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How Playing The Dating Game Must Not Be Taken Lightly.
Serious Involvement Should Be Taken Into Consideration While Playing The Dating Game.
MEN. WOMEN. LOVE. MARRIAGE.
Society has long dictated that in order to build a successful relationship, complete with understanding and trust, there must be commitment. Playing ‘the dating games of life’ should take a backseat to a more settled life!
Now-a-day, most folks entering into relationships have NO clue as to what these two words really mean:
TRUST & COMMITMENT!
Ah yes…Commitment! Just this word alone will have most folks shaking in their boots.
Therefore, just thinking about having that one last fling before taking the plunge gets you a little shaky! All you really want to do is keep on meeting those of the opposite sex.
Also, understand sometime that dating can be awkward. Asking someone out could be nerve wrecking! So how can you tell if he or she is interested in you?
The anticipation of a long lasting relationship with that special someone goes through your mind. The image you hold is long-term.
You don’t even care about how much money they make or material things they possess, or his or her background (This goes to show how desperate you are!).
But finding your mate doesn’t have to be out of desperation. It’s just experiencing ‘that feeling’. This is a feeling that will make you shout, “I think I’ve found my potential mate”.
So you really think you’re ready to deal with the real world? See video…
DO CAREER REALLY MATTER?
The type of occupation they have really doesn’t matter to you. They can be a computer geek repairing motherboards or replacing ram for laptops. Or they may work online, struggling to make a few bucks with a network marketing company.
Then again, maybe they just won’t work at all! (It makes them break out into a ‘cold sweat’ just thinking about going to job interviews. These feelings are experienced regarding either sex.)
You know, ladies, some guys take great pride in being plain lazy. They are tired by the end of the day just from doing nothing!
Who wants some guy lying around the house all day smelly, drinking beer, eating fish & chips and playing video games on their Xbox?
You may really find yourself in that situation. After working two jobs, you come home one evening to discover this person with their feet up and playing video games.
But at least he did bathe earlier, so you’d have to give him that much credit! But or some reason, he still stink! But all in all, romance is in the air. It’s everywhere! Even animals go into ‘heat’ and want to make a connection. Meow! Meow!
These are just a few of the things you think about. Things you may or may not have to deal with. Yet, before any preparations can be taken toward the ritual of marriage, the proper choice of a mate must take place. This is where you have to be careful!!
Now ladies and gentlemen, you sit down and question yourself. You think; “How do I meet someone who’s worth the time and effort?” “Will I regret this in the long run?” “Will I get taken for a buggy ride?” “Would I have to protect my money by changing banks and my password?” “Should I get a Prenup agreement?”
IMAGINE THIS SCENARIO….
Suppose one night you’re watching your favorite crime program, “America’s Most Wanted.” The woman or man you’ve been dating for the past three years suddenly appear on the show’s ’10 Most Wanted list.’ Now what do you do?
A) Jump on your cell phone and tell all your friends that your partner was on the tube.
B) Confront the person and let them know that you know about their past, secret life.
C) Get the hell outta there as fast as you can because they are wanted for double murder in three states.
Also, take a retrospective tour over past relationships. (you’ve found yourself doing a lot of that lately). Your mind starts to wonder;
“Were they fruitless or rewarding?
“Was the failure due to something I may have done or failed to do?”
“Was the relationship timely?”
Maybe different time sets played a role with you being a modern 21st century individual and your potential soulmate stuck in the 60’s.
SEEKING MR. OR MRS. RIGHT
I ridiculously profiled and poked fun at the numerous singles who line our city streets and singles bars. So get your laugh on!
And lets not forget those who have been deeply hurt and lied to most of their adult lives. Also, stay focused on the gold-digger’s and ‘lady hustlers’ coming out to stake their claim on some hapless soul.
The single person can work on and develop strategies now with ease! You may be walking down the street headed to a neighborhood store, to the mall, to pick up dog food, buy yourself some liquor or to any other area where there are people.
Say for example, you’re a guy and you spot a pretty woman in the area. Or maybe walking along the beach. Once noticing her, you’d spend a good amount of time thinking of what to say.
It takes you awhile to get up the nerve to approach her because due to numerous past rejections, you haven’t been feeling too good about yourself.
Next, you would then start thinking of every excuse about what could go wrong. “She’s too gorgeous for me.”
I don’t stand a chance.” “Maybe that’s really not a woman. If she show interest in me, then I know something is up.”
