Dating Games | Selecting Compatible Mates

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How Playing The Dating Game Must Not Be Taken Lightly.

Serious Involvement Should Be Taken Into Consideration While Playing The Dating Game.

Men. Women. Love. Marriage. Society has long dictated that in order to build a successful relationship, complete with understanding and trust, there must be commitment. Playing dating games should take a backseat to a more settled life!

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        “Damn baby, you got some cold lips, but I like it.”

Now-a-day, folks entering into relationships have NO clue as to what those two words mean:

 TRUST & COMMITMENT!

Ah yes…Commitment! Just this word alone will have most folks shaking in their boots.

Therefore, just thinking about having that one last fling before taking the plunge gets you a little shaky! All you really want to do is keep on meeting those of the opposite sex.

Also, understand sometime that dating can be awkward. Asking someone out could be nerve wrecking! So how can you tell if he or she is interested in you?

The anticipation of a long lasting relationship with that special someone goes through your mind. The image you hold is long-term.

You don’t even care about how much money they make or material things they possess, or his or her background (This goes to show how desperate you are!).

But finding your mate doesn’t have to be out of desperation. It’s just experiencing ‘that feeling’. This is a feeling that will make you shout, “I think I’ve found my potential mate”.

So you really think you’re ready? See video…

DOES WHAT THEY DO MATTER?

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The type of occupation they have really doesn’t matter to you. They can be a computer geek repairing motherboards or replacing ram for laptops. Or they may work online, struggling to make a few bucks with a network marketing company.

Then again, maybe they just won’t work at all! (It makes them break out into a ‘cold sweat’ just thinking about going to job interviews. These feelings are experienced regarding either sex.)

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“Hey, drinking, scratching, and farting is what I do best.”

You know, ladies, some guys take great pride in being plain lazy. They are tired by the end of the day just from doing nothing!

Who wants some guy lying around the house all day smelly, drinking beer, eating fish & chips and playing video games on their Xbox?

You may really find yourself in that situation. After working two jobs, you come home one evening to discover this person with their feet up and playing video games.

But at least he did bathe earlier, so you’d have to give him that much credit! But or some reason, he still stink!

But all in all, romance is in the air. It’s everywhere! Even animals go into ‘heat’ and want to make a hookup. Meow! Meow!

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              “Biggest one I could find.”

These are just a few of the things you think about. Things you may or may not have to deal with.

Yet, before any preparations can be taken toward the ritual of marriage, the proper choice of a mate must take place. This is where you have to be careful!!

Now ladies and gentlemen, you sit down and question yourself. You think; “How do I meet someone who’s worth the time and effort?” “Will I regret this in the long run?” “Will I get taken for a buggy ride?” “Would I have to protect my money by changing banks and my password?” “Should I get a Prenup agreement?”

IMAGINE THIS SCENARIO….

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Suppose one night you’re watching your favorite crime program, “America’s Most Wanted.” The woman or man you’ve been dating for the past three years suddenly appear on the show’s ’10 Most Wanted list.’ Now what do you do?

Do you:

A) Jump on your cell phone and tell all your friends that your partner was on the tube.

B) Confront the person and let them know that you know about their past, secret life.

C) Get the hell outta there as fast as you can because they are wanted for double murder in three states.

Also, take a retrospective tour over past relationships. (you’ve found yourself doing a lot of that lately). Your mind starts to wonder;

“Were they fruitless or rewarding?

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“Was the failure due to something I may have done or failed to do?”

“Was the relationship timely?”

Maybe different time sets played a role with you being a modern 21st century individual and your potential soulmate stuck in the 60’s.

SEEKING MR. OR MRS. RIGHT

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I ridiculously profiled and poked fun at the numerous singles who line our city streets and singles bars. So get your laugh on!

And lets not forget those who have been deeply hurt and lied to most of their adult lives. Also, stay focused on the gold-digger’s and ‘lady hustlers’ coming out to stake their claim on some hapless soul.

The single person can work on and develop strategies now with ease! You may be walking down the street headed to a neighborhood store, to the mall, to pick up dog food, buy yourself some liquor or to any other area where there are people.

Say for example, you’re a guy and you spot a pretty woman in the area. Or maybe walking along the beach. Once noticing her, you’d spend a good amount of time thinking of what to say.

It takes you awhile to get up the nerve to approach her because due to numerous past rejections, you haven’t been feeling too good about yourself.

playing-dating-games                 Nice and peaceful walk along the beach.

Next, you would then start thinking of every excuse about what could go wrong. “She’s too gorgeous for me.”

I don’t stand a chance.” “Maybe that’s really not a woman. If she show interest in me, then I know something is up.”

Now remember, this scenario could easily been set for men or women. The biggest difference would’ve been a woman may not have been so aggressive (…..but they are out there!)

Now after using the tools here and following what’s offered to you, it’s full steam ahead!

You’ll walk with pride. Head held high.  Radiate more confidence. Your game plan is well into place! You’re ready to go out into the world and Get Any Woman You Want!

So guys & girls, don’t spend anymore weekend night’s alone staring at your cell phone waiting for a text message or wishing it would ring. Your friends will call wanting you to hang out with them, but you know it’s only because they need someone hold the camera and take the group photos. Or someone to sit, watch the purses & drinks while they dance.

Hell! You want a mate! A good male companion. Someone you can call a friend! (You know you have to become friends first before ‘lovers’).

Keep in mind that if you are seriously hunting for that special someone, then you need to know everything you can about your prey. Make your best shot count! Bag the best one you can!!

Now with all this valuable content you’ve discovered on my website; ‘How to Select a Compatible Mate’ and a well thought out plan of action, any man or woman can be yours.

FIVE BASIC APPROACH FOR SINGLES…

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First – As far as age goes, remember age ‘aint nothing but a number.’ You can still approach a sexy hot single regardless of what your age is. (of course, you don’t want to approach someone too young. Then you’ll come across as a ‘dirty ol’ man or woman.’)lol. Just use common sense.

I’m an older guy myself, but love to date younger women. Also, never let nationality get in the way. Lots of guys miss out on the possibility of scoring a winner thinking one-sided. (There are beautiful types of women in all races).

Second – People, understand that most folks love humor. They like a person that makes them laugh. You don’t have to be another Kevin Hart or Eddie Murphy, but if you feel that you want to joke around, go ahead and make them laugh. Just don’t be offensive!

I used this approach on a pretty girl I met while out buying dog and cat food. She was laughing at mostly everything I said, but unfortunately she was already in a relationship. (Hey…can’t win ’em all).

Third – Make conversation related to what ever you’re doing at the moment. Grocery shopping? Then ask her about the freshest fruit to buy, how to make a good salad or how high the store’s prices are. A woman out shopping makes eye contact. Then will ask a guy if he can reach something on a higher shelf for her. (it’s ok for the woman to be the aggressor sometime,) If you’re out walking your dog, you can meet many singles out doing the same as well. Be creative, friendly and smile a lot!

Fourth – Don’t be intimidated by a woman or guys outer beauty. (Inner beauty is what counts most). For example, guy’s think when they see a fine woman, she won’t speak or have time for them.

You’ll be surprised to find out that this woman is just as lonely as you. She realize her gorgeous looks are a ‘hinder’ instead of a ‘helper’ that is keeping guys at bay.

(I just gave a guy perspective because I’m a guy. But this touches both sexes).

Fifth – Just be yourself and have confidence.  This is strongly recommended for the serious single guy, trying to get it together.

Need more help in building up your confidence? No worries, just click here (For Men Only): ‘The Confident Man Program.’

(For Both Women & Men) Click here: ‘Get It Right!’

Try not to portray someone you’re not. You’ll go along ways just by being honest because you don’t want something later, to come back and bite you in the ass.

(REMEMBER: You never know what day, time or place that special someone may come along).

So in conclusion, you’re not going to come out on top every time playing dating games. But if luck is on your side and you do make a sweet ‘hookup,’ you want to make things interesting. Here are
300 Creative Dating Ideas to spice things up. Staying in the dating game is ‘Key.’ Keeping yourself available is important.

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RON’S FINAL THOUGHT ON THE REALITY OF LOVE:

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Editor’s Note: This post was originally published on January 24, 2017 and has been completely revamped and updated for accuracy and comprehensiveness.






Ronald Kennedy

Comedy writer, cartoonist and singer. Attended the Art institute of Chicago in 1980. Graduated from Malcolm X in 2000 with an associate's degree in applied science. Been working online since 2004

223 Comments:

  1. I like the way the site owner lays out there start page. It is done in a cleverly way and with a very good sense of humor. I felt myself engaged in the article that was written waiting for the next comical or clever thing to be said. I felt like the article was keeping my attention. I was looking forward to the answers that he or she was eluding to be coming at the end of the article. This is well written and in a very funny way.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you for chiming in, Patrick. Glad you enjoyed reading it. I always write material based on a mixture of comedy and real life stuff. A reader never know when the next surprise will hit. As long as the reader stays engaged, then I feel I’ve done my job. Thanks again for dropping by.

  2. Some great advice and good home truths here. I love the burping farting man you have pictured there, and boy don’t we all know a few of those. Sometimes love is really blind.

    I think the worst part for most people is actually making the effort and going out and meeting somebody. It is always scary at first, and I agree it isn’t always easy to find that special someone that you can connect with.

    Keep these helpful posts coming.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Michel and thank you for commenting. Glad you liked my article. I feel when the ‘love bug’ hit, some folks lose all control. They seem unconcerned about the person’s faults, they just want to be love. That’s the trouble with people, just the idea of being ‘in love’ is all they care about. That is what they consider a most important element in their lives. Then down the road, they realize a mistake was made (and it wasn’t on the other persons part).

      I agree when you stated their is some initial fear when hooking up the first time, but those are the chances you take until you do find the ‘perfect one’. Thanks again Michel for commenting. Let me know if I can assist you with anything else.

  3. I have read your posts before and like always, I was engaged in reading the content from top to bottom, nodding along and laughing a lot.

    Wow, you just touched some of most essential aspects of dating in today’s world, people just are unaware of what they are doing to themselves.

    Lol, I don’t know what I will do if I find someone I am dating on such a TV show, that’s a nightmare.

    So many programs built around dating now days really are making lives more miserable by just finding a way to make money by just using the fact that people are in need of partners. Being an affiliate marketer makes me aware of a new such product coming every month, your site is something that can save many such lives.

    Very nice post really, awesome read!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you Hari for your kind words. I’m glad you get some value and enjoyment from the post I write. I try to be as real as I could when touching on the ‘strange world’ of dating. There’s good and bad in everything. You never know just how that person is until you’re knee-deep into the relationship. It’s like quicksand!

      As you stated Hari, tons of dating and relationship programs being shown to viewers, but none you can take too seriously. Its really all about revenue for the tv network. Hey,Hari, If my site is shared enough, maybe I could step in and ‘save the day’ for others. ‘Ron,The Super Hero’. LOL

  4. Thank you Sam for commenting. You’re absolutely right whereas, folks out here on the dating scene don’t know what they want. They hookup with that person they feel is ‘the one’. then later, regret it in the long run. It seem today, as far as value in a relationship is concerned, that thought goes down the toilet. Value seems to mean nothing anymore.

