one can touch it! Lol. I like to invoke a touch of humor in everything I write, regardless of the subject. Everyone has there own ‘game plan’ and technique when it comes down to dating the opposite sex.

      You held on to your beliefs regarding your list, and what you were looking for in a guy. Regarding your ‘likes and dislikes’ once love kicked in, that list went ‘out the window.’ (That’s what love will do, Maria).

      But Maria, after 10 years with this person, your bound to get used to the bad habits you once opposed. In your mind, maybe you still want change, but remember Maria, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. Men will be men! Some will always have the ‘roving eye’. When they see a girl with ‘big knockers’, the tongue starts drooling and the mind starts working ‘over-time’.

      But there are some dudes out there, who’ll see a ‘nice pair’ on some pretty young lady and don’t give it a second thought. (…and I can guarantee you, he’s on his way to meet his ‘boyfriend’).

      Thanks again Maria, for dropping by. Let me know if I can assist you further with anything.   

  14. manor says:

    What a nice site. I really loved the categories. they are really practical.

    I usually find it difficult to know what I am looking for and categories help me to narrow my search. however not always I can find the right categories I am looking for like I found here. thanks for sharing

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi manor and thanks for checking in. Glad you enjoyed my article. As far as the dating scene goes, it’s a crazy world out there and people everyday are always out seeking their soul mate.

      In regards to the categories on my site, I try and break things down which I feel will best suit all and any couple seeking a ‘hookup.’ Being active and utilizing the different categories is a step in the right direction for the lonely hearts.

      You mentioned having difficulties searching and not exactly knowing what they want. (I have a friend know going through the same thing). I offer my guidance and support. I was thinking Manor maybe you need to look at this book; this my give you a jump start on things. Let me know what you think? Click on the link, my friend:Thanks for checking in Manor. Let me know if i can assist you further.

  15. Dagda says:

    Thankfully I have found the one I love so I do not need anymore help with the situation. One thing I would like is for more of my friends to find love.

    I think they would benefit from using this site and learning more about the magical ways of love. I appreciate that it is never easy but what worth fighting for rarely is.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Dagda and thank you for commenting. Being in love is a wonderful thing! You are one of the blessed ones that found the love of your life. Congrats to you! (I would imagine many guys would love to be in your place and experience true happiness.)

      When it boils down to dealing with true love and relationships a lot of people, men and women, don’t know if they have a good thing or not. They always think the grass is greener on the other side. Maybe they’re looking for love in all the ‘wrong places?’

      That last line made me think of one of my friends I grew up with. He’s been searching for love for the past 20 years, and still haven’t found nobody. (Over the years, the only relationship he has ever had, are with women no decent guy would want). Straight from ‘crack head heaven’! lol.

      Off and on, I try to give him advice on how he should handle things when it comes to dealing with relationships and what it takes to start one. If you have friends in need of settling in for long-term romances, first they should get to know a person first. But Dagda, wouldn’t it be great if there was a system a seeker could use BEFORE ever meeting the opposite sex? Wah-La, I created such a system! 

      I put together a downloadable eBook comedy, which touches on descriptive profiles of the sexes. It’s entitled; “How to Select a Compatible Mate.” Here’s a sample of a couple of characters. You can check it out to give yourself a good laugh. Also, share this link with all your friends. Here is is:Again, thank you my friend for checking in. Let me know if I can do anything else for you.


  16. Marius Nel says:

    Oh, I have to agree with your pointing out finding love on the rebound. It is very, very seldom that, that l relationship is going to be anything more than physical.

    I speak from experience, twice I went through it and twice it has been true. Friends have gone through the same and their results ended up the same.

    This is a well thought out route to narrowing down the pitfalls in finding a soulmate. We all would do well to heed your advice.

    Thanks a lot.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Marius, thanks for dropping in. Pull up a chair and relax. lol. I appreciate your commenting on my article. The ‘world of dating’ and trying to position yourself for a long-term relationship can sometime become a daunting task. I feel it’s never a good thing to seek love on the rebound, because it would seem ‘so artificial.’ You really can’t get into that person the way you’d like.

      Some folks are satisfied with these ‘quicky fixes,’ and then realize things still just don’t feel right. This is an early experience most folks go through who recently broke up with, at the time, that ‘special someone.’

      Like you stated, it’s a repeated process the broken-hearted go through. Seeking ‘love on the re-bound’ is never a good move. Marius, I really appreciate you commenting.

      If you have any other questions or concerns my friend, please don’t hesitate to check back in, Thanks.

  17. Josh Ellery says:

    wow this is awesome, if i don’t say so myself. I love how original your website is. I’ve never seen a website like this. I like what you said about the rebound thing I can definitely relate to that. I’ve done that many times in my life and paid the price for it mentally big time. That wound is a wound that needs to be healed consciously and in my experience trying to heal that through someone else never works

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Josh, how are you? Thank you for dropping by. I’m glad you found my site entertaining and interesting all in one read. I feel it’s always a good thing when writers, such as myself, can create an article with a splash of originality. I love humor! Love to write it and also include funny things in my drawing.

      Love on the rebound give folks false hopes. It’s just a ‘quick cure’ to pamper an individuals hurt feelings. You find yourself hooking up with someone you barley know. This is never a good thing!

      Josh, I guess I don’t have to explain to you about the ‘pit-falls’ of hooking up with a love on the re-bound. I get the feeling you’ve had a ‘few nut cases’ in your life. (I guess we all have, myself included). You venture out seeking that special someone to pamper you, because you’ve been hurt. But you never really get to know the person. (Bingo! Another nut case). When will we, as guys, eventually slow down and smell the roses.

      Again Josh, I want to thank you commenting. Please let me know if I can help you with anything else.

  18. rowena says:

    This is a wonderful article, much needed for some. I have a 40 yr old daughter, she is a single mother who is looking for someone she can share her life with. I believe she’s encountered most of the problems listed in your article, (she read it) and she was able to laugh and talk about her pass boo boo’s.I enjoyed this article because it reminds us of what to look for and what to avoid when we are looking for someone who we are compatible with. It reminds us to slow down and not be so desperate in choosing a mate.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Rowena. Thank you for commenting on my site. I’m also glad you and your daughter enjoyed reading my article. Yes, it’s a long time coming for some down-to-earth, detailed information to hit the social dating scene,  that covers the plight of singles (in a humorous way).

      This has been my writing style for years. I like to cover the serious side of things with a simple touch of humor included. There’s enough crap going on in the world today that brings us down (that even includes the happenings on the dating scene). Lets squeeze in a little laughter into our lives every now and then.