Now remember, this scenario could easily been set for men or women. The biggest difference would’ve been a woman may not have been so aggressive (But they are out there!)
Now after using the tools here and following what’s offered to you, it’s full steam ahead!
You’ll walk with pride. Head held high. Radiate more confidence. Your game plan is well into place! You’re ready to go out into the world because this is the only way where folks find their soul mate!
So guys & girls, don’t spend anymore weekend night’s alone staring at your cell phone waiting for a text message or wishing it would ring. Your friends will call wanting you to hang out with them, but you know it’s only because they need someone hold the camera and take the group photos. Or someone to sit, watch the purses & drinks while they dance.
Hell! You want a mate! A good male companion. Someone you can call a friend! (You know you have to become friends first before ‘lovers’).
Keep in mind that if you are seriously hunting for that special someone, then you need to know everything you can about your prey. Make your best shot count! Bag the best one you can!! Remember, with a well thought out plan of action, any man or woman can be yours.
FIVE BASIC APPROACHES FOR SINGLES…
First – As far as age goes, remember age ‘aint nothing but a number.’ You can still approach a sexy hot single regardless of what your age is. (of course, you don’t want to approach someone too young. Then you’ll come across as a ‘dirty ol’ man or woman.’)lol. Just use common sense.
I’m an older guy myself, but love to date younger women. Also, never let nationality get in the way. Lots of guys miss out on the possibility of scoring a winner thinking one-sided. (There are beautiful types of women in all races).
Second – People, understand that most folks love humor. They like a person that makes them laugh. You don’t have to be another Kevin Hart or Eddie Murphy, but if you feel that you want to joke around, go ahead and make them laugh. Just don’t be offensive!
I used this approach on a pretty girl I met while out buying dog and cat food. She was laughing at mostly everything I said, but unfortunately she was already in a relationship. (Hey…can’t win ’em all).
Third – Make conversation related to what ever you’re doing at the moment. Grocery shopping? Then ask her about the freshest fruit to buy, how to make a good salad or how high the store’s prices are. A woman out shopping makes eye contact. Then will ask a guy if he can reach something on a higher shelf for her. (it’s ok for the woman to be the aggressor sometime,) If you’re out walking your dog, you can meet many singles out doing the same as well. Be creative, friendly and smile a lot!
Fourth – Don’t be intimidated by a woman or guys outer beauty. (Inner beauty is what counts most). For example, guy’s think when they see a fine woman, she won’t speak or have time for them.
You’ll be surprised to find out that this woman is just as lonely as you. She realize her gorgeous looks are a ‘hinder’ instead of a ‘helper’ that is keeping guys at bay.
(I just gave a guy perspective because I’m a guy. But this touches both sexes).
Fifth – Just be yourself and have confidence. This is strongly recommended for the serious single guy, trying to get it together.
Try not to portray someone you’re not. You’ll go along ways just by being honest because you don’t want something later, to come back and bite you in the ass.
(REMEMBER: You never know what day, time or place that special someone may come along).
Build Your Self-Confidence
“How can I become more confident?” is the question most struggling, single people ask. Whether it’s about approaching women, dating them or just having sex.
For those still not confident enough, it all feels like a terrifyingly uncertain nightmare, and as a result, you worry about practically everything.
“What do I say?” “What do I do?” “Where do I take her?” “What if she doesn’t like me?” “What if she says no?”
“What if I’m not good at all?” “What if I throw up on her after too many shots?” What if, what if, what if….
Fortunately, in the last twenty years researchers have gained a lot of new insights into the origins and nature of confidence, and they allow us, finally, to explain exactly what it is:
Confidence is the realistic expectation you have of being successful at something, given (a) your competence at it and (b) the risk involved with doing it.
Take driving, for example. When you get behind the wheel now, as opposed to being a much younger inexperienced driver, you understand all the unseen risks and thus have a very high expectation of getting where you intend to go safe and sound.
Confidence Reflects Competence
Don’t think confidence is some kind of modern phenomenon through, just because people today don’t shut up about it. Confidence has been a thing for a long time.
In fact, confidence is part of your genetic makeup; it evolved over thousands of generations as a mental tool to guide our decision-making around risk.
A confident guy expects the woman to engage him in conversation when he goes up to say hi and introduce himself. He expects her to give him her number when he ask for it or to dance at the club.
He doesn’t think he deserves it or she owes it to him (unless he is also an entitled douche bag, which is entirely possible) – he just expects that he’s going to get it, even before he says a word. Why?