    But don’t get me wrong Sam, there’s a lot of good people out there; it’s just hard to come across them in a sincere way. The personality just ain’t there! Thank you Sam for commenting. Let me know if I can help you with anything else.

  5. Thank you for your comment, sam. I do apologize for getting back to you so late. Yes, sometime being single establishes yourself against unwanted mental pressures and confusion. But you made some excellent points here, especially when you stated women hooking up with losers based on their emotions. One of the other major problems I see is women trying to change their man, once they get them. They want them to look and preform to their satisfaction. Then, down the road, the woman’s complaints start coming regarding their mate’s behavior, among other things. A lot of false hope is on display.

    Also, when it comes to children, some women take for granted that the man will eventually ‘warm up’ to the little brats. There’s problems right there. Can’t force someone else’s child on another. A ‘Big No No.’

    Again Sam, thanks for checking back in with me. If you have any other questions, comments or concerns just hit me up.

  6. Some great advice here! Commitment is that magical word that so many tend to be afraid of. Any relationship without commitment is no relationship at all, right? It builds trust and love grows stronger.
    I was so intrigued reading this from top to bottom. So many great insights and I like that you bring humor to the topic. Being single can be frustrating at times but I believe this article will bring a new level of happiness.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you Katie for commenting. Glad you saw some value in my site. Yes, the whole dating thing can be a gigantic bowl, in our society, of mixed nuts. Then sometimes things may roll out smooth as silk. (Depending on who you end up with and how the relationship evolves). I clearly understand that the word ‘commitment’ makes most dudes weak in the knees and want to run the other way.

      But it isn’t always all doom and gloom. There are many bright spots when a person looks forward to committing themselves to that special ‘one’ person. They don’t have to worry about running around, spending a lot of money on some woman that they later regret. (The guy figure that money would have been well spent on lottery tickets).

      I don’t know if you’re single or not Katie, but if you are, just hang in there. Mr. Right is bound to come along. (If not, I’m always here buried under the ‘sea of singles’. Just dig me up!)LOL

      Again, I want to thank you Katie for checking in. Please let me know if I can help you with anything else.

  7. It is true that we tend to overlook someone’s shortcomings when we are looking–sometimes desperately–for a partner to share life with. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing unless the shortcomings you are overlooking are like the anecdote you shared in your post…a criminal. =) I think it helps to have certain questions you want answers to and scenarios that you want to observe the person in. I also think that this is best done before two people are intimate. Our logical minds get foggy when we are being ruled by our body and not our mind. What do you think?

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Lucy, how are you? Thanks for commenting. A lot of times folks, especially after a recent breakup, rush right into another relationship mostly out of fear of being alone. Not really taking into consideration, no time was spent getting to know this new ‘flame’ (the one they claim ‘ignited their heart!…Yeah; right!)

      In their hearts of hearts, they feel good about their pick. No past investigation needed! (this turkey could’ve just been released from the state penitentiary last week). Then the woman complain later about how bad she’s treated. Same with a guy. He falls for the ‘smoking hot body and cute face.’ Never mind that she turns out to be ‘psyco’, (A straight up nut case!) This is what happens when guys think using the ‘wrong head.’

      You made some excellent points Lucy and I agree 100%. Thanks again for commenting. Please let me know if you have any other questions or concerns.

  8. Very interesting and informative article on dating mind games, I was married once a long time ago and it did not work out she abandoned me and my sons.

    Since then I have not been involved with anyone new, for the longest time I was damaged goods for the abuse from my formal partner.

    Most people don’t realize guys can be emotional damaged from a relationship as well, thank you for the great tips and article it did relate to my own experiences as well.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Jeffrey and thank you for checking in and commenting. Dating just like marriage could be a rough go as the months and years go by. We all hope the road get smother down the stretch, but sometimes things don’t always go in our favor. During your relationship with your ex, she probably made you feel that it was all your fault. I don’t know the detailed circumstances of your relationship breakup, but nine time out of ten, she was at fault as well. It’s even worse in your case that she took your kids. (that was a real Blow to the Gut).

      But Jeffrey remember, there’s always a brighter light at the end of the tunnel. What you need is a confidence boost. Click on this link Jeffrey, Follow it. It’ll point you in the right direction:hop=…

  9. Hello Ronald

    This is an interesting read and anyone who has been in the dating field will at one time or the other experienced.

    Now looking back( I’m older, been there done that)I think most young people are more affected with dating games as young people are not yet sure if this is the one or if they are ready to commit or settle down.

    The dating field is a jungle, and with the internet making dating more international, it`s even harder, the woman/man of your dreams who you meet online is not always the person they claim to be. It`s funny you should mention a feeling of desperation when single, and it`s funny that I had this feeling when I was much younger. I think as we get older, there is more security, we are more confident with who we are.

    Very informative and really enjoyable read, thanks so much for sharing, I have bookmarked your site, not because im single but because I like your way with words and would like to keep reading your posts.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Roamy, thank you for stopping by and commenting. Yes, Roamy the ‘dating arena’ is loaded with a vast array of superficial characters. ready to pounce on the vulnerable. Those who just got out of a relationship, weak and harboring a sense of desperation.

      Many young folks jump from the frying pan to the fire, with no sense of direction. No purpose. As you mentioned Roamy, with the help of the internet and its ton of online dating services, things have grown so out of control, like an open field of marijuana invaded by 1960 hippies. Even my own younger days, were filled with young ‘untapped’ women (and I tried my best to ‘tap’ them all).

      Age kinda slows us all, but some of us still do are thing. (there maybe ‘snow on the roof top,’ but still ‘fire in the furnace.’) I agree age does keep you grounded and your confidence is at an ‘all time high’; which is a good thing.

      Thanks again for stopping in and let me know if I can do anything else. Check back any time.

  10. I think this article is very interesting.

    How much time do you think that we should spend getting to know someone before we decide to be exclusive?

    It seems to me that women do choose based on feelings, while men choose within the first minute that they want some kind of relationship with a woman. What kind of a relationship that they want remains to be seen tho…

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Irma, how are you? Thanks for dropping by. I’m glad you found value in my article and found it interesting. Sometime, when it comes down to dating, some folks end up with some weird characters. But we never find out how weird he or she are until much later into the relationship. Some of us move too quickly before getting to know what the other person is all about.

      I feel the appropriate ‘wait’ time before folks become exclusive is six weeks. Could even be sooner, but things should just progress naturally. I always tell folks you’ll know this is the one when you get the ‘feeling’. It’s that special ‘feeling’ you get when everything just ‘feeeels right.’ (This is that magical moment)!

      Yes I agree with you Irma, that women do settle into relationships based on feelings, while us dudes think more of a sexual relationship right from the start. When we look into those pretty eyes, and those pretty eyes are embedded into a ‘cute’ face which is attached to a ‘smoking hot body’,….then the thought of sex is not far behind.

      Again I want to thank you Irma for commenting. Let me know if you have any additional questions.

  11. I really enjoyed this article. As a single woman I can relate to many of the topics brought up even though I am not currently looking for a relationship it is nice to know that there are helpful tools out there! I have been in countless situations where the question of “What are we?” always comes up and it is extremely awkward from any point on after that. I think I will take a look at this book because it sounds very interesting and I always love reading relationship advice even though I’m not in one! 🙂

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Mallory and thank you for commenting. When it comes down to dealing in the ‘world of dating,’ there’s a good chance the single man or woman is guaranteed to involve themselves in some type of issue or crazy situation. Seems some folks, while in a relationship, tend to have the roving eye for others, which of course, never lead to any good.

      When you mentioned that the old question always arise, after a courtship goes for a while; the ‘What are we? (which is the same thing as a person asking,”Where is this going?” or “What about us?” ) Personally, my response to these questions would not leave me awkward, but would have me thinking; …”uh oh.” (This is where I alter my game plan.)

      Mallory, if you like comedy and would like a ‘jump start’ recognizing the different types of crazy profiles regarding the opposite sex, then you’ll love “How to Select a Compatible Mate”. Check it out.

      Again, thank you my friend for commenting. Please let me know if I can help you with anything else.

  12. Well, maybe I cannot practice the tips above. Because I’ve a pretty girlfriend already. But, you have a wonderful set up for your page here. I like how you build the imagination of the reader trough humorous way. Nice article 🙂

    I’m just wondering do you writing a humor book also? If not, I think you can try to start one.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Satria, how are you? Glad you stopped by. Can I offer you a glass of wine? lol. I just like to make my readers feel comfortable in my own crazy way. I hope you found my article entertaining. It’s a good thing that you’re in a solid relationship. (at least, you don’t have to run around looking for anyone). Congrats to you.

      When I write, I love to work with the concept of how relationships can develop through unorthodox ways. But whatever method a person uses, as long as it works that’s all that matter. Sometime Its easy, other times it may take a little work. But the goal is always the same; winning the prize.

      You also mentioned about me writing a book. Well, as a matter of fact Satria, I did. It’s called “How to Select a Compatible Mate.” If you like to see a complete review of my book, go here; Thanks again for dropping in. Let me know what you think about my book review.

  13. Hi,

    I love the advice for building the confidence to get over the “excuse hump” and walk up to the person. Great tips and advice on here that everybody needs to read.

    As a single guy I found this pretty spot on! keep it up please!

    I agree I think far too many people worry about the response they might get and how it will feel if they fail. We spend more time on thinking about that than thinking about what it could possibly turn into!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      What’s up Jordan? Thanks for dropping by to voice your opinion on The mighty “World of ‘Dating.” Don’t you just love it, Jordan? Some folks make the search harder than what it should be. Most of the time it’s just being in the ‘right place, at the right time’. 

      I try to provide meaningful information that is valuable to you and other readers. Useful advice for all. Guidance is what’s needed to walk that path regarding landing that ‘special someone’. I even help readers thru my humor book, which displays the many different profiles of the sexes. Jordan, as a single guy, you may get a big kick out of this. Take a look at this sample: I agree that most folks, mainly guys, fear rejection from a pretty girl and never make that first move. They experience failure in their minds before initiating ‘the hunt,’ and zeroing in on the prime target. Gotta get it right! I always say just don’t let low-self esteem and shamefulness get in the way of what otherwise could be s sizzling ‘hot’ romance.

      Thanks again Jordan for stopping by. Let me know if I can do anything else for you.

  14. H Phomrong Maring

    Ronald, your website is indeed a valuable mate finding platform. Yes in life, getting a lifelong partner is not an easy task. Because the saying goes that partnership is made in heaven and marriage takes place on earth. And this fact also cannot be overlooked.

    Your offering of a site where partners can come together and click themselves for life is, socially speaking, a great contributing platform for the ladies and gentlemen of this globe and I hope to see that many dreams will be fulfilled about finding real soulmates through this dating site.

    However the first picture of two frogs representing two passionate lovers may be changed if you can.Human attributes and its vestiges may not be brought down to the level of the frogs although you might have done it for humour’s sake in my humble suggestion Instead why don’t we go for some ravishing pictures say of Monalisa or of the great Hercules for that matter so that there’s lots of traffics visiting your site.
    No doubt, the video collection is a fine one to mention with and I wish that so many lonely souls get value and find their way out from this LoveFolks.

    All the best of luck.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thanks H Phomrong for commenting on the site. I’m glad you found some value in my article. I just lay everything out there and hopefully the reader may see themselves in my writing. They most likely will say, “Damn! That sounds just like me.” 