      It’s great your daughter can look back on past dates after reading this and think; “Wow. I wish I had Ron’s book at the time.” LOL. Of course its never to late. If you want to read some wacked-out profiles, go back to my page and download yourself a copy of ‘How To Select a Compatible Mate’ (really appreciate it). It will give a person seeking love, a ‘heads up’ on what to expect out here in the crazy world of dating & relationships.

      I want to thank you again Rowena, for stopping by. Let me know if I can do anything else for you.

  19. ragoo says:

    So true we all just get into relationships to fill some void. unless we have matured spiritually.

    The world of relationships has not yet caught up with modern times, especially city living where a sense of abundance itself stops us from make any committed relationships.

    This post has made me think about relationship, thanks you.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi ragoo, thank you for checking in and commenting. Really appreciate it. Ahhh, ‘Love, sweet love!’ Some folks dance around in the mist of love. Heads so high in the clouds, they don’t even remember their own name. Some guys may get a friendly smile or a flirtatious wink from a pretty girl. Then run back and tell ALL their friends, they’re in love.

      If one do find, or what they think is ‘true love,’ is it really something meaningful? How do you tell? I guess it’s safe to say, “Only God Knows”

      Ragoo, I agree with you when you touched on city living. You sometimes wonder do relationships flourish more abundantly in certain cities than others? In the inner city, I feel just based on the economic factor alone, it’s enough to drive relationships apart. There’s too many distractions that would drive a wedge between couples that’s not strong enough to overcome diversity.

      But all-in-all, there’s good and bad in all relationships. Couples just have to work hard to make them work. There’s always ‘somebody for everybody.’

      Again, I want to thank you ragoo, for stopping by. Let me know if I could help you with anything else.

  20. Fadi says:

    great article, funny but has a lot of truth in it. The thing about finding your mate is that the more desperate you are and unhappy, the more it becomes difficult. i believe you need to be happy alone first before you can draw in into your life, experiences that can help you find your best match. the trick is not get attached to someone, but define what do want in a relationship and feel good about it, and will happen.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Fadi, how are you? Thanks for checking in with me and commenting. I’m glad you liked my article. I always write with a touch of humor. I feel there’s enough crap going on in the world. Why not read some ‘feel good’ material?

      You hit it right on the money, when you said, “that the more desperate you are and unhappy, the more it becomes difficult.” This made me think of a buddy I grew up with. He’s lonely (living alone for the past 20 years), very desperate and unhappy. When he do meet women, it’s only for sex! Nothing else. (Then he complain to me why he can’t keep any woman he meet).

      I have to tell him, “Dude. You have no respect for women. You don’t take time to know them. It’s always about how fast you can get them in the sack”. (Once my friend accomplish that, then the woman can go to hell).  So sad! With actions like that, he’s looking for another lonely 20 years.

      Yes, you do have to feel good about yourself, before you can feel good about others. That feeling should radiate within you and spread out to others, that you care about. Like I tell my friend, if there’s a woman out there for you, she’ll cross your path naturally and you’ll know it. You’ll get that special ‘feeling.’

      Thanks again my friend for stopping by. Let me know if I can do anything else for you.

  21. Dave says:

    You are right Kennedy,

    When you feel in love during the early stages, there is usually so much fantasy and imaginations, but once you have gone a few months or weeks into the relationship, things start changing, and reality, as you say, hits you.

    Personally, I think finding the right mate is more about getting a best friend first before getting to love. This way, you have started with reality and will get even better at it, by the time you are falling deeply in love.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Dave, how are you? I’m glad you enjoyed my post. ‘Love is a many splendor things’ as the song title goes. But many of us take love for granted! Another thing is that it’s so sad many don’t know the meaning of true love. It’s like a couple of buddies I know. Love to them is just meeting any type of woman, getting them naked in bed as quick as possible, have their way with them, then move on to the next. (And they both wonder why they’ve been alone for the past 20 years)?

      Yes Dave, when you mentioned fantasy, There’s that ‘element of illusion’ making you think things will go your way  Like you stated, become friends first, then take it from there. You never know what God has in store for you. If it was meant to be, then it’ll be.

      The reality of dating is something the seeking spouse has to take into consideration.They must first acknowledge both has to be on the same page, in order for any relationship to work. And like you pointed out Dave, it all first starts with simple friendship.

      Thanks again Dave for stopping by, Let me know if I can do anything else for you.


  22. Avareth says:

    This was a good read 🙂 The picture at the end that says people that are together are often not in love makes me sad. It takes luck and hard work together for all these things to turn out in the end. You had a lot of good things to keep in mind while you’re out that I’ll take to heart.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Helio Avareth, how are you? Glad you stopped by to read my post. Love in life can be a roller coaster of emotions. Some good, some bad!  It’s my job to point out how crazy some folks love life can be. The cartoon do relate to the ‘realities in life’. I agree it’s so sad, but so very true!

      Yes, many folks do put in a lot of hard work and effort in their quest to find ‘true love,’ but once they find it they don’t know how to keep it together. They still run out looking for that additional ‘side piece,’ figuring they got this woman at home and starts taking her for granted. 

      Most women won’t put up with this feeling of being used. Sadly, some will. (I think those are the ones that’s insecure). Insecure women will just stay in the game because they feel that they can change their mate, only to discover life don’t work that way.

  23. Relationships says:

    I became fairly lost in where you were leading me. I originally thought you were a male writing, then I thought I must have misunderstood because it started sounding very much like a female. By the end I realized I was correct the first time. Personally, I’m very leery of any one who may potentially be co-dependent. I’m simply not interested in wasting my time with someone whose heart still belongs to someone else. I’m also a big believer that most women have sex between their ears where as most men are not nearly as complicated. Not saying that it’s always the case, but generally speaking.

  24. Lisa says:

    As I began reading I knew I was reading a blog posted by a man. However, as I ventured through the post I began to question if I had understood correctly because it sounded very much like a female writing (especially after watching the video).

    Personally, it’s important to me that I do not get involved with anyone who may be remotely co-dependent. Being a rather independent female, the last thing I’m interested in is meeting someone who is super needy OR still has their heart with someone else.

    Typically it means finding out how long it has been since the person has been with their last (long-lasting) relationship and what they’ve been doing in between that point and now. But as you say, to each their own!

    I am a HUGE believer in manifesting our own destinies. The Law of Attraction is a REAL thing! And NEVER say Never!