Because he’s done this dozens if not hundreds of times, with enough success to accurately predict the likely outcome. How can you realistically judge the likelihood of your success in a unique moment like that – or in any domain of life?
Your brain does it by unconsciously integrating a bunch of data from your memory and your current states. It adds up your past training, experiences, and successes, plus your present capabilities, to guide your decisions.
Your brain is like a mushy three-pound sports book between your ears, setting the line and shifting the odds on to your immediate future.
The most annoying thing about confidence, though, is that 90% of the time it’s dormant (or at least, it should be). It should only become an issue when you’re actively facing a risky challenge, not when you’re eating dinner or sitting at home trying to chose between watching football or Netflix.
Nobody walks around all day vacillating between confident and un-confident. That would be exhausting and pointless.
When a challenge does arise-like texting a new mate from eHarmony or having sex with a woman for the first time-your confidence system immediately switches on and delivers its verdict: what confidence level you should feel in this situation, given its rewards and risks in relation to your competence level.
For example, if your game is tight and you’ve had successful dates from eHarmony, your confidence is probably high. If you’ve had a history of striking out with women and a reputation as a two-pump chump with new ones, your confidence is going to be low.
Build Confidence Through Demonstrated Performance
So let’s talk about building confidence. (Remember, you’re never too old.) First thing’s first: there are No shortcuts! Anyone who tries to sell you their “Ten Tricks To Get Confident with Opposite Sex” is selling you bullshit!
If they tell you to visualize your mating success, then the actual secret is that they’re charlatans taking your money.
The only effective strategy for gaining real confidence is to develop skills and demonstrate performance of those skills.
Developing realistic self-confidence is truly that simple. All you have to do is get good at the things you want to feel confident about and then demonstrate those skills, to yourself and others. “No matter if you walking on your own two feet or in a wheelchair, go after what you want in confidence!”
This means learning, practicing and then consistently performing under real-life conditions, with real stakes, when people are watching.
Once you do that, confidence in that skill is almost automatic.
EVERYTHING STARTS WITH A SUCCESSFUL PLANNING PROCESS
When it comes to love and finding a mate for a long-term relationship, studies has shown that people need a clear set of instructions for specific actions.
I’ve outlined a five-step process which boils everything you need to do. Down to the simplest possible set of facts to learn, choices to make, and actions to take. The five steps are:
- GET YOUR HEAD STRAIGHT: Fix your mental framework regarding sound relationships; replace antique nonsense with state-of-art insights; develop confidence, understand the opposite sex point of views, and clarify your mating ethics and mating goals.
- DEVELOP ATTRACTIVE TRAITS: Understand what they want and why, and then give it to them by cultivating the key traits of physical health, mental health, intelligence, willpower, tenderness, and protectiveness.
- DISPLAY ATTRACTIVE PROOFS: Understand the signaling principles that underlie honest, hard-to-fake proofs of value, and construct your personal, professional, social, and romantic life around building and displaying those proofs.
- GO WHERE THE PEOPLE ARE: Understanding how the mating markets work, given the supply and demand of men and women; how to find that person who offer the highest value and the best compatibility, given your tastes and goals; and how to meet those people in specific places, from local leisure clubs to online dating apps.
- TAKE ACTION: Understand how to talk. Date them, have great sex with them (When the time is right), and learn from your experiences toward building a positive feedback cycle of personal improvement, and a sound relationship. All of which will help you create and execute your mating plan.
These steps are simple to understand, but they’re not always easy to accomplish. Anyone who tells you otherwise is selling you bullshit!
MY FINAL THOUGHT
So in conclusion, regardless if you’re a man or woman, you may not always come out on top every time playing dating games. Things have seriously changed within our world now, in regards to relationship seeking. In these difficult times we live in today, it’s very hard, as a single man or woman to meet ANYONE. (Covid 19 WON’T Allow It.) No one wants you in their face! There are plenty of good people out here, but you can’t get to know them when you have to stay ‘isolated’ & ‘six feet’ apart.
Now online dating is increasing in popularity. During past years, this style of meeting people for dating or possibly marriage has taken a ‘bad hit.’ But not anymore! Research has shown that 30% of US adults have used an online dating service. and 12% have found a committed relationship from it. Dating app usage is on the rise!
So if you are seriously searching for a mate who’s wanting the same thing as you, someone to fulfill that empty void in your life; then here are two fantastic sites I recommend. Check out: The Elite Source For meeting Singles. & ChristianCafe.
RON’S FINAL THOUGHT ON THE REALITY OF LOVE:
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