      Some folks seeking that ‘perfect someone’ feels like it takes forever and they start feeling it just not to be. (A daunting task for sure). But when it happens, they will tell…sparks will fly. You’ll know this is the one. You’ll get that ‘special feeling.’

      Hopefully, my site will guide folks down the right ‘love’ path. Even my book, ‘How to Select a Compatible Mate’        will give folks a ‘heads-up’ in regards to showcasing the different profiles of the sexes (in a very humorous way). A little help goes a long way!

      As far as my site appearance goes, visual images are important, along with great content, as far as holding one’s attention. Everyone loves humor and I always incorporate that into any work I produce. All writers should have their own signature and creative style of writing. I’ve established my own brand a while back and is sticking to it!

      Thanks again H Phomrong for checking in. Let me know if I can do anything else for you.

  15. Marriage is definitely in my future I am just waiting for the right time. There is a lot of confusion out there about marriage and it is people like you who are helping to dispel the myths and make the truth clear.

    When two people love each other so much that they want to spend the rest of their lives together raising a family and spreading joy, that’s when you know its special.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hello my friend. Nice to hear from you again. I wasn’t sure by your last comment, if you were already married or not. I was gonna lay some more additional advice on you. I’m glad marriage is counted in your future. Hey Dagda, when the time is right, make it special. Enjoy that special magical moment.

      I try to make the information I convey, clear and concise. Info we all can understand and live by. Of course, most things I write about has a humorous overtone. No matter the subject.

      Like you said, when you find that special someone, you know love will ‘hold it together’. Marriage is usually the next step. But marriage is not for everyone. Many folks are excited just about the idea of ‘being in love’ and not really knowing the ‘true meaning’ of the word.

      A strong and happy marriage, along with having and raising children, is what it’s all about. Let me know how it’s going in your relationship, when the Big Day is set. Again, congrats to you Dagda. Stay in touch.

  16. Great topic indeed.
    The question of finding a suitable partner is a universal issue.
    Some of us go into new relationshipd blindly, without having done some research about your partner.
    Sometimes we even become intolerant towards our partners because of the fact that we haven’t done some due deligence.
    I will surely use this information to my advantage the next time I’m forced to go out on a hunting

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hello my friend, thank you for stopping by. Thanks for appreciating my writing. The subject of love is a world-wide topic that covers much ground in regards to the sexes. Many search for love in all the wrong places. (I have a couple of friends that fit this bill).

      I agree with you when you mentioned about folks jumping into relationships too soon and not really getting to know their partner. (It happens all the time.) Any man or woman, as you say, going in ‘blindly’ is doomed for failure before the relationship ever gets going.

      When couples hook up that doesn’t know each other well, the arguments and disagreements soon began. Next, starts the cheating and lying and then someone’s MURDERED! lol (…I just had to throw that last one in).  

      But seriously, a good relationship is built on lots of love, honesty and trust. That’s way so many couple’s relationship fall apart because these ‘key’ ingredients are not included. 

      Thank you themac20 for commenting. Let me know if I can help you with anything else.

  17. Thank you my friend for checking in and commenting. But most importantly, I’m glad you liked it and thought it was wonderful. That really makes my day! Sometime the world of dating and relationships can become a crazy thing. Lots of folks get out there not knowing what they wanna do!

    I’m glad you found some truth in my post. I know some of the things I’ve written would have you thinking; “Did I do that?!” LOL! We all handle certain situations in our own way, in regards to dating.

    I feel many of us search for love, in other words; our ‘soul mate’, in all the wrong places. That’s why relationships ‘fizzle’ out before ever getting off the ground. So sad! Not enough research done on the man or woman of their dreams.

    Thanks again for commenting. Check in with me anytime, if you have any questions.

  18. Such good advice on what to look for in a partner. Too many people settle for an abusive relationship because it’s all they know. Great tips on questions to ask yourself about the person you’re thinking of dating. It’s so important that you make sure this person respects you and will treat you well before you enter a relationship with them.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Marie. Thanks for checking in and commenting. Thank you for the complement. I try to tell it like it is; even if I have to air my own ‘dirty laundry.’ lol. But seriously, it does take a lot of work and time to make any relationship sustain ‘staying power.’

      One person going one way, and the other in another direction won’t cut it! Now-a-days, folks hate to compromise. There mind is set to only how they see things working. This is a one-sided affair! These types of situations only occur when one person don’t take time to know the other. Maybe that person had an abusive relationship, but never disclosed their past to you.

      With that said, this is why communication is so important! You must communicate by asking questions before getting ‘knee-deep’ into something you may lose control over and start regretting later. Yes, respect is ‘Key.’ Make each day count!

      Again, thanks Marie for stopping by. Let me know if you have any other questions or concerns.  

  19. Ron, I see some great advice on a foundation level, but I’m still looking for the formula for breaking through that resistance, (hers and mine) when I strut up to a very hot number and try to break the ice. If I’d done this a few dozen more times in my younger years I’d have lots of notches on my belt, but now I need a better pitch, and I’m not looking for a notch, just a solid relationship with a sexy lady that can enjoy the things we can share…
    Can you lay a basic plan on me?

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Steve. Thanks for checking in with me and commenting. Yes the ‘world of dating’ can get pretty tough. But then again Steve it’s all about the seeker’s personality and their confidence level, when it comes down to the actual seeking process.

      First, as far as age goes; remember, age ‘aint nothing’ but a number.’ you can still approach a sexy hot mama regardless of what your age is. (of course, you don’t want to approach and try talking to a chick too young. Then you’ll come across as a’dirty ol’ man.’)lol

      I’m an older guy myself, but date younger women. Also, never let nationality get in the way. Lots of guys miss out on the possibility of scoring a winner thinking one-sided. (There’s beautiful women in all races). 

      Second my friend, understand that women love humor. They like a man that makes them laugh. If you feel that you want to joke around, but not being offensive, and get her laughing, then you can give yourself a ‘brownie point’ (I did this on a pretty girl I met while out buying dog and cat food) Steve, you can also make conversation related to what you’re doing at the moment. 

      If grocery shopping, ask about the freshest fruit to buy or how to make a good salad. Or if you’re out dog walking, you can meet many ladies out with their pets. Be creative, friendly and smile a lot!

      Thirdly Steve, just be yourself and have confidence. Try not to portray someone you’re not. You’ll go along ways just by being honest because you don’t want something later, to come back and bite you i n the ass. Remember Steve, you’re not going to come out on top every time, but at least, stay in the game by keeping yourself available.

      Also, I strongly recommend you download a copy of this inexpensive book. This will show you how to build up confidence and much, much more. I’ve had others get this material and they like it. Click the link below:

  20. Hi Ron,
    I really enjoyed your post on how to play the dating game and selecting a compatible mate. Lot’s of good tips and tricks from a guy that’s had his share of hits….and maybe a few misses lol.
    I like your reference to the guy that sits at home, smelly and playing video games. I happen to have had several women friends who actually had this happened – literally floored me. How can anyone think this ok? Well, apparently some guys do.
    I enjoyed your 5 tips for the guys. Totally agree that guys should not be intimidated by beauty. It’s not out of the realm of possibility that the prettiest girl doesn’t get asked to home coming or sits home on a Friday night because guys are too intimidated by her beauty.
    Your fifth point, and my favorite, is be confident and be yourself. Confidence is sexy and people are drawn to it. When someone is comfortable and confident in their own skin, it attracts people to them.
    Thanks again!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Mat A, my friend. Thanks for dropping in and commenting. I’m glad you enjoyed my site and found value in it. The ‘dating arena’, if you will, can be a crazy place. Each lonely soul seems to be reaching out and searching for something. Some folks don’t even know what they’re really looking for in a mate.

      I always say you can’t win them all, but always give yourself a fair chance. When I think back on some of my single buddies, I think of a life-time of loneliness. These guys want their cake, and eat it too. One of my friends claim he wants a stay at home ‘main lady,’ but at the same time out picking up every ‘skeezer’ and ‘hooker’ off the street. Again, dudes don’t know what they want!

      The things you pointed out on my site, (especially the video portion) would make most guys think to themselves, ” Do I stink like smelly gym socks, ass and corn chips, playing video games all day?”  “Is that why the cat won’t come near me?” You gotta get it together dude!

      Guys on the lookout has to clean up their act, build up confidence, smile and just be themselves in a pleasant way to capture a woman’s interest.

      Mat A, thanks again for dropping in. Let me know if you have any other questions or concerns.

  21. Hello Rjkennedy,

    I’m not single at the moment, but this would be interesting for my friend who has never dated.

    The best part about this is no physical interaction from the start, so you can make yourself comfortable first.

    It’s never easy especially with the fear of rejection, but at least you know the other party is also interested and looking while using this platform.

    Thank you,
    Eric

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Eric. Thank you for checking in with me and commenting. There was the movie, ‘Forrest Gump’ that came out I think in the early 9o’s, with Tom Hanks playing the lead role. He was sitting on a park bench eating a box of chocolate candy. A lady shared the bench with him. As he was slowly eating, he looked up and then looked over at the lady. Then in that country drawl; he said; “Life is like a box of chocolates, ya never know wha’cha gonna get!”

      I bring this up because the same principle, just like the box of chocolate, applies to dating. A man or woman, who ventures out into the dating arena, seeking that significant other never know what they gonna get. Eric, just keep that in mind if you were ever back out in the dating world. But if you got yourself a good woman, keep her.

      As you stated, maybe your friend should look at the article. In fact Eric. send him my URL and let him choose which category he want to read. (I have several!) Feeling comfortable around someone you first meet, is one of the main ingredients in regards to having ‘things kick off right’. Once the ball gets rolling and overtime, things will start falling into place; then you’ll know she’s the one. 

      Thanks again Eric for stopping by. Let me know if I can do anything else for you.

  22. That’s right, nowadays new generation of people dating don’t understand what’s trust and commitment.

    Because these days everything is a game and people are so self centered that they don’t even care about feelings of others and relationships has just become a game now.

    But that’s the influence of people culture I think. Everything is a single-use product right now, relationships included.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Tyler. Thanks for checking in and commenting. Yes my friend, the dating world can sometimes send a normal person insane trying to figure out the maneuvers and strategy  of the opposite sex. LOL. You’re right Tyler, that trust and commitment should top the list, as what a person want in a relationship. There’s not enough honest folks around to stay in a committed relationship. People feel the grass is always greener on the other side!

      When you mentioned games being played, it put to mind a couple of my buddies I sometime hang out with. They’re always out ‘playing the game’ and would never take the time out to get to know someone. It’s only about sex with them and that’s it!! (And they both wonder why they’ve been lonely for the past twenty years). But I guess that’s just the way it goes. To each his own!

      I agree with you about the culture thing. But it’s really how men and women conduct themselves in society today. Most women who look good, walk around with their nose in the air thinking they’re too good to talk to guys that don’t measure up. These are the games the pretty women play; it helps build their self esteem. These are the type of women that always need their confidence lifted. Without that lift, they’ll come cashing down like a ‘fallen star from the sky.’

      Thanks again Tyler for stopping by. Let me know if I can do anything else for you.