    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Lisa. Thank you for reading my post. Yes, sometime I get that, as far as whose writing this. I tend to write this article with a ‘woman’s mind and point of view.’ I find many more women complain about the opposite sex more than men. Of course there’s no perfection on either side of the spectrum, but we all have to make due with what we have. (although only by choice).

      Being a strong independent woman, is something many women aren’t. You sound like you know what you want in life and don’t take no bulls___! Too many dudes come along just to see what they can get out of a woman. They couldn’t care less about their feelings. I think this is wrong!

      There are good and bad in both sexes Lisa. Just look out for all the sharks and phonies out there because they’re lurking around every corner.

  25. SJ says:

    Haha thanks for your honest post.

    I loved how honest yet funny you were, thanks for making my evening.

    Its true that as women we do wearing flashy outfits and leave our assets hanging out but then get angry when men make a comment. If you don’t like those comments then cover up girlfriend i say!

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi SJ, Thanks for checking in with me. I’m glad you enjoyed my post. Yes, you speak well for all those ladies out there. Those ladies who ‘hang out’ all over the place, and when us dudes stare too long, then we catch hell. (You don’t want us to look…then don’t show them.) Hey, men will be men. (I can speak for all of us ‘chest’ men).

  26. Erick says:

    Ok, I read the article, but I still haven’t figured it out why you brought soul mate at the title. Not everyone will be a soulmate how do know if its a soulmate, isn’t that more of a spiritual thing then just hook up for just appearance? Don’t take this comment wrong is just my perspective, I like your humor keep it up.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Erik, Appreciate you commenting on my post. Trust me, I never take anyone comments personal or in the wrong way. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion! Folks seeking long-term relationships, ultimate goal is finding a ‘soul mate.’ (someone that will hopefully show long-term compatibilty).

      In the ‘spirituallity’ of things it wouldn’t hurt to have someone who’s the same faith as you. Depending on what’s important to you, some couldn’t care less about your faith or religion. The first and most important part is just getting to know them as a person and their personality.

  27. Olalekan Taliat says:

    Its not the best thing on earth to rush into a relationship. My current marriage reflects that idea. The best tip is to be patience and try to be original. I met my wife years back as a simple,  non elegant , pretty and brilliant young woman. I took my time to study her and we had a lengthy nine years relationship before our marriage. I have come to appreciate her strength and weakness. With the few tips ingot from this post I believe I will continue learning. learn about your spouse and you will have a wonderful time together.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Very interesting reply Olalekan, with a romantic feel. After nine years, I know you had no problem saying, “this is definitely the one.” That’s great! Most of the time it can be difficult for folks to find their soulmate. It may take months or years. Olalekan, you were one of the lucky ones. Sometimes when folks settle for a mate too soon, disaster is just around the corner. 

  28. Weird Boi says:

    Finding soul mate, well I thought I found mine back then in college fast forward 3 years later she is now married and am yet to meet anyone who moved me the way she did or maybe am yet to move on who knows ,. I hope to meet someone so I can feel or have that feeling again being in love it’s a wonderful feeling 

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hey Weird, my man. Keep yourself available. There’s always somebody for every body, so no time to panic! I understand when you mentioned those feelings back from your youth, in high school or those college days. I think we all went through something like that. I agree with you about missing that feeling of being wonderfully in love!

  29. Peace says:

    Yeah, we should have principles, rules and boundaries we set for ourselves while looking for a compatible mate. These rules help keep us on track, to get someone we wouldn’t regret we had. 

    Your article is a detailed reminder or what to look out for as no go areas in prospective mates. 

    Although, we should also keep in mind that, flexibility can come in handy too. Being too strict with our principles can be detrimental. 

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Yes Peace, it can surely be detrimental regarding any relationship if we set our standards too high. We all love to, for once in our life, meet our soul mate. That special person who makes us feel good. But still, we want to take our time to make sure this is “the one.” As far as rules go, all rules are made to be broken. Still, we should honor some type of guidelines.

  30. Jay says:

    I have actually become a fan of your blog and I love the way you write. Being a man is no easy task due to the presence of a woman. I like what you said about the boobs of a woman. 

    Seriously, if after spending so much to get a bigger boob and a man looks at the boob, the woman should be pleased that people are checking out her investment. 

    Why get angry having spent so much to get a bigger boob? If you don’t want people to stare then allow your boobs remain small. Trust me when I tell you that no one would stare at your boobs when they are small.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thanks Jay for being a true follower. I try to keep my post entertaining, yet real. I write stuff all folks within dating circles should live by. We, as men, just can’t help ourselves when it comes down to the sexy body of a woman. The bigger the knockers, the more attention that chic will receive. 

  31. ajibola40 says:

    Thanks for writing article on the thrill of dating regarding men loving women. I must commend you for all you put in the article with all the possible scenario of what happen in so interesting I enjoyed every part of it and I wish to read more on relationships. Thanks and have a wonderful day

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      You’re welcome, my friend. The world of dating can be a wonderful thing. The excitement building within a person, over the anticipation of finding that ‘special someone.’ Thank you for taking time out to read my article. Have a great day yourself.

  32. Gomer says:

    What a sad conclusion in the picture illustration, man. Sometimes, distance can do good for a relationship as the couple will tend to long and miss each other. Just be sure it won’t lead to feelings fading out because of prolonged absence of the partner. 

    By the way, I like your joke, that some men talk to a woman’s breast rather than to her eyes. I can’t help but feel guilty reading that. From now on, I will look straightly to a woman’s eyes in a conversation.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hey Gomer, most men are guilty of that when talking to a ‘busty’ woman. (I find myself slipping every now and then). Sometime women like to tease us men anyway, by sporting low-cut tops over nice size knockers. When it comes down to love, a guy don’t know if their falling in love with the woman’s personality or their chest.

      To make any relationship last, it has to be more than just the involvement of sex. Getting to know the personality is important as well.

  33. Achievers says:

    This article is appreciated and insightful. Relationships has not been favorable to me over the years. But recently I found my beloved fiancee. I got to know that no one is perfect and relationship is about two imperfect persons coming together to be perfect. To get a partner one need to tolerate and correct in love. You did a good job. 

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Achiever, as they say, “good things come to those who wait.” It appears you been struggling with love in the past, and through the grace of God, found your match. Congrats to you. They’ll be bumps in the road! but that’s the challenges that comes with building relationships. Communication is what’s ‘key.’

  34. phranell86 says:

    The decision to enter into a relationship with someone we are in tune with is one of the most important decisions we can ever make as adults or as humans. There’s a place for love in everyone’s heart, and just as you rightly noted, age or sex shouldn’t be a barrier. Personally, I think that punishing yourself because a previous relationship failed is a bad idea. 

