SOMETIMES A LITTLE HELP FROM OUR FRIENDS GOES A LONG WAY! DO YOU AGREE?
Maybe you’ve found yourself in this situation before. Texting friends trying to find out where the action is for the weekend. We all have those friends that knows ‘what’s cooking?’ How singles look for love now-a-days can become very difficult.
Depending on your friends to help you make a connection, is something you don’t want to depend on.
Sometimes you think they only want you hanging out with them, because they need someone to take the group photos (Funny you’re never in them!) or someone to sit, watch the purses & drinks while they dance.
“She’s trying to catch up with friends”
Make your best shot count! Bag the best mate you can!! Remember, with a well thought out plan of action, any man or woman can be yours.
TEN BASIC APPROACHES & BEHAVIORAL ACTIONS FOR SINGLES
First – As far as age goes, remember age isn’t nothing but a number.’ You can still approach a sexy hot single regardless of what your age is. (of course, you don’t want to approach someone too young.
Then you’ll come across as a ‘dirty ol’ man or woman.’)lol. Just use common sense.
I’m an older guy myself, but love to date younger women. Also, never let nationality get in the way or the country they’re from. Lots of guys miss out on the possibility of scoring a winner thinking one-sided.
They’re only into their own kind. Big Mistake! (There are beautiful types of women in all races out there.)
Open up! Give yourself a chance. But if you’re an ‘older guy’ dealing with a ‘much younger attractive woman,’ most likely there’s always going to be a big effort of keeping her happy and not piss her off.
This can lead to additional problems like “how you can stay on her good side & out of the doghouse!” and continue dealing in a content and peaceful relationship. Now this is where communication is so important.
Second – People, understand that most folks love humor. They like a person that makes them laugh. You don’t have to be another Kevin Hart or Eddie Murphy, but if you feel that you want to joke around, go ahead and make them laugh.
….Just don’t be offensive!
I used this approach on a pretty girl I met while out buying dog and cat food. She was laughing at mostly everything I said, but unfortunately she was already in a relationship. (Hey…can’t win ’em all).
Third – Make conversation related to what ever you’re doing at the moment. Grocery shopping? Then ask her about the freshest fruit to buy, how to make a good salad or how high the store’s prices are.
A woman out shopping makes eye contact. Then will ask a guy if he can reach something on a higher shelf for her. (It’s ok for the woman to be the aggressor sometime,)
If you’re out walking your dog, you can meet many singles out doing the same as well.
“Be creative, friendly and smile a lot!”
Fourth – Don’t be intimidated by a woman or guys outer beauty. (Inner beauty is what counts most). For example, guy’s think when they see a fine woman, she won’t speak or have time for them.
You’ll be surprised to find out that this woman is just as lonely as you. Maybe she’s tall or too good-looking, by most standards. She think her gorgeous looks & height are a ‘hinder’ instead of a ‘helper’ that is keeping guys at bay.
(I just give ‘a guy perspective’ because I’m a guy. But this touches both sexes).
Fifth – Just be yourself and have confidence. This is strongly recommended for the serious single guy, trying to get it together.
Six – Get Your Head Straight: Fix your mental framework regarding sound relationships; replace antique nonsense with state-of-art insights; develop confidence, understand the opposite sex point of views, and clarify your mating ethics and mating goals.
Seven – Develop Attractive Traits: Understand what they want and why, and then give it to them by cultivating the key traits of physical health, mental health, intelligence, willpower, tenderness, and protectiveness.
Eight – Display Attractive Proofs: Understand the signaling principles that underlie honest, hard-to-fake proofs of value, and construct your personal, professional, social, and romantic life around building and displaying those proofs.
Nine – Go Where The People Are: Understanding how the mating markets work, given the supply and demand of men and women; how to find that person who offer the highest value and the best compatibility, given your tastes and goals; and how to meet those people in specific places, from local leisure clubs to online dating apps.
Ten – Take Action: Understand how to talk. Date them, have great sex with them (When the time is right), and learn from your experiences toward building a positive feedback cycle of personal improvement, and a sound relationship. All of which will help you create and execute your mating plan.
These 10 steps are simple to understand,… but they’re not always easy to accomplish. Anyone who tells you otherwise is selling you bullshit!
Try not to portray someone you’re not. You’ll go along ways just by being honest because you don’t want something later, to come back and bite you in the ass.
(REMEMBER: You never know what day, time or place that special someone may come along).
Don’t think confidence is some kind of modern phenomenon through, just because people today don’t shut up about it. Confidence has been a thing for a long time.
In fact, confidence is part of your genetic makeup which evolved over thousands of generations as a mental tool to guide our decision-making.
A confident guy expects the woman to engage him in conversation when he goes up to say hi and introduce himself.
He expects her to give him her number when he ask for it or to dance at the club.
He doesn’t think he deserves it or she owes it to him (unless he is also an entitled douche bag, which is entirely possible) – he just expects that he’s going to get it, even before he says a word. Why?
Because he’s done this dozens if not hundreds of times, with enough success to accurately predict the likely outcome.
How can you realistically judge the likelihood of your success in a unique moment like that – or in any domain of life?
For those still not confident enough, it all feels like a terrifyingly uncertain nightmare, and as a result, you worry about practically everything.
“What do I say?” “What do I do?” “Where do I take her?” “What if she doesn’t like me?” “What if she says no?”
“What if I’m not good at all?” “What if I throw up on her after too many shots?” What if, what if, what if….
Fortunately, in the last twenty years researchers have gained a lot of new insights into the origins and nature of confidence, and they allow us finally, to explain exactly what it is:
“Confidence is the realistic expectation you have of being successful at something, given (a) your competence at it and (b) the risk involved with doing it.”
CONFIDENCE STARTS IN YOUR HEAD.
Your brain does it by unconsciously integrating a bunch of data from your memory and your current states.
It adds up your past training, experiences, and successes, plus your present capabilities, to guide your decisions.
Your brain is like a mushy three-pound sports book between your ears, setting the line and shifting the odds on to your immediate future.
The most annoying thing about confidence, though, is that 90% of the time it’s dormant (or at least, it should be).
It should only become an issue when you’re actively facing a risky challenge, not when you’re eating dinner or sitting at home trying to chose between watching football or Netflix.
“Go after what you want in confidence! Your compatible mate is out there waiting”
This means learning, practicing and then consistently performing under real-life conditions with real stakes, when people are watching.
“Once you do that, confidence and established skill-sets are almost automatic.”
“EVERYTHING STARTS WITH A SUCCESSFUL PLANNING PROCESS!”
Although we’re now in a new year, and things are getting better in regards to folks mingling, it’s still difficult for many singles to connect comfortably like they use to.
It’s great now we have a preference of wearing a masks or not, but deep inside we know folks still don’t want others in their face. So you better keep that face covering handy, just in case!
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