       

  23. Good information, charming and funny! Dating is intimidating, but not nearly as daunting as getting INVOLVED! It is nice to see the side-by-side advice for men and women. It is true – confidence is attractive, fellas! Thank you for laying out lots of issues to consider in a light-hearted fashion! You are a wise and witty man.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thanks Michelle for checking in and commenting. ‘Love is a many splendor things’ (at least, that’s what the song title says. But I really don’t know how true that saying nor where do you apply it? We can all appreciate true love, as long as it’s genuine. But true love is hard to find in our society today! Too many phonies out there. Folks not being themselves, or as you stated too intimidating, making dating sometime too uncomfortable.

      It’s great if you find that ‘special someone’ but you never know how anyone is until you get involved. (This is the action which makes us all a little nervous). But as they say, there’s somebody for everybody.

      Dating can make a person who’s seeking ‘that special someone’ a nervous wreck! You have to weed out all the bad apples, to get down to the ‘good crop’. So to all seekers, keep on digging and searching; your bound to come up with a winner!

      Again, I want to thank you my friend, for checking in with me. Let me know if I can do anything else for you.

  24. Trust and commitment are certainly one of the top two traits required for a successful relationship. Do you think people fall “in love” too quickly?

    I have a friend that will say he loves a girl every other week. I once asked what her last name was, and he couldn’t answer!

    There is a lot of good advice here for guys. A lot of men seemed intimidated by beautiful women. When really, these women just want a guy to talk to her like everybody else.

    Thanks for the article and good luck everybody finding your mate.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you, my friend Ernest for checking in. There is an enormous amount of energy spent over time, when it comes down to searching, finding and landing that compatible mate. (Not always an easy task). A couple trying to make things work, must understand that trust is the ‘key’ subject towards success.

      Yes I do agree with you that some folks fall in love too quickly, that’s why most relationships fail. There’s no time in getting to know each other. Some folks just like the idea of just being in love, and place no bearing on the relationship in itself.

      Ernest, your friend is just out there looking just to get laid! (He have no interest in being serious. I have a couple of friends like that too). I bet he has no problem meeting beautiful women, but only for more sex and less conversation. I hope he’s carrying a pocket of ‘raincoats’ for protection. He’s gonna need them!

  25. Haha……really loved the cartoons – I think the one with the cats really did it for me…

    I believe that everyone should have a best friend of the opposite sex – cos they just may end up marrying them.

    What’s a best friend? Someone who listens and understands at most times and can be there for you and vice versa. Someone you have plenty in common with and can hold a decent conversation.

    The dating game is very over for me…however, I have bought lots of new clothes and am getting stares from both women and men offering to give me seats on buses…I wonder why?? The clothes are smart and not revealing…No makeup…just colour coordinated.

    Non-verbal communication also speaks volumes too..

    Hmm…this post is getting real long – exit stage left!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you, Thank you & Thank you! Glad you enjoyed this read. I love providing great, entertaining reading to my readers. Cartooning & humor at its best! (…not to be tooting my own horn, but what the heck; somebody gotta do it).LOL.

      I think what you say may have some truth in it regarding friends of opposite sexes. Only thing about that is how cool the persons partner would be with this. (Jealousy for sure, will rear its ‘ugly head!’) Normally, I think most long term close relationships do lead to marriage.

      Stella, you shouldn’t give up on the dating scene too soon. There’s a lot of ‘fish in the sea.’ Keep the nice clothes going. (you see you do get noticed). By the tone of your letter, I assume you’re single. I do offer some great material geared for single people. Great confidence builders. Go back Seller, and lake a look. Let me know if you need any help or additional information.

  26. I think the article offers great psychological information in a humorous way. I especially found the captions to the pictures funny. THREE BASIC FORMS OF EFFECTIVENESS was a great article in that it captures the three most effective attributes of a man in a simple, read format. I appreciate the major points in it. Thanks!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you Virginia my friend. Good captions launch the pictures to greater humorous heights! Glad they were able to ‘tickle your funny bone.’ Regarding that list, those simple forms of effectiveness are basic guidelines to help dudes get their act together. Major points NOT to be ignored. Guys must take heed….it may be your last go around! 

  27. The Internet and social media has become a way of life for people to communicate, people are hungry for information and possible answers to their problems

    Online dating sites have become a highly popular way for single people and those wanting to start a romantic relationship again. I admire that you have started a dating site it takes a lot of time, hard work, and creativity If your main objective is to unite people who are compatible and find true love then your site has real potential as moneymaking businesses

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Richard, how are you? Online dating has been around for years. Some are successful, some are ‘time wasters.’ In regards to social media, this arena is the ‘launching pad’ to potential hookups. Sometime you have to be careful with what you’re getting involved with. My site isn’t a ‘dating site’ per say; but web pages where a reader can come and read into the ‘concept of dating’ along with other helpful advice.

  28. Hilary Bassakaropoulos

    This should be compulsory reading for all before it’s to late! Wish `i had read it many years ago! Unlike many websites the written content and the videos are not only useful and amusing, they do contain so much good advice.
    If those who are ready to go dating read this beforehand, they are a lot more likely to make the right choices…..but then there’s love ….and that can make it so hard to do the sensible thing! BTW Love your quote – it’s so true.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Hilary. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. Yes, love is an uncontrollable emotion that gets plenty of us in trouble. I agree with you that this type of article should have been out years ago. (Where was WA when we needed them?)lol. It seems like we all need some ‘prepping’ before venturing out among the vast sea of potential suitors. The dating game can be ruthless, and yet, sometimes a bit tricky if not careful.  

  29. It’s so true that people starting out in a relationship these days have no idea what they are getting into. It takes a lot of work to maintain longterm relationships anyway, but if you end up with someone not compatible I know it can be bad. I’m very lucky to have found someone who I can both put up with and love through any faults.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      As they say Jaime, it “takes two to tango.” Both parties have to be on the same page to make it all work. If one person has their own idea of what makes a relationship works and the other is going in the opposite direction, then that’s the recipe for disaster. I agree that it takes a lot of hard work to keep a bond tight between couples! Congrats to you on finding ‘Mr. Right!’

  30. Haha oh yes the dating game. Great read and yes it is important to have a goal on what you want to achieve. Also loved the 14 red flags video. It reminded me of when I was 23 and I had an excuse to all of the red flags I knew I saw in my hearts of heart. Keep educating the young ones so they do not make the same mistakes I made. Or at least fewer of them 🙂

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hey Cliff, educating these ‘young bucks’ regarding love and the ‘dating game’ is so important. Passing on good, experienced information down to these youngsters is one thing…looking for them to follow sound advice is another. Most already have their minds made up and focused on how to play their own game. Oh, the misguided!

  31. Drama queens… lol
    But you’re right.
    One must really trust someone and trust that they won’t be a drag. Oh my goodness,,, that Is horrible. Reason why I think one should be best friends first.
    Then date at least a year so they see how they react on everything; especially holidays. Seriously.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hey, drama queens help keep the excitement going in our dreary lives. LOL. But seriously, everybody needs somebody. For a relationship to show any long-term signs of stability, one must take the other seriously by becoming friends first, then lovers second. A winning formula that works every time!

  32. I love your sense of humor! It really makes it interesting! I do think however, that you should try to spread out your advertising for products, instead of leaving them all to the very end. Maybe incorporate them into your writing by segments. Good work though, very entertaining! And maybe give people an opportunity to engage with you

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Heather, and thanks for checking in. Glad you got a kick out of this article. Usually, I would disapprove a ‘feedback type’ reply, but If It’s something displayed that would have me take a ‘second look’, then I’ll look into it. Happy I was able to entertain you and thanks. 

  33. This is a great article to give guidance to a successful relationship, I have been in many relationships and I have always said at the beginning that without trust, appreciation, communication and loyalty then a relationship will not survive.

    This is great for people who have rocky relationships and need to have some guidance how to fix there problems.

    Keep up the great work, have a great day and all the success and prosperity that you deserve.

    Kind regards.

    Dean.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you Dean. I try my best to give the best dating advice I could. It’s cool if most people would follow my advice then maybe people would stay together longer. As you stated Dean, it’s all about trust, honesty and good communication to keep things ‘going strong.’ Good guidance is ‘key!’

      • You are definitely right there buddy, even at the beginning of my relationships I mention these key factors and they are agreed upon mutually but as the relationship progresses the true colours of that person comes out and things start to change.

        Obviously at the start of the relationship, many people do not like to reveal their true selves just in case the other person does not like them. In my eyes, that is being deceitful because they are hiding behind something that is not real and the relationship ends in disaster. Just be yourself from the beginning and if the other person does not like it then it is not meant to be, go find the person who is meant to be:-)

        Thank you once again for sharing you truly have a good heart and I wish you everything you desire and deserve, take care.

        • Dean, it seems that when it comes down to a good, bonding relationship, a ‘roller coaster’ of emotions are involved. As you stated, they wear a false mask until the feel they got the other one hooked. They slowly then start exposing their true self. Deceitful? Yes! Do this happen quite frequently? Yes! This is why, down the road, most relationships just ‘fizzle out.’ Honesty & good communication is ‘key.’

          • I totally agree with you my friend, I have just come out of a relationship and that was exactly the case and thats why it did not work. Some people need to get to know themselves and love themselves, I say this to people and the majority say ” well I am not vein” It is not about loving your appearance, its about feeling good about who you are and accepting yourself, looking in the mirror and saying “I LOVE THAT PERSON” if you do not love yourself then you will not be able to love others 100%. Have a great day buddy and take care :-).

          • Yes Dean, you do have to feel good about yourself before you can share that good feeling with someone you really want to know. I agree, you have to love yourself. If you can’t do that then you’ll be wondering why you’re still alone. Then it may just be your personality towards others that stink! Thanks for checking back in with me.

  34. Ah, yes, the dating game! Often times, more like walking a mine field.

    I found finding a perfect soul mate and the perfect person to live with are not necessarily one and the same thing.

    Common goals, respect for each other, supporting each other’s professions is so important. However, when one falls in love, one forgets about all things practical. 

    There should be more education on emotional intelligence. We learn all manner of things in school, but emotional intelligence is overlooked. And yet, the lack of the same is causing us much unhappiness. 

    Because, if we ourselves are not happy by ourselves, nobody else can do this for us. Only when this job is done, one should seek to be in a relationship. We are each responsible for our own feelings and it’s not the other person’s job to make us happy or make life ‘better’ for us. 

    Happy dating!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Alenka. Thanks for checking in. Yes, the dating world and the games played, can sometime be a world-wind of mixed emotions. In relationships, people come and go; later realizing they should not have been together in the first place. I agree Alenka, the practical things goes out the window once the ‘love bug’ hits and you get comfortable with each other. Things change pretty quickly.

  35. Hey Ron,

    I’m married and I have two kids. Why am I reading this article then?

    As I’m married, a lot of my friends ask me how to choose and recognise their other perfect half. They think I have the right answers for them, as me and my wife are still in love with each-other after 10 years of marriage. The truth is I don’t really know the answer or the secret. I’m just lucky enough. 

    From your article I have some fun insights to share with my friends and for sure a place to redirect the interested ones.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Congrats to you Leo for keeping the excitement going after 10 years. You must be doing something right. (lots of couple aren’t even close!) There isn’t any formula or great tips on how to stay with your spouse. It just how compatible you are with your mate. Relationships take time to grow. They have to remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day!