    There are lots of cool girls and dudes out there that are just waiting to have someone like you around them. I have a little bit of challenge with what you said about looks. I’ve always thought that only men stare at women. Is it really true that women are caught up by a guy’s looks? Also, do you think it is really a wise idea to date someone on rebound? I don’t have broad statistics, but I guess it will lead to disaster eventually.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hey my friend. Thanks for stopping by. I always say that there’s ‘somebody for everybody’. We do have to be mindful of who we select as our mate. Personality has to rate high on the list! For whatever reasons, If things don’t work out, you can’t cry over spilled milk. Time to move on.

      To answer your question, yes many shallow women take in guys because they have model looks. (Not a smart thing to do.) Looks aren’t everything! In regards to dating someone on the rebound, it may or may not work. It depends on how you’re getting along as you move forward. And if they ex doesn’t come back on the scene.


  35. Topazdude says:

    Men are emotional beings,  they show they are tough but in reality they are soft and tender from inside. More than hot sex, men like real care. Love is Love… no matter how you look at it! There’s someone for everybody, I can categorically say, one of the biggest self-improvements that we can make in our life is selecting the right mate, because I have done this before and have never being dump or dump any girl. The sad truth is that so many are in love but not together and so many are together and not in love. Yes, finding relationships a good relationship is the icing on top of life. Interesting tips on relationships. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you my friend Topadude for reading. “Love is a Many Splendored Things.” as the old song says. The truth is many folks don’t know what real love is. They take good love for granted. Many men, and women, will get a good catch and then blow it, not realizing they had a good one then let it go. Maybe not being sincere & honest is a good way to put a damper on any relationship. 

  36. Mary says:

    This article is so interesting! Is so true according to the cartoon posted  to know that many people are in love and not together and  so many people are together and not in love. This happen because most people don’t know what they want, they just become attracted to whatever. I think knowing what you want in a mate is most important in a mate. By knowing what you really want will make you to be with the right person.Thank you for sharing!

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you Mary, and you’re right. The last line you written says it all. It’s so important to know just what you want when it comes to selecting a compatible mate. A person shouldn’t just settle for anything. Second best is not enough. Their sweet prince or princess is out there just waiting to be claimed. Just never give up!

  37. Barrywesley says:

    This is an incredible article,  it was interesting all the way. As it’s rightly stated in the article, it is true that some men always looks at the woman’s chest instead of looking into their eyes, most especially when talking so that you can really connect to her. I have a friend who chooses his woman base on the size of her breast. If it is not big, she is not worth being his woman. Like the saying goes, the eye is a window to the heart. 

    So, if you look into her eyes most of the time when having  a discussion, you might be able to know if she is compatible or not. I have a very beautiful woman who happens to be my lover. I chose her base on her inward beauty, and it was easy for me to know if we’ll be coming not. When we are having our conversation, I always look into her eyes most of the time, that makes it easy for me to connect to her heart and not to look at her boobs like some men do. 

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      My friend Berrywelsey, It seems a woman’s big jugs seems to always take control of a man’s mind. Us, as men, sometimes find it hard to focus directly on her eyes, when those Bigger Eyes are are drawing us in. LOL! But you shouldn’t really pick a mate based on ‘chest’ size. Personality is what’s most important!

  38. Queen says:

    Hi! I did find this article interesting and picked quite a thing or two, but I must say that I don’t find it being specific about the title of the post, except I am getting it all wrong, but I believe the title of this post is men loving women?.

    I was really interested in knowing what gets you men ticking towards loving a woman?

    That said, I did love the aspect of women and boobs jobs, very exhilarating, true to your words, if they get angry at men looking at them, why did they get it in the first place or better still why make it look provocative, if not to get the attention?

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you Queen for checking in with me. To answer your first question, men enjoy the chase. We love seeking out our prey. If we connect and she’s hot, then the ‘ticking’ begins. Big boobs are number one on the ‘Seek and You shall Find’ list of men. To answer your second question, women love showing their large boobs off because they enjoy the attention those puppies get. Why they get mad at too much attention? Heaven only knows!

  39. Robert Trevor says:

    We are ordained to meet each other,fall in love, and get married, but often the process gets  sidetracked.

    While we sympathise with those who don,t find the right one after many tries, we must not give up.

    Personally, my sweetheart and I, fall in the top ten percent, who fell in love at first sight, this is not bragging but simply good fortune.

    We got married, had three lovely children, and are still going strong.

    Very seldom will you find that you like the same food, here toleration is the key,as you put the other,s preferences first, you may even get to like it.

    We should never allow abuse in our relationships, at the fist signs of this,we should leave,and fast.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Robert, it seem like you and your wife is a match made in heaven. You knew what you wanted, followed your heart and succeeded. Congrats to you both. Finding a compatible mate, now-a-day can be difficult. Seems as though we don’t hookup for true love anymore, but only for material things that the other can provide. 

  40. smshakil says:

    Hi Ronald,

    I have read your whole article with lots of important information and guideline about How to Select a Compatible Mate.Really this a wonderful article.I enjoyed your article very much it is very important and truthful for the people.I agree with you.You have described the main thing of dating and relationship.For live a happy life finding soul mate is very important.It will be very much helpful for the people.I will share this article with my friends and relatives. Thank you so much for sharing this.      

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you my friend for reading and the compliments. I try to provide valuable info that hopefully, can help many others seeking love and long-term relationships. Living a happy, loving and healthy life with someone special is what counts the most. Yes, please share this article with your friends and family.

  41. Shane Fegan says:

    Age old question, choosing a mate, finding a mate, a soulmate, whatever you would like to call it.

    I think we can pursue this area at any stage of life, why not, if there is an opportunity out there why not give it a crack.

    Same sex couples are an interesting topic, but must be factored into this discussion as well.

    Rebound relationships are a bit of a no no though, they can be fraught with danger if not considered carefully. These are the times we are most vulnerable.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hey my friend Shane. Finding that perfect soulmate, regardless of sexual preference, can be a daunting task. Regardless of age, there’s always somebody for everybody. We normally ‘follow our hearts.’ We know we the right one comes along! Never pass up the opportunity when God places someone in your path. Some things were meant to be!

  42. AmDetermined says:

    Reading your post makes me remember when I was in love with my first love, and when she left me. I cried as a guy it’s really painful to me. Then but life goes on! One thing that always bothered me about love is why is it that most first loves don’t usually last longer.