  36. Tower Bridge Consultants LLC

    I really liked the pictures and the funny lines you through in when writing the article. There is a lot of useful information that is very practical and easy to apply as long as you have the confidence in yourself. Your writing style is great and very conversational.

    Ron I would love to read about your story and how you found your one true love…

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thanks for checking in with me, tower and your kind compliments. I try my best to entertain my readers by giving them what they want. Hope you found some value in this article. In regards to your question about mr, I met my wife over forty years ago in a Chicago northside bar. We had two daughters together, but in the later years she got sick and died July 2015. (a week after our 37th year anniversary). You can read more on my profile.

  37. finding someone perfect for you is really hard. You may not get the best of everything . I am sure  you have to tolerate some bad behaviours. It is just how much you can take it. If you can’t take it, then don’t do it. Find someone else. Everyone has their good and bad. You just have to find a common balance.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Right Kit. Finding the right person will complete most people’s lives an secure their happiness. But then again, that’s not always the case! Some have what they may think is a perfect mate, but still venture out to seek others. Like you stated Kit; bad behaviour. But don’t deal with it….move on!

  38. Ron, as a single guy myself, I felt like this was a very helpful article. Haha, I am currently looking to get in a relationship so have been trying to find good girls so these are great things to keep in mind. Age is only a number is very true. All the relationships I’ve ever had was with girls who were older than me. You give great tips also to find the girl and maybe keep one as well once you find it. Humor is something I definitely need to work on as I take things too seriously sometimes. Excited to try it out in my next day. Eeek, wish me luck 🙂

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hang in there Parmi. There’s somebody for everyone. When you mentioned the type of women, as far as age, you’ve dealt with, you remind me of my own son. He always end up with older women. (I’m just the opposite, I like them much younger than me.) But Like I always say, age is only a number. A good personality matters most!

  39. Thanks for sharing. I totally agree with you that chemistry is important in a relationship. But for me, the fundamental is about accepting who that person is. To understand a person, sometimes sacrifices are required. But the truth is, many people nowadays refuse to “give” but rather “take” as much as they can. That’s why relationship become fragile. Don’t you think so?

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Yes Florence I do agree to a certain extent. All are not ‘takers’. Some look for a ‘level of balance’ within a relationship, but do find the scales of relationship justice tipping in favor of the other party. Those who it favor couldn’t care less about the other person’s feelings. When this happen, it’s time to move on. Please share this article with others.

  40. Just be yourself and have confidence. This is the best advice ever. If you pretend to be somebody that you’re not pretty soon the truth will come out and you’ll be in trouble.

    There is always the right guy for a lady, some say. i believe if you wait and really try to know the other person, you will know in your heart if he’s “the one.”

    Prayer also helps, in God’s perfect timing, you will find each other.

    Marita

    • Ronald Kennedy

      You’re right Marita. When the time is right, the right person is bound to appear in your life. God will make the connection. Just have to be patient. Like I mentioned earlier, just being yourself and not ‘over acting’ will go a long ways.

  41. When it’s come to dating, am always extraordinary careful, you have just nailed why am always careful in this article, commitment and trust really matters alot, the worst relationship u can have is when your supposed partner is finding difficult to trust u, even after trusting u, how is he or she ready to be committed to the relationship, dating is not just about rushing to tell someone u love her or him, trust and commitment matters alot, thanks for this article 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Yes my friend, Yormith96. Commitment and honesty does top most folks list. Some couples just stay together for the sake of just being with someone. (They just don’t wanna be lonely). Hell, they may even know their partner is cheating, but just don’t care out of the fear that if they leave, they may not find anyone else. Love is a crazy thing!

  42. I personally feel like you made it a male how to rather than a couple how to.   you have much info yet its like you are making jokes at the expense of a woman.

     For those who appreciate sites and dating games I think you hit right on, if that s what they like, however a woman like my self reading it, I see it a bit chauvinistic and its more of a guide for men to get a date rather than a couples site.

     No disrespect  but it didn’t seem like a dating site. 

    We all have our own beliefs and what not and I just seen it as a negative when it came to women, and my personal opinion on finding that soul mate or that person thats suppose to be the love of your life, I don’t think you can read up on it, I believe that real true love will find you because if it was that easy for one to pick there soulmate to be in love everyone would be there, 

    I think it comes when u least expect it and that you cant just pick up a book, go online, or use  a dating site to find that, now I am sure there are a few people who have experienced that, yet if they were put together by such things then it would be an arranged thing, with one or both families benefiting off the two being one union.

     If that is the case whats the difference in a golddigger and reading up and checking out one that  you are picking?? That still does not constitute for having found love. 

    anyways dude I hope that helps.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hello Virginia. Thank you for reading my article. I respect any reader comments, and of course everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I guess it’s how you look at the whole concept of dating in general. I agree when you say love just happens at any time between folks. Men and women, over the years regarding ‘hooking up,’ sometime each have their own way of doing things.

      The main challenge between couples is really getting to know each other and making things work as a whole, and within all aspects of the relationship.

  43. As  a single man who would be married in the next few years, I find this really valuable. In fact I find it comprehensively important it has buttressed the simple point which many people do not really care about and may overlook. I have just learnt that you should not be too materialistic in choosing a life partner and at the same time not be too carefree in choosing a life partner. In fact I deduce that all I’s be dotted and all T’s crossed.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thanks for checking in Oneal. Sounds like you have your marriage plans all set. In regards to love and relationships in general, some folks don’t know what the want. Like you mentioned, some folks like material things and hookup with others just for that reason. I always say money and material things can’t buy happiness.

  44. Dear Ron,

    This is an interesting and helpful post. Thanks for the article I enjoyed it!

    To be honest this is a must read one for every youngsters and teens (For everyone). You have covered all the problems and provided with the solution as well which is awesome.

    As you rightly said there is no true love in many relationship and still they are together making the life as hell for each other. Love is an amazing thing and the greatest thing in this world. The video you embedded is very helpful.

    The scenario you gave scared me and made to afraid lol. I am wondering what I will do and how I will react. Five basic approach you provided is an eye-opener.

    Much Success!

    Paul

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Paul, Glad you enjoyed my article. Love can sometime take you through a roller coaster of mixed emotions. Sometimes folks in love don’t know if they’re coming or going. I tried to cover all aspects on the subject’s situations. It’s great being in love and loving someone, than to never have loved at all.

  45. So so many useful tips and tricks all on one page! Wonderful! I bookmarked to look further. This is insightful and I must say the best blog post i have ever read this month is your article. 

    I have been looking for a soulmate over the years but i must tell you your tips and tricks are just like eye opener to me. This is a must for all singles to check on.Thanks for sharing this with us. its well appreciated

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you Ola for your kind remarks. I try to “call it the way I see it” when it comes down to dating and relationships. I hope my article help you in your quest on finding that ‘special someone.’ Those tips and tricks never fail and should help all singles out on the hunt!

  46. You are such a good writer, I love the way you passed the message from the first letter to the end. Understanding, trust, and commitment matters in a relationship. I’ve only being in a relationship just once and within 2 months I was already tired of it. We complained about everything (understanding). I’m single now, and I think that “five basic approach” will help. I’m bookmarking this page right away.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi fattop. Thanks for the compliment. Never give up so soon! Trust and honesty is key. Sometime I feel at the beginning of any relationship, things take a little time. (Unless there was pure hell right out the gate!)lol. One relationship in two months? You’re probably young, just starting out and have plenty of time to date. I hope I can help u through my website. 

  47. Phil Lancaster

    For singles, especially older citizens who through either a partner’s death or simply the death of the relationship are now newly single (and, folks, there’s more and more of them every day) getting back into the dating game can be pretty scary.

    The first part of your article reinforces this.

    Your scenario of seeing your current dating partner appear on America’s Most Wanted and turn out to have a warrant out for their arrest on suspicion of murder in three states is undoubtedly humorous, but you can imagine plenty of similar situations. Not that drastic, but a wake-up call nonetheless.

    But you follow that up with five really great pieces of advice to use as a template for one single to approach another.

    Your second point about humor is spot on. Everyone loves someone who can make them laugh. In the original Alfie movie, Michael Caine says “if you can make a married woman laugh, you’re halfway into her bed.”

    Having confidence is so true as well. A confident person (not to be confused with arrogant) is always respected. I see you’ve got a link to The Confident Man Project. I think I’ll go take a look.

    Thanks, Ron.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you my friend Phil. I’m glad you enjoyed my site. Yes, relationships can be a roller coaster of emotions. The beginning of your letter hit home for me on a personal level. I lost my wife in July, 2015 after 37 years of marriage. ( I was 66 and found myself back out in the dating world). A strange arena to function for me. It’s been over three years now. Time heals all wounds. Thanks for checking in and check out the link. Very helpful and useful information).

  48. Babsie Wagner

    Age, within reason, truly doesn’t matter.  The love of my life was 25 when we met and I was 42.  We had 17 beautiful years and four children together, so that’s what I’m saying.  In fact, everyone actually thought he was older than me.  LOL!  I guess I just don’t grow up ha ha!  Now I’m single and older, and well, things are a lot different than they were when I was younger.  There just aren’t that many fish in the sea at my age, so I’ll probably be looking at younger guys once again.  So many men my age are just out of shape, and I’m a health nut and I am extremely fit, not to toot my own horn, but I work at it diligently in what I eat and my exercise routines. 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Wow Babsie, sound like you really got it going on! I imagine you can get anyone at this point in your life. At least, you got 17 years out of your first marriage. Staying in shape is a great start to attract the new ‘man of your dreams.’

      As far as the ‘fish in the sea’ goes, it all depends on what you do and where you go. Just keeping yourself looking good and available is what’s ‘key.’ Babsie, you’ll do just fine. You know what you want.

  49. Geoffrey wurz

    Thank you for the article on how to select a compatible mate. You Make a very good point on what people consider to be hindrances and that both sexes suffer from a lot of the same ones. This is very good information for single guys. If we could all put in to practice what you suggest no guy would be single. I think it is having the confidence which is the tough part for both sexes. Thanks again for the tips I will start using them right away. 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Yes Geoffrey, confidence is needed above everything else just to get the ball rolling. We all need confidence to approach someone to start some type of relationship. Once the relationship starts, next comes trust and honesty. Some folks start cheating right out the gate!!

      I hope this article will help not only single men, but both sexes. Everybody needs love!

  50. The YouTube video is hilarious! But hey! Somedays on that time of the month I can be a drama queen ok? Don’t judge me, it’s my hormones running wild!

    Anyways, I actually met my husband on a dating site 9 years ago called Plenty Of Fish. As a single girl 9 years ago in NYC can be lonely at times. Lets be honest meet a guy at the bar did not work out either in my opinion, we were both under the influence of alcohol. That was why I turned into online dating.

    I did not expect much in the beginning. Back then my priority was my career, the rent was crazy in Manhattan and forget about the cost of living. Something magically happened though, we both took our time and slowly got to know each other.

    We were dating for 2 years and decided to move in together and it turned out to be the best thing. I can say now that we are happily(good days and bad days) married for 5 years but we have been together for 8 years.

    Of course it took me too many dates to find my husband John, but there is still hope out there people. I believe that if you do not rush into things and taking your time learning about the other person that person can be your soulmate. 