    Your post I really love it and have learnt from it. Dating is interesting when we find the two who loves each other even with the bad attitude.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hey my friend, I agree that when that first love get away from you, It really hurts and make you feel bad! (I’m guilty of that myself, back in the day!) I find that when you’re young, most girls always have their eye out for something better. Maybe something you couldn’t provide. (Hell! We were both young! What the F___K do they want from me?) But that’s life! You just move on!

  43. Danielle Davis says:

    Great post. I just really started dating this year and I was so nervous to  begin this journey. My male friends always say that it is in a man’s nature to check out women when they see something nice. I love to hear the compliments,  but the creepy stares and horrible pick up lines I can go without.  And yes so accurate on women. The best bet is to turn away fast. Because if you stare at a woman for too long in the face, you’re going to get: “Is there something on face” or ” Is my makeup messed up”. LOL. Great post I will definitely be sharing this with my friends and family.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      No need to be nervous, Danielle. We all get ‘butterflies’ in our bellies when starting a new relationship. Until you really get to know the person, then you tend to relax. At least, you know your current date wanted to get to know your mind instead of just your body.  Yes, guys will stare when they see a woman with ‘a nice rack.’ But this is what guys do. They just can’t help themselves. (I know I can’t help myself either!) LOL! 

  44. Snigdha Alam says:

    Dear Ronald,
    I have enjoyed your article so much. In your article, you have said about finding in the relationship. But in my opinion, it may be a very difficult task to find out real love. From my experience, I want to say that maximum people didn’t find real love. But I want to give thanks to almighty God because He helped me to find out my love. I got a real one!! He loves me much.
    Thank you for your article.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      I’m glad you have happiness in your life. You found your soulmate! God is Good 24/7. As you stated, some people aren’t that lucky. They’re still searching, not having much luck. Some people, regardless if it’s men or women, will let a good one get away. Then find themselves blaming that person, but in reality it’s really your fault. Oh, well, that’s the breaks. Again, Congrats to you my dear on your rock- solid, loving relationship.

  45. Benson says:

    Love is one thing that holds the heart of an individual be it male or a female when it is real. There have been so many instances where two people break up their relationship for minor issues and after a while starts regretting why they didn’t talk about it. Relationships are more about communication and understanding. With these two characteristics one is bound to have a great home with their partner. Personally I don’t believe in soul mate, I just believe there is someone who can always deal with your rubbish .

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Well Benson, that’s one way of looking at it. If you don’t have a ‘soul mate’ and not even looking for one, then you don’t have to listen to any crap from no one. You have no one in your life, that can hear your shit. Just do your thing. But I think it will be great for most folks to get into a solid relationship, as long as the compatibility is there. Please share this post with others

  46. Bella says:

    Being in love is a really beautiful feeling and being loved back by the one we love makes the other half of the circle. There was a time I had great feelings for a guy and he never reciprocated the feeling because he was interested in another girl. I felt bad because I couldn’t get that love back and since then I get scared of loving another guy as much as I did for him. I have no idea why the fear is still there.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Yes Bella, love is a two-way street. A give-and-take situation. (Regarding your past situation, you were giving love, but he wasn’t receiving it well.) But there’s always plenty more fish in the sea. Don’t dwell on the past, Bella. There’s nothing to fear, but fear itself. Keep yourself available and keep smiling. Life is too short to be wallowing in sorrow.

  47. Aly says:

    I like your point that love is love, no matter what the 2 people in love look like! Dating and loving someone can and will have it’s challenges — no matter if it’s a man loving a woman or no matter what genders are involved. Finding the right mate can take some time and some deep introspection, but it’s a worthwhile endeavor to put in your best effort to finding a partner to help you journey through life!

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Aly, sometimes our journey to finding the proper mate can be frustrating, overwhelming and hardly ever instantly fulfilled. But if you ‘throw in the towel’ and give up too soon, then of course you will never find that perfect someone. You must always stay positive, remain focused and then most likely, you’ll succeed.

  48. Misty Outdoors says:

    I would definitely agree that finding someone too soon is not good.  Those feelings of loneliness need to be replaced by healthy activities.  I like your sense of humor regarding the thoughts people have as they get back out there on the dating scene- goodness knows I’ve had some of those.  🙂   

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hey Misty, when you’re ‘out of commission’ regarding lacking on the dating scene, It’s sometime difficult to get things going. Getting to know the person first is what’s important. How can you really get into someone when you don’t really know them!? Time will tell how strong the relationship will be.

  49. Henderson says:

    In real life, I think that one of the most complicated thing to deal with is a relationship and most especially a relationship that there is love in. I think your post has really done justice to this discourse and I really like the way you have done this post. What do you think is the right thing to do when one starts falling out of love like it is called.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Henderson, to answer your question regarding breakups and falling out of love. First, couples should sit down and talk. Communicating with your partner is key! How else are you gonna find out where things went sour? Maybe things in the relationship can be saved! This is a good starting point!

  50. Anjali says:

    Hello Ronald,

    This article about the true nature of dating is a very refreshing topic to read about. As you have mentioned, love truly doesn’t have any boundaries. Anyone can fall in love with anyone if they find something endearing about them. We always see the outer appearance of a person before we get to know them. But I think we should make sure to move past that initial attraction and trying to get to know that person is very important when starting a new relationship.

    I personally don’t like the idea of rebounds. It’s okay to find someone to date soon after we went through a breakup. But we shouldn’t start dating if we don’t have a clear mind and have unresolved feelings about our exes.

    Well, all of these are my opinion on dating and that can be different from yours. I think honesty and openness are the keys to a good relationship. We should be honest with ourselves and we should be honest with others. What do you think the most important thing in a relationship?

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Finding the ‘soulmate’ of your life can sometime be a daunting task. It sometime can feel like a ‘never ending’ task (but that would all depend on the hustle of the pursuer.)  I agree with you my friend, that honesty would be at the top of my list over what I think is most important in a relationship. Getting to know the person and then being honest at the beginning is a good start.

  51. Danijel says:

    Hello Ronald, I must say that this article is very helpful and inspirational. I had a long relationship with my ex and it really falls hard to me our separateness. I learned in a hard way that life is not only women but also other things. I was obsessive in relationships but not anymore.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Sometime things just spiral out of control and we try to figure out at some point, what went wrong. Although it may be too late to rectify things, but we can learn from our mistakes. I imagine you picked yourself up and moved forward with your life. Good luck to you.