    Love your style of writing, you are funny! Great post will share it to my single friends 🙂

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Nuttanee and congrats to you on successfully finding your soulmate. What you said was ‘key’ in regards to ‘people not rushing into things.’ That’s a recipe for disaster when couples get serious too soon; way before they get to know each other. It takes time to find your true ‘soulmate.’ I always say there’s somebody for everybody, just don’t set your standards too high.

  51. Hi there!

    A well crafted write up on  selecting the best compatible mates, I was literally satisfied and was getting all my questions answered by your article even when I haven’t really gotten to the end of the article. It’s a great piece I must confess.

    A lot of relationship these days are not working out because we haven’t really figured out our soul mates. One shouldn’t really be desperate in taking that path. it’s takes a lot of time and patience but it’s finally worth the wait at the end of the day. Powerful yet cool tips on dating and relationship in general. Great write up. Thanks for this piece.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thanks Tony for stopping by and reading my article. I’m glad to here you got your questions answered. Love, dating and relationships is a tricky thing. A roller coaster of emotions! Like you mention Tony, knowing and figuring out our soul mates before ‘shacking up’ together is important. Most folks make this move too soon and ‘no good’ becomes of it.

  52. Hey Ron, 

    I would like to congratulate you on hitting all points in the dating game. As for me, I find as I get older, finding that one special person slips even further into the distance. 

    You are correct in saying that as we get older we grow in maturity and gain more confidence. I really enjoyed the style of your composition which kept my attention, from inception to completion. 

    This is a must read for anyone embarking on a relationship. Thank you for sharing!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Paul, were both in the same boat when it comes down to us older cats dating. I personally like younger women (but that’s just me). We grow older and wiser over the years. We gotta watch these younger chicks trying to ‘play the game’ on us older dudes. But there are older women looking to date guys their own age. They’re lonely too! Everyone needs some type of companionship.

  53. I personally think to successfully date a woman really need some sort of research and understanding. I’ve got a guy friend who will do all the “asking” about the woman she wanted to date before asking her out. He’ll check her Facebook & Instagram, look into the job that she’s doing now and even first ask her friends out to know more before setting the date! Don’t you think dating is a strategy game? 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Florence, thanks for checking in. The ‘guy friend’ you describe in your letter sounds like he assembled his own ‘game plan’ in regards to dating. (I guess you do what you gotta do, but this is to the extreme.) A lot of planning went into this. (I never heard of anyone going this far). A strategy game? It sure looks like it in this case.

  54. A very useful post! I’m afraid I can’t use it, because I am married! However, I think it has great significance for young people. The viewpoints in the post on the relationship between men and women are new. It provides a new perspective for us to think about this eternal topic!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Sam, although you may be married, I appreciate you checking in with me. Yes, this material could help guide a young single in the right direction. When it comes down to dating, some folks ‘pull all the stops’ in regards to finding that special someone.

  55. Hey, great post. It makes me remember when I was on the dating scene. After a while, I actually got bored of meeting new people. I really was ready to settle down and found that after meeting a few people, I got a bit monotonous meeting new people who just weren’t the right fit. It’s different for everyone, and depends on where you’re at in your single journey. I like that you’ve given tips on basic approaches as well as not being too caught up in a particular look, age or nationality. Yes, be open to meeting a wide variety of different people, you just never know what will click when you discover new things about each other. Thanks for sharing. 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Well put Kat. Many folks limit themselves when it comes down to seeking & searching out that ‘special someone.’ Like you say Kat, that person looking has to be open to all races and nationality. There are good people in all races. You might pass up a ‘diamond in the rough’ when you limit yourself to only one particular type. Keep your mind and heart open! 

  56. Your post well detailed and engaging. It have been skeptical about online dating. Even though some of my close friends engage in it without caution.  I love the way you xrayed it. I will be kind to share with my friends so that everyone can be safe and maximize the potentials internet offers. Your home page is beautiful.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Online dating can be ok to some, but a disaster for many. People who have used this type of service sometime complain. (some have even taken the other person to court regarding money matters. Just can’t give up money too fast.) You have to get to know the person first before getting too personal and displaying all your business.

  57. You may not realize oh Donald that you actually gave more assistance in this post. I am a kind shy and intimidated by gorgeous looking girls even online.  Your five basic approach to singles helped immensely. I will summon more confidence the next time I go out for a date.  Thank you. 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thanks for checking back. It’s Ronald, not Donald. I’m glad this post will help you out on your future searches. Better yet my friend look into this book I posted on my site that will help build your confidence. Paschal, You’ll approach woman in a whole different way. You’ll feel great! Here’s the link: https://confidentman.net/confi

  58. Emmanuel Buysse

    Great post and good info.

    Honestly, online dating was always bad to me, I found girls who wanted a rich men, you know, the cliche girls that you find there. 

    They are looking for a dream prince, which isn’t existing. 

    But I found my wife there, she’s one in a million. 

    Now, about dating games, I never did that actually, and I don’t think it is for everybody right? 

    For who you would recommend it the most? 

    Thanks for sharing! 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Congrats to you, my friend Emmanuel for find your ‘dream girl’ using the online dating service that’s offered. Some folks have terrible luck with those. (like you say ‘gold diggers’ waiting to pounce on the gullible.) Dating games are something that will never go away. People run games on each other to get over. These types are the ones you don’t want to get involved with. Dating games are for individuals playing the field and not taking things for real.

  59. Kehinde Segun

    Good post. I like the way how you map out your points. The author sense of humor is really cool. Trust me, love is really blind most time. Going out to really check on someone for the first time is always scary at first because it is not easy to connect with the person. But at the end, love is beautiful

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hello my friend. Glad you enjoyed my post. I understand when you touched on ‘first-time’ jitters. That can really shake a person up. They really have to learn to relax and take time understanding the other’s personality. Some folks don’t open up right away and that will make you take time to adjust.Yes, the final stage hopefully will be love.

  60. Any relationship that puts trust and commitment in the back burner is bound to fail. These factors are very important bedrock upon which any long lasting relationship is built. Both parties in a relationship have to always reach a compromise and be more understanding of each other for they would have both built habits over the years that would be difficult to change.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Honesty and comment should always be put at the ‘Head of the Class!’ Like you said , if this factor wasn’t incorporated into the equation, then the relationship is doomed! Time heals all wounds in regards to men and women trying to build a long term relationship. Ennymatics, each party has to function on the same page.

  61. A very interesting article with some much information and educative things to learn from it

    how playing the dating game must not be taken lightly,you have said many thing to be watch out for in relationships and also many things to do in relationships in other not to get hurt or been used and dump at the long run. 

    i find this article so helpful because am single.i will follow most of the lessons I learnt from this article 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you Ajibola40 for your compliments. I try to put together articles which provide helpful information to my readers. It’s serious business when it comes down to love, dating and relationship. (It can put you on a roller coaster of emotions). Please share this with any of your other single friends. I hope this information will help them too.

  62.  I enjoy reading this interesting article, Indeed dating games is a necessary thing that should happen to men and women alike. However, the danger inherent in dating games is what some people ignore completely, especially when they claim to have fallen in love It is worse in this generation where people don’t understand what trust is and are not interested in commitment. Dating games ought to be dome with some amount of caution because human being are sometimes not what they claim to be most especially when it involves online dating. This is a major reason most people end up being heart broken or they get emotionally damaged,

    When one gets into a relationship, it is imperative to study the ingredients in the other partner, understand their make up and assess the compatibility before plunging into  serious affair that may not lead to anywhere. When we begin to be honest with our self and trustworthy, relationships will be more enjoyable and dating games becomes fruitful without bitterness..

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Well put my friend. Dating, now-a-days, has become a ‘train wreck’for most. People don’t know what they want. When they think they’ve found that special someone, they screw it up by cheating, before the first relationship settles in. Some folks just love ‘playing the game’ and not satisfied with one person. Honesty goes out the window and variety is ‘the spice of life.’ 

  63. Thanks for sharing useful dating advice. Trust and commitment is a must for any relationship. I have had a few broken relationships in the past and the main reason was lack of commitment from both side. I think it is not difficult to find love but to keep your partner for a long time. Compatibility is also not a big issue as long as you have mutual respect for each other.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Being compatible first, gets the ball rolling. Once that connection is made, sincerity, honesty and trust should filter in. Those elements should play a main role in determining just how things are going to be, or should. Sadly though, it’s not a perfect world out here. When it comes to dating, to most folks, it is what it is. 

  64. The dating game…. to play it or not?  What a topic.

    I “unfortunately” have been married a few times and I wish I would have had a better perspective of what I was doing the first 2 times.   I’m definitely always thinking how to convey what went wrong to my daughter in the best way so hopefully, she is ahead of the game.

    Although this is such a touchy topic, I think you’ve done a marvelous job at laying it out.

    Thanks

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thanks my friend for reading and compliment. Regarding your other marriages, the ‘third time’s the charm (at least, I hope.)lol. But most people do look back, learn from their mistakes, re-group and move on with their lives. I agree when you touched on the younger generation; hell, they can teach us a thing or two. Lol

  65. This is a lovely write up filled with truths.

    I must confess, this article really got my full attention and it was so interesting reading through it. It is quite a while I read such an interesting article like this. I really commend you for the great effort you put together in writing this piece. Basically in my opinion and as you have rightfully written, Trust and commitment are the two basic ingredients needed for a long-lasting relationship. Thanks for sharing this with us.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thanks for reading my post, Michael. Now-a-day, there’s just too many games played among folks who actively date. Some out here don’t know what they want. Thrust and commitment goes a ‘long way’ when it boils down to long lasting relationships. This element is a sorely missed ingredient.

  66. Awesome! What an incredible and insightful blog post; Thanks for this wonderful enlightenment. This is an expensive information that is very hard to come by on any blog and i must say it’s an eye opener for me

    You have several excellent points in your article. I have always known dating games are not to be taking lightly. Its very important younger ones learn from experiences in order not to fall into the same pit they have once fell into.

    Great article here!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you my friend for checking back in. Your comments are always appreciated. Dating now-a-day can leave you with a roller coaster of emotions. Both men and women have to go into a relationship with an open mind and heart. Get to know one another before plunging too deep, too fest. Follow my advice and you can’t go wrong.

  67. What A fantastic article…with a little cartoon comedy portion. I love it.. can anyone fall in love? This is the right article to read to those who plan to make a good relationship. To make a healthy, successful and happy life…a dating game is not easy and perfect for those who searching a lifetime partner. it’s a true date, but it’s only a game. I think this article is open minded and helpful to all single.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hello my friend. Thank you for reading and the compliment. You ask, ‘can anyone fall in love?’ Of course! If your heart is open to others and remain that way, I see no problem with this as a starting point. You’ll know if he or she is the right one for you. Remember, nothing happens overnight. Have patience! Don’t force the play. Let the game come to you.

  68. Hi Ronald,

    There are many comments here, which are seen in very few posts. It is clear that the matter is very impressive and appealing. I and my wife read your Dating Games article together and felt humor and memorize our past romantic days. The fact that such an interesting article has not been read for a long time. From my experience, the man who is satisfied with one woman is rare. The man has one foot in the water and the other on the ground. However, for a loving, happy, successful and committed relationship requires mutual respect, sympathy, deep faith, etc. Thanks for giving such an amazing article with a lovely video.