  52. Rodarrick says:

    Getting valuable insights to how life is in the marriage and also maintaining the perfect relationship without losing the spark would make everything else worthwhile. Thanks so much for sharing this here. Though this appeal a bit to the feminine though but then, I also picked some countless tips that can help secure marriage. Also, I will love to get the product here as I feel it would be perfect to learn more about maintaining a perfect home

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Than you for checking in with me. A good relationship is when both parties are on the same page, thinking together and going down the same road. Agreeing together on all minor and major issues. But when one is going north and the other south, then there’s gonna be problems all around. It never fails.

  53. experience of paid online surveys says:

    Hi Ronald,

    You provide great guidance on a subject that everyone can identify with that’s for sure – and with good humor as well.  The heart is a fickle and irrational thing to try to understand and control.  Especially on the rebound.  People do need support of some kind in terms of checking their thinking and behavior and their management of relationships.  It’s probably one of the most complicated of life’s challenges.  You’re no doubt helping SO many people with your site and I enjoyed this article very much.  

    All the best,


    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you John for reading my article. My main mission is to help others struggling within their relationship, to give them guidance. Behaviour have to be handled with careful consideration, for this is the core of relationship management. As in any relationship, both parties has to be on the same page to make anything work.

  54. Bella says:

    I’m happy for your wonderful marriage experience. Like they always say that with the right person, everything is right irrespective of whatsoever. Thank you so much for sharing this here. I like this post a lot because I know most of these is applicable to me. In life, there would always come a time when one has to abandon it all and choose who to spend the rest of the life with. This is good

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Yes Bella, a good relationship that’s positive is better than any meaningless relationship. Whoever your partner in life is, you should enjoy that person because you never know when you’ll lose them, either through sickness or they may just walk out. Value every moment because one day it’ll become just a memory!

  55. David ben says:

    Hello there, thanks for this awesome article. I think it would be of great help to everyone as the importance of the right mate cannot be overemphasize. i had have numerous problematic relationships in the past, because those women were not right for me. But not until I came across an article like this few years ago written by Dave wells Jr finding the right mate; After reading I tried the ideas he gave, and today I have the right woman for me, so I believe this article would be of help.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      I’m so happy to hear that an article such as this helped you find the proper mate. I always say there’s somebody for everybody. You were lucky my friend. David, as long as you’re happy with one another, that’s all that matters. Everyone should read articles such as this to get more insight into the workings of a good relationship and what can help.  

  56. bernie says:

    What is the best thing to do if you are in love with someone secretly and have been for over 10 years??
    I have a secret crush and I can’t tell her, I know she is not interested in me but I can’t stop thinking about her…
    Could it be that I just have to find someone else in order to forget her? I guess the mind works in that way that you just get more and more interested in what you cant have… I could really really need a girlfriend,
    but I don’t even try anymore… I don’t even have a job and I won’t even try without a job… If I was a woman I would not
    wanna date myself…I have also noticed that the reason I can’t get a job is that in my age your suppose to have a relationship… so the reason I can’t have a girlfriend is that I have no job and the reason I don’t have a job is that I’m single…

    Please advise…

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hey Bernie, don’t beat yourself up so badly over this. It’s not the end of the world! After reading your letter Bernie right away I see low self esteem. A person with very low or no confidence. Like many others I’ve helped in the past gain their confidence, you’ll be no different. Just follow my advice and the steps in this program that I’ll be sending you the link to. When all is said and done Bernie, you’ll have the confidence you’ll need to get women interested in you again. Go here and let’s begin:

  57. Sparkling says:

    If I may ask can human life be complete without love? I guess you will agree wit me that it’s not possible therefore The Thrill Of Dating Regarding men loving women as highlighted in this article review can narrow down to address many issues regarding relationships between men and women as analyzed in this review, it is a natural phenomenon for every adults to search for a woman companion which is also the bases of love and relationship

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you Sparkling for checking in with me. To answer your question in regards to love, my saying over has years has been, “Everybody needs love.” You need love, I need love; everybody needs love. Sadly, many of us don’t have enough love in our system to spread it around. (Just look at our world today!) 

      But the same concept goes for couples showing more love towards one another, which can lead to longer, satisfying and fulfilling relationships. Please share my post with others. 

  58. Mr White says:

    Thank for sharing this article I had love to discuss a lot when a discussion is centered on love and relationship but the problem here is what have love and relationship have to do with affiliate marketing, though I must commend the topic of discussion the thrill of dating regarding men loving women it has a lot to do with feelings and emotions

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you Mr. White for checking in with me. Let me clear things up for you. You would see writings from me here, if my niche was based on business. But one of my websites is based on love and relationship. (My other is based on children’s disabilities; hearing loss). So Mr. White, do you have a website? If so, what is it about? Send me the link, so I can comment on it, which in turn will help your SEO rankings. Looking forward to hearing back from you.

  59. Karen says:

    That was an interesting article and entertaining the way you have written it. I have learned and experienced a lot over my years and I understand a lot more about relationships now. 

    Falling in love is always the ultimate but even just experiencing a physical relationship with someone is nice. Having a friendship that runs deep with no physical relationship is also very special and I enjoy having male friends as well as my female friends and  is very rewarding and gives me a more balanced view of life. 

    I see the more sensitive side of men more and more now that it is not such a stigma to show emotions. 

    I am enjoying being on my own and don’t feel that I need a man to feel complete but of course if I met the right person I would love to love again. 

    Thanks for your insight and for sharing it. 

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Well Karen, just hang in there and keep the faith. As they say, “there’s somebody for everybody.” You never know when and where you’ll meet that special someone. Like you mentioned, you enjoy living by yourself. That may be true, but I know most times you think about experiencing true love once again. (that is if you’ve experienced it before in the past)

  60. Parveen says:

    Hello Ronald, Thank you for writing on The Thrill Of Dating Regarding Men Loving Women. I enjoy while reading your article. I understand that careful consideration must be in order, when selecting that perfect mate. Certain expectations must be met. Your guide is useful for all while finding their love one. Keep this great work up.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thanks Parveen for checking in with me. Many folks, men and women, seeking love hit ‘a brick wall’ when seeking that special someone. Someone who’ll be by their side in good and bad times. Yes, careful consideration must be in place in order to find that special him or her. Being happy and mindful is important

  61. Sonny says:


    Thanks for this post. 

    You know, I was actually anticipating what was going to happen next after you met this beautiful woman hahaha What a dream man! 

    I’ve been married close to 20 years and if there’s one thing I learned in all that time is this:

    On a serious note though – If you want more sex, you have to earn it. How? Do the dishes. Do the laundry. Make dinner.