    Sincerely,

    Ranao

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you Ranao, I appreciate the compliments. The dating arena is sometime too great for most to handle. What I mean by that is the folks that’s been ‘out of commission’ for some time. Maybe you’re an older person, who lost a spouse and now suddenly find themselves back out on the dating scene. A hard adjustment. But with patience, careful searching (if you are looking) and openness, you can develop a successful, master plan tailored to fit your needs.

  69. Hi 

    This is a fantastic article with all related information about dating game and serious involvement with relationship. I would not know so much information about it if I did not read your article. After reading your article, I have learned the professional ethics and considerable rules while playing the dating games. I believe many people yet don’t know the breakup reason, mismatched and failure of dating event. I am going to share it with my other friends. Thanks for writing this helpful topic.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you my friend for reading. People in the dating world have a lot of decisions to make. Good or bad, they have to be made. I try to post constructive rules in this article. Rules and ways to live by. Some folks out there looking, don’t know what they want. They run around in circles, notknowing what they want.

  70. Tons of value to be found on this post on selecting compatible mates. This is a great and simple to follow guide on playing the dating games.

    You laid it all out clearly and showed series of examples that helped emphasize your various points. This is a good advice on what to look for in a partner. I love the fact that you told us to always ask questions on the type of person we are dating.

    Thanks for the eye opener.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Yes Ola, a person, male or female, should always have some idea of what they’re seeking even before venturing off in search of a mate. But just don’t settle for anybody. Carefully ease into a relationship. Check the flow regarding how things are going. You’ll know when to open up all the way!  

  71. Hey, Ronald!

    How to select a compatible mate, is one topic I have alot of interest in. 

    I agree that age, nationality and other unnecessary rules and regulations should go to the back burner, in terms of things to put into consideration when selecting a mate. 

    Your tips on how to get someone to date you, such as: humor, making intelligent and relevant conversation, smiling, having self confidence and being honest, are real deals in my opinion.  

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thanks peace, glad you enjoyed my article. Selecting a compatible mate is a daunting task for most because I feel most folks don’t know what they’re seeking. Find the ‘perfect’ mate and you’re halfway there. But it really takes two to make it all come together and become satisfying for both involved. As far as race and nationality is concerned, that should never be an issue. Personality should be at ‘the head of the class’.

  72. The relationship between a man and a woman can at times be complicated. Sometimes we might ask ourselves what does a guy or girl is in a particular person that makes them remain with that person even if the person is a no good person. The way our hearts work is just strange. 

    When you are in love with someone you just don’t care about the type of life the person is living. All you would be interested in is to just be with that person all the time. That is just the way the world was created. Only when you don’t love the person that you would begin to consider things like wealth and looks and similar things that do not really show the heart of a person.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Jay you made some interesting comments. You hear folks say ‘follow your heart’, but sometime that may lead you down a dangerous and missguided road. You really have to also use your head. Thinking with a straight head is also a good start. Illegal drugs or even alcohol may distort your perception of someone, that before you know it, you’ve gotten yourself into something that will have you thinking, “What the hell just happened?”

  73. I found the article very interesting. I totally agree with you, a lot of times people get intimidated by the outer beauty of a person, and therefore hinder themselves from experiencing the inner beauty the person holds. Often times, we meet stunning people, who tick or the right boxes but are very lonely. You would never be able to know this except you make effort to know the person. In the end, not everyone has forgotten about trust and commitment, however there are only just a few left.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hey Louis, that outer beauty just won’t cut it regarding a serious and sincere relationship. Of course all guys want that ‘fine sexy mama’ and women want that ‘tall, handsome muscular dude.’ But they never stop to think, ‘what’s up stairs?’ Do they have enough brains to make rational decisions in a relationship? How’s the personality? A lot to cover. Also love, trust and commitment should head the list. 

  74. I think you hit the nail on the head there when you pointed out that there are a lot of lonely people capable of love, and a lot of people in relationships that just don’t get on together!

    A great post here that will surely ring true with more than a few singles at the moment. Do you feel that internet dating has now got to the point where it outperforms regular dating (through results)?

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Chris, thanks for checking in. When it comes to dating and relationship, some folks tend to make up their own rules. Most likely rules that will soon be broken. As far as internet dating versus face-to-face dating goes, I personally feel nothing will replace the actual physical meeting of a person. You can discover more when conversing, as opposed to folks lying to you behind a screen.

  75. Seun Afotanju

    This I must say is an interesting article, Though dating has never been easier, frustrations with it have never been more vocal and finding love has never seemed more treacherous, We are living in times where the impact, visibility and perceived importance of the young are enormous.  I am happy I came across this post and I’m hoping for more from you. 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you my friend. I’m hoping you share this with others. Some people tend to get misguided with the wrong information regarding how to handle relationships and what to expect in the long run. I try to lay out information which deem helpful to all seeking love, even in treacherous times. I have a ton of helpful information on this subject. Please share my post.

  76. Rachael Christensen

    I love your take on dating, relationships and tips on finding that special someone. You’ve just given me a thoroughly good laugh so my hat is off to you sir, very well written it was very entertaining. To be honest I am SO glad I don’t have to worry about this any longer having found my prince.  But not before kissing my share of frogs!  I always found that when I  met someone new things were wonderful for a while during the “honeymoon” period, but then real life would creep in and things would start to go south. It can get really frustrating when it just never works out and you feel like you’re never going to meet the “one”. That’s why I reckon it’s important to be friends first so you know exactly what you’re getting into.  What importance do you place on friendship before starting a physical relationship with someone?

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Yes Rachael, you will kiss many frogs before that ‘special someone’ appears. This seem to be the ‘norm’ for both men and women. Eventually, good things do happen! (You found your prince. That’s great!) Some couples would wanna scream “Where is the Love?” as the song from the 1980’s goes. There seem to be a shortage of this among couples. To answer your question Rachael, what I think is ‘key’ in a friendship, which could blossom into love, is the personality of an individual. This is the barometer which help sets the standards and outcome of how things will be regarding a good relationship.  

  77. Hi Ronald, 

    This is a very interesting post. It is informative and funny. “The 14 Red Flags of Dating: The Art of Manliness” was hilarious. Will you add a female version, “The 14 Red Flags of Dating: The Art of Womanliness”? 

    When I did the retrospect of my past relationships, I realize most of the time I was the problem. I especially had commitment issues. 

    I loved the “The Five Basic Approach for Singles”. Your profile of the different approaches was very well done. It is a good chart to show where one is in the “dating scene”. 

    Your final thought on the “The Reality of Love” was sad but true. 

    I think this is a very good website for charting out a course of action in the dating world. 

    I enjoyed this post very much. Thank you, Ronald. 

    johnny, the Grey Wolf. 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hey Johnny, glad you enjoyed my post. I try to be as thourhal as I can, touching on ‘key’ elements which hopefully will help others. Instead of couples making up their own rules and guidelines to follow regarding keeping their relationship intact, they should just concentrate on following good, solid guidelines. (…my post!)LOL. I keep it real, with a touch of comedy just to keep things interesting. Please share my post with your social media contacts.

  78. What an engaging and interesting article. I really took my time to read through and was looking forward to your final point and conclusion. I have actually learnt from it. I won’t be intimidated by a woman’s outer beauty anymore. Each time I see a beautiful woman, I always think that she must be in a relationship and not knowing that it’s not always so. Some of them might be single like me and equally searching for a faithful partner too. Next time I will take a very bold step and walk up to her and initiate a conversation. Thanks for your wonderful article. 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thanks for reading my friend. Regarding women, never feel intimidated by a woman’s pretty looks. They’re looking too. Just waiting also for that ‘special someone.’ Of course, they won’t ever tell you. They’ll always play hard to get. That’s part of the dating game and the rules we play by. But all rules are made to be broken. Yes my friend Kenechi, keep your head up high right along with your confidence. You are bound to score!

  79. I really like the way you carefully establish your point. The five points you mentioned are really meant for guys like me who are really shy to approach ladies and I am. It will be helpful to me. I must say that online dating has not been favorable to many but yet I have friends that got their spouses online and they are happily married. Most of the time the right approach is needed to engage a partner, the wrong may backfire later. You did a good job with this. 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you Fortune for reading my post and voicing your experience. Sometimes it’s tough when it boils down to selecting a mate that’s compatible. Online dating may work for some, but not for others. As you stated my friend, the right approach is needed in regards to capturing that special someone. Or a person can just follow my five basic steps for instant ans guaranteed success. Fortune, please share this with others.

  80. Its a pity the younger ones are not taking dating and courtship serious like we did during our days. The affection is no longer there. I could remember I took my relationship/ courtship very serious because I knew this is the person I would apend the rest of my life with so there should be no mistake. I have a happy family now and I am bold to say it couldn’t have been better than this.

    Thanks for sharing this lovely article

    • Ronald Kennedy

      I guess you can say Wealthfather, that with us both being from the ‘old school,’ things now-a-day regarding dating and relationships just ain’t the same. Young folks, at least some of them, take love for granted. Getting serious with someone is a joke. Now It’s all about getting to know someone long enough to have good sex, and then later get ‘kicked to the curb.’ 

  81. This piece is an embodiment of excellence. Sheer awesomeness! Such exasperating writing to cover all angles concerning getting involved in a relationship and what to look up to and ought not to look up to.

    selecting a partner is not all about who is the best and most awesome. Its usually about the imperfections that you’re willing to make perfect by becoming a part of them. My partner is a very hot tempered person whom I met through mingle2 dating site but after several months, I realise her flaws and I was willing to stand by her even till now.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thanks for the compliments my friend. The dating world can be an adventure. A wild roller coaster ride of ups and downs. Finding the right person is always not that easy. Being around that person may make you happy, maybe not. (Only time will tell). I guess it all depends on what you you willing to put up with.

  82. Thank you so much to the author who has written down this kind of such a beneficial article.  This article opened my mind to the fact that there are ways to play love games in a reasonable way. i love the approach you listed here for the singles, which made me fall in love once again. I recommend this post for all singles.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thanks again Tracy, for viewing my site. Some folks are lucky in love, some aren’t. (It all depends on who’s asking). LOL. Some try to stay in the game and deal with what life has to offer. Others may walk away before they even get to know their selection. Love is a funny thing!  Please Tracy, share this article with others on social media. 

  83. Hi Ronald and thank you so much for this post

    I laughed I thought a lot and I enjoyed this.

    Tony Robbins said- !st you must become very good friends and you must be good for each other and when this occurs, then you may contemplate taking it further but not until that day which should be more than 24 hours – lol Seriously it could be a year- Who cares as long as its real

    I really loved this post-Ronald- you rock!!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Vicki my friend. Glad you enjoyed my post (…just makes me feel all warm & tingly inside)lol. But seriously, I felt I done my job when I can write enjoyable articles. Articles that make others laugh. Yes, the dating game is really something to behold and as real as it gets.

      Vicki, please share my post with your other contacts. Thanks!