    And the reason is simple. If I were a woman, I’d be exhausted to do anything else after making dinner, doing the dishes 

    and laundry and whatnot. Just my 2 cents


    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hey Sunny, you know all the ‘key’ moves on getting a ‘little action’ in from the wifey. LOL. Doing the household duties is sure to keep you out of the doghouse. I wrote a blog on that subject (How guys can stay out of the doghouse & on her good side.) You and the wife should read this together. Check it out. Let me know what y’all think?

  62. Hilde says:

    Hi Ronald! Not often I find a Great article like this written by a man. Men usually do not write about this. I think it is very important that the perspective of men and relationships are coming more out in the open. I think expectations of what a relationship is and what it will “give” us is one of the problems. I remember my grandmother , married for 60 years, said – you can not expect to recieve 100% unless you give 100%..    

    The porn industry are giving many a twisted view of sex and relationships. I agree what you say that love is love, but keeping a relationship is an art and involves a lot of practice and communication. It is a huge difference between instant pleasures and long term pleasures. I will add the book by Weiss to my readinglist.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you Hilde for stopping by. I guess every male writer has to have a feminine side to give equal playing time to both sides. One gender may want more than what the other is giving. It always seem it’s not enough. It’s just not enough! I agree with your grandma totally that it must be 100% from both parties or nothing at all. I’ve also heard from others, that the book is very interesting and helpful. Please share my post!

  63. BandulaD says:

    Visitors, if you are searching for that ideal partner or good relationships, please pop in from time to time, because this site will bring you to hope on days you need it, thoughts to ponder, tips for marital success, attitude adjusters, wisdom and blessings. More than anything else, Ronald can help you to cross that bridge between dreaming (of that special person who would give you the thrill of a lifetime!) and waking up (beyond your wildest dreams of horror movies!.)

    So, enjoy the site, read and absorb all that you can, read from page to page or just randomly pop in from time to time looking for that piece of advice you need at that moment – whatever works for you. It is his gift for you with his love and best wishes for living a blessed and empowered life!

    Appreciate your efforts Ronald, and wish you all the best,


    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you my friend Bandula. I’m glad you found my site helpful. I’m also happy that you feel it could help guide others down a path of a satisfied and loving relationship. Regardless if you’re seeking or involved in a current relationship, you may find some helpful insight into my writings. So Bandula, I’ll need your help by you sharing my post, so others may enjoy this information. Thank you.

  64. Favorme says:

    Ron, that’s an awesome read! I love how you narrated your soul mate search. Thank God that according to you, you’ve found the right person. Here is my opinion on your article. Love is an amazing experience when we capture the actual meaning of it and the force it generates. Marriage is a divine institution, God said that it is not good for a man to be alone. And it also stated in the scripture that he that found a good wife found a good thing… As women no matter the color the world paints us with we are good and needs to be treasured. Our worth is immeasurable. 

    Another point I want to make is that when you find love and it invades your heart, it will empower you to endure deeper pains, pay whatever cost. Love has a high-cost tag. But today because men are mixing love for lust, therefore, they are not prepared to pay any price for it.

    Let me not go to fr. I love it. Thanks for sharing.


    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Favorme, thank you for intense and detailed reply. I like it when readers break down what i’ve written, giving their honest opinion on the subject of love, dating and relationships! Love can put folks on a roller coaster of emotions. It’s funny, as my cartoon drawing stated, “Some people are together, but not in love and some people are in love but not together.” When it comes to love, some folks really have to dig deep to find themselves. To solve what they want in life. Favorme, please share this post with others.

  65. loveremma says:

    Love is a natural thing that grow sometime painful and it deals with someones emotion, and can be harmful if not controlled 

    My question is how can you know, if a girl gives you fake love or through love?

    My suggestion is that everybody should should try and be engaged to who they can bear with.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you for checking in, my friend. As I’ve said many times before, love will take you on a roller coaster of emotions. Your head will start spinning like never before. Also the constant ‘heart flips’ when you know you in love. But to answer your question, It’s very difficult to determine right away. You must be involved with each other and over time, as the relationship goes on, you’ll see the signs. Only you will know how to adjust to handling issues as they arise. Please share my post. Thank you.

  66. Samikingss says:

    Wow what a very beautiful article and straight to the point. I am sure lots of words here were written based on personal experiences. I totally agree with you that lots of people are in love but not together. I am happy that I am together with the only woman I truly love and I feel blessed to have her with me always. It is so natural with men to love a woman so gently and tender like she is going to break in half or just evaporate into thin air. I must confess that love is a wonderful feeling. 

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      My friend, it’s a wonderful thing you’ve found the ‘love of your life. Someone, as you say, “to have with you always.” Now-a-day, it seem so difficult to even have a conversation with another. No one wants to be close. But once an individual find that ‘special someone,’ like you said, ‘Love is a wonderful feeling.’ Please share this post with others.

  67. Skuchmane says:

    hellooo dear, wow what an amazing post you have here, iit really has been amazing, your post has been a liife saver, it really helped me in finding a good mate, looking forward to see more of your post, ,your website is plain and simple easy to navigate and understand, i really do fancy these post alot thanks i already saved these post so as much as to come back for future reference

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Glad you enjoyed my site, my friend. I’m glad my site was able to help you to find someone. I hope all my readers can really get something out of my post. Even if its only for a good laugh, that’ll make me happy. What the world needs now is love, sweet love! Please share this post!

  68. Thousand says:

    Helloo there, a big thanks to you for sharing this insightful and interesting piece on men loving women | folks find soul mates. Meeting or rather selecting the right soul mate is indeed a great self improvement. Anyways I was so much into the content of this article. It’s filled with so much love and quality content. I have really learnt a lot from this. I think this should be a must see by many.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Thousands. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. I’m glad you found my material interesting and something that all folks should read. Maybe by following this, folks may find ‘true love.’ Love is in the air regarding certain times of the year. Some get lucky and find their ‘special someone’ others don’t. It may just be bad attitudes from both parties. Please share my post with others. 

  69. Chuna says:

    Hi Ron,

    I always enjoy reading your articles. No sugar-coating, but not offending at the same time, is how you say things.

    It is the same with finding and waiting for the “love of our lives”. 

    Men loving women is so special for me. I am married to the love of my life for 32 years now, and our love flourished to 3 children – 2 of whom found the “loves of their lives” as well.

    All relationships have flaws. Forbearance is very important in all relationships, specially so because we each have different up-bringing in our individual homes, and we come from different environments, that we may not be compatible or agreeable on many issues in life.

    Biblical Scripture teach us to “submit one to another -no one is superior over the other, but each must complement each other”.

    Thanks for this nice post.

    God bless you more,


    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Chuna. I’m glad you enjoyed this latest article of mine. It’s great to have faithful readers following my work. I try writing for all to enjoy and starting their day with a smile. Or making their evening better before hitting the sack. Congrats on your 32 yrs with your Prince Charming. Having as much happiness in a relationship as you can, is what it’s all about. I agree 100% with that Biblical Scripture. Please share my post.

  70. Diane says:

    Thanks for an insightful look at relationships. It’s important for people to view their lives and relationships realistically.

    I especially like the part where you ask what will they think in 6 weeks or 6 months. That first moment of feeling smitten may pass when you get to know a person. Or it might develop into much more. We need to give it time to see.

    One of the best pieces of advice my Grandma gave to me was to get to know the person first as a friend. Friends can turn into the love of your life. It takes time. But that way, you already know the person. You both know you like each other. And from that, you can build a future.

    I guess Grandma’s advice helped. My husband and I celebrated our 37th wedding anniversary this year. Even after all those years, 9 kids, and so many events, we are still best friends!

    Thanks for offering some very meaningful advice to others.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Diane, your grandma gave you some excellent advice! I’ve always said that too; you must become friends first before you become lovers. Everything takes time! Many folks rush too soon into the ‘love making’ part first and never get to know their partner. No relationship survive on just sex alone! Please share my post with others!

  71. Sean says:

    Lots of people who are divorced find it really difficult to want to get in love with another person and it’s as a result of post traumatic effects of the previous relations and that is not good at all. I really like these things you have mentioned here and it would be really nice to see anyone move on to find love after divorce rather than dwell in the last for long 

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Yeah Sean, divorce is really a rough thing for most couples. Bitterness runs amok! Things defiantly aren’t the same between couples. But after so much time has gone by, they move on in their own separate ways. If you can just remain friends, that’ll be great. 

  72. Astrostar says:

    hello there!

    its not an easy job to actually find someone who will take you for who you really are, love you with your flaws and cherish you more than every other person, finding love after a divorce will be difficult due to the pain and heartbreak caused and all that, but honestly divorce is not the end you would actually get to love again and be loved, you just have to wait for the right time and the right person 

    thank you for sharing such a wonderful post with us 

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thank you for reading, my friend. I agree that it all boils down to hoping the next one who comes along will be more compatible and considered the right one. The second time around may be a charm. You pray you don’t ‘strike out’ again because you wanna give marriage another chance.

  73. Cogito says:

    Hey Ronald. What a great article. In these complicated times, with quarantine. Covid and all related troubles posts like this are really refreshing. It reminds us that what truly important is only love and we can’t resign from looking happiness. Every person deserve to have someone special, and it really doesn’t matter how old are you or if you after divorce.  Thank you for reminding this obvious truth and bringing hope for all seekers.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thanks for the compliment my friend. I always try touching on issues that will help the common man & woman with situations with their life. Like you mentioned everyone deserve happiness, even after a breakup. But it just all boils down to whom you end up with.

  74. Daniella says:

    Hey Ronald, thank you for this awesome article! 

    It looks like this article has been written for me:) I have been through one divorce, and all I can tell is that I needed to be alone for a while. This really helped me get to know myself better and decide what type of man I really want to share my life with. Today, I am happily married for over 20 years:) 

    Thank you for this excellent post!

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Thanks Daniella for checking in with me. I’m happy that you have your life together and happily married now. That’s beautiful. I hope many other folks who read this article will have a ‘happy ending’ to their story as well. Thanks for sharing, my friend. (If you know someone who need some guidance in their ‘rocky relationship, then please pass this on)

  75. Clark says:

    It’s good that you provide relationship advice for divorced people. Of course everyone deserves to be happy and in love. And nowadays there is a lot more tolerance for all kinds of relationship. Same gender, divorced, huge age gap, people are a lot more open-minded now. We are living in the age of variety.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Divorce can be devastating for those who were really seeking a better outcome. It’s especially hard when children are involved. This is another phase that has to be ironed out. Sometimes it’s best each go their separate ways and seek true love elsewhere. 

  76. Mike says:

    Hello there! This is a great article! Personally, I haven’t even found the first one yet so I still have yet to experience that. But I can’t even begin to imagine what it’s like for those who did and trying to reignite that feeling again. It must be tough! Thank you for looking out for those trying to find love again and providing some really great tips. 

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hey Mike. You might’ve heard the old saying that ‘Love is just around the corner.’ For some I guess that may be true, but for others; the wait continues. But I’m a strong believer that ‘there’s someone for everybody.’

  77. Nina says:

    This is a really very interesting article How To Find Love After Divorce – Folks Seek Their Soul Mate. I broke up with my partner 8 months ago and I was left alone with my now almost two-year-old daughter. Since my daughter is still so young, I’m not currently thinking about looking for a new partner, but I definitely wish I could find someone someday with whom my time will be more beautiful.
    In this article, you have listed and described really great tips on how to create a new, healthier, and more beautiful relationship after a divorce or breakup.
    Friendly greeting,

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Hi Nina. Sorry to hear of your relationship ending. All you can do now is concentrate on yourself and daughter, creating inner happiness within. A future mate will come along and you’ll start anew. I offer some more great advice in a book, that may interest and help steer you in the right direction. I’ll send you the link shortly. 

  78. MIchel says:

    Finding the right mate for life is difficult, and it never runs 100 percent smoothly and according to plan. There will always be mountains to climb, but the important thing to remember is that it is a two-way street and both partners need to be on the same page.

    Love your list of trust issues and questions to ask yourself. I am sure this will be a big help for many couples. If couples do split in the end, it is usually for the best, but it is also not the best scenario to rush into another relationship. Enjoy your freedom for a while, although some will hate this.

    Don’t you love it when you see a married couple who is celebrating their 50 or 60 years together and are still happy with each other? This is getting rarer and rarer in this day and age we live in.

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      When I see couples hitting that 60 + years of togetherness, I wonder what is the ‘key’ formula is for keeping them together? I have friends now have hit the 50 year mark with their spouse. (And still going strong) May God Bless them! Rare is right!  

  79. Dominique says:

    Hi. So good to find your article!

    I have many friends who struggles with this matter. After reading your article I found out that with some simple advice, anyone can make a good impression and find the best person for them. 

    It is important to be yourself and not try to show off. This way, both sides will be benefited!

    Thank you for this

    1. Ronald Kennedy says:

      Yes my friend. Lots of folks have been through this phase in their life. Some are so down in their lives after divorce, they never seem to pick themselves up. Hopefully they’ll read my article for some good, solid advice and help.

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