  84. This is a very interesting article I love to read. Relationship is very easy to say but what is there in, is very critical.It takes extra thoughts and sacrifice to conclude on who to choose as a life partner. The most funniest part is falling in love with someone your friend might detest thinking he/she doesn’t worth it  This is just to believe the fact that ‘what is good for me might not be your taste. Love they say is blind, so we have to do our things in our own pace just to be responsible for our actions at the long run. This article is useful for many guys toying with women’s emotions after gaining her love, trust and commitment,using it as their weakness. This is why most lady make it hard for guy that loves them because of the poor outcome from their experience. This tough attitude of the ladies make it hard for other innocent guys that love them to approach because of fear of rejection. See karma!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hello Stella my friend. You make some interesting points. The dating world can be a crazy world. A roller coaster of emotional turns and twists. They say to ‘follow your heart’ but sometimes your heart can be misled. Something to think about. Please share this article with other.

  85. I think finding the compatible mate is quite hard, because most of the people I have seen on dating sites are not there to find relationship. So, it’s pretty hard to find someone who is looking to establish something real. Now where do you find a guy who want that?

    To answer to your scenario, I think after 3 years with him, I will give him an opportunity to explain himself but 3 years is not enough to know everything about someone ( unless you’re with him 24/7). I will end the relationship because I hate liars but I will definitely take time to know the why and how…

    Thanks

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Good points you made, my friend. Three years is more than enough time to get to know someone, all their faults and what direction do they want their life to go in. But I find folks still out there, fumbling around, searching and looking. Not only do they not know where they’re headed, but also, don’t know what they’re looking for.

  86. I believe that at the end of the day, finding your “perfect” mate is a highly subjective thing. I mean yeah, there are definitely some basics but every woman is different. Also, based on different circumstances that are going on in your life, you’ll be meeting different kinds of women.

    I really believe that the dating game is highly subjective and dynamic.

    At least this has been the case for me…

    What’s your take on this?

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thanks Harry for chiming in. My take would be ‘whatever floats your boat!’ To each his own,(and that type of stuff.) As you pointed out, a man will have different women come in and out of his life. It’s up to him to chose his ladies wisely, get a very good feel for them so he doesn’t get ‘burnt’ in the long run. Please share my article with others.

  87. No one ever teaches you about relationships and feeling and being yourself. We’re all just thrown in a water and you have to learn as you go. I met people who, in my opinion had no idea what a healthy relationship should look like and didn’t even bother to listen to other people. That’s why I like the youtube video you provided, it’s like a little tap on shoulder. 

    I’m always interested in topics like human interaction, attraction and such and am looking forward to reading your work.

    Best,

    Katya

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you Katya, for stopping by. When it comes to relationships, most folks are just out here going through life with NO direction or any idea what they want or what their looking for. (I have two friends myself that’s like this). The guys I know find women, have their way with them, then kick ’em to the curb. (They been doing this for years). This is why these dudes been single for a very long time. (They probably threw away some good ones).

      Please share my article with others.

  88. Marios Tofarides

    Hey there Ronald,

    Knowing what you want in the relationship and your other half, is the first step for a good relationship. For better or worse, you need a few failures, in order to figure it out. Then it’s self-confidence. You need to believe in yourself, and trust yourself and love yourself. Because if you don’t no one will. 

    Relationships need work. Sacrifices. Compromises. If you’re not willing to do so, then stay single!

    Marios

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hey Marios, love is a ‘two-way street.’ In order to make any relationship work, we all gotta be on the same page. If one have plans that’s in the opposite direction of the other, then this won’t cut it. Understanding, trust and honesty is what keeps a relationship strong. There isn’t enough of this going around! Back to the basics!

  89. Mecyll Gaspary

    Great post. It’s very important to choose the mates we like to build our spend our lives with. Especially when it comes to marriage. Of course, love can blind us with feelings of butterflies in our stomach. But we should consider the act of the man or the partner. Whether they are good or bad for us. 

    I didn’t see this before I began my relationship with my husband because he’s so good in making you feel in love. But then, as fool as I am, I got hooked with the idea of building relationship since it was my first time to have a man in my life other than my father. 

    In the end, we got married. Then, the signs start showing up. He’s overly emotional to the point he’s shutting me off and everybody else, including his mother. The fact that he could do the same with his own female family members, he could do that to me. It was frustrating to the point I told him, “Fuck you. I hate your motherfucking drama!” 

    Then, he woke up from his senses. He cried and cried. He has never felt that bad for hurting me, the woman he only loved. As much as I wanted to leave him, I couldn’t because I love him so much. He’s currently changing his ways of treating me. There I saw his effort of building the broken relationship with me. I appreciate that, but it doesn’t mean I have already forgotten what he did to me over the years. 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Wow! What drama you’ve gone through in your relationship. Sounds like you and hubby are trying to get back on track. Sometimes situations call for you to get pissed & walk before the guy comes to his senses. He knows he has a good woman, but fail to see the good in you. Threatening to leave is like a ‘slap in the face!!’ 

      (But hey Mecyll remember, if things don’t work out, you got my number!)LOL!!

  90. It’s been a while since I was in the dating game, I was married for 15 years but we had to go our separate ways so I need to get myself back out there on the market

    I’m really nervous though, I don’t think I could get into online dating as it wasn’t around before I got married so I need to have a think about what I want to do next

    Do you have any more tips about online dating?

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hey Matthew, keep the faith. One failed marriage should not stop you from ‘testing the water.’ To answer your question regarding online dating, me personally I’m not a big fan of online dating (I’ve heard too many ‘horror stories’). I believe in face-to-face meeting. Matt, just keep yourself available. Attend events where you most likely will meet women. Just be yourself (women hate phonies), and have a sense of humor! (women love to laugh).

  91. Partnership is made in heaven and marriage takes place on earth.

    This is a lovely and funny writing style.

    Well, You’ve point out about some approaches in your article. I just want to Emphasis about most important one- CONFIDENCE-. yes, confidence is master key point here. just be yourself and do not pretend yourself to be any one else. you don’t need to cover a mask on your face, BE Granded, if someone deserves to spend time with you,then he or she put effort to keep relationship seriously, if not you just move on and walk away. 

    Thanks budy

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you my friend for your fine compliments. I find the humor in whatever life has to offer. Even in dating; some situations could be funny, some disastrous. But together, strong couples survive through anything. I agree when you say ‘confidence’ is a key element a person should have when searching for a mate. Also, never rule out, ‘just be yourself’ (the ladies hate phonies)! 

  92. That video had me giggling and then guffawing!!!  Although its pointed at women, I’ve seen plenty of men display many of these same red flags.  The light hearted humour in the beginning keeps a person (well, me, anyways!) reading.

    Your points are definitely of value to both sexes.  Reading this as a female I could see many cross connections.  The failures and attributes you describe can definitely be seen (and noted) in both.  You give very savvy advise on how to meet and make an impression on a perspective mate.  I especially, though, appreciated your comments on commitment.  So many get caught up in the dating game and that initial flush that they ignore the red flags and plow straight into a horrifying relationship.

    Put the same effort into finding the right mate as you would finding your ideal car and follow the advice here!  You’ll be miles ahead of most!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you my friend for reading and enjoying my article. Love is like a baseball game, ‘three strikes you out.’ Many emotions and feelings are incorporated into building a relationship. Both people has to want the same things out of life to make things work. He has to understand her needs and vice versa. Only time will tell!

  93. What’s really great about this article is that i can see what qualities i should have, to get someone I’m really compatible with. I’ve messed up a couple of time and it really pissed me off when i start thinking of my past relationships so i gave myself a break, but then, i tried getting back to a new relationship and it looks like i can’t attract a lady anymore, it makes feel more bad. In my last relationship, I did let my insecurities hold her back, and I was sometimes jealous. You’ve given me a lot to think about Ronald, I think your tips will be very useful on my quest for a new and compatible soulmate.

    Regards!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      You know Jordan, I don’t know why it’s like that in regards to leaving an old relationship, going into a new one. It appears we lose our luster, our desire slowly fades. That’s why it seems difficult to get started again. We have to think back on what went wrong the first time. Once we get back on track, everything will be fine.

  94. ROBERT JONES JR

    another funny yet informative post! I loved the video! tell me did you film it yourself or was it professionally done? I am in the process  of explaining to my son that in high school dating was all about the click you were in. But after graduation and upon entering college it become more about what a man can offer as far as financial stability and safety! 

    ….also being a man when it comes to raising kids! 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Glad you enjoyed my post and video. Thanks for reading! The video was a pre-prepared video that was given rights to use. Good idea to inform your son on the realities of the dating life. It’s amazing knowing how situations change over time. Things start off cool at the beginning of a relationship, then later….It’s ‘All About The Benjamins!’

  95. Thanks for this article. It got me thinking a lot more about dating and relationships. I have not thought about that as much lately because I am focusing on my career and finances a lot, and area of my life which I would really like to improve. 

    I think once I am doing a bit better financially then it will be easier to do dating because I guess Financial stability is something that the other person might be looking for.

    But I want to thank you for this article because like I said it gave me a lot to think about just in terms of dating and relationships. 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Well Charles, not all the ladies are looking for the fat wallet. Some women out there are just looking for kindness, gentleness, understanding and trust to name a few. I guess a ‘fat wallet’ would sweeten things up! But if a woman only looked at me in a financial way (Maybe the only way), then I wouldn’t want her. I’d lose interest quick and ‘kick her to the curb.’

  96. Thank you very much for your post. It is a timely article for me. I got divorced from my wife some while ago and am still in the process of recovering. Your article gives me a lot of tips on how to play the dating game, which soon or late I need to play.

    I like your five basic approaches for singles. I always think I am old and it is not appropriate for me to have a date. I am a Chinese and prefer to meet Chinese women. You are right that I need to keep my mind open since there are beautiful types of women in all races. Apparently my divorce has detrimental effects on my relationship with women. My confidence is deteriorated. I see you have “The Confident Man Program”. I am going to do more search on this and try to sign up for a such program.

    It is kind of you sharing such powerful information. I think today could be a turn point for me to plan new relationship with women.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hey Anthony, I know divorces can be tough. Just hold your head up and hang in there! It’s not the end of the world and never too late. (So age has nothing to do with it.) Get back out there, Tony! There’s somebody for everybody! I really, strongly feel the ‘Confident Man’ information will greatly help you. The sooner you get started, the better. 
      Click on the link now!

       ‘The Confident Man Program.’

  97. Really interesting article about love, sex and selecting a compatible mate.  You bring a lot of insight into this very important part of life.  I loved your tips for singles. A lot of these ideas are common sense but unfortunately sometimes in love, we forget the most important rules and throw common sense out the window, so it’s nice to be reminded again about what’s important. I was really struck by your quote that “so many people are in love and not together and so many people who are together and not in love”, it is so true.   Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the rest of the world, God knows we need it! 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you Highlife101, for reading and enjoying my site. Yes, I lay it all out on the table. I agree that love will have your mind like putty, not being able to think straight. As the song goes; “What the world needs now, is love sweet love..” holds a lot of truth. This may be the solution to are world problems. It’s so sad that we just can’t all get along!

      Please share my post with your social media downline.

  98. This is an absolutely accurate post. Many people out there don’t know what they want so instead taking the chance to go for a lady they want, they just sit back convincing themselves that they can’t get her. Most people, both make are female are also truly scared of commitment and like a friend once told me, you’re not mature for a relationship if you’re scared of being committed. I also like that you said that some are in love but not in a relationship and some are in a relationship and not in love. I guess it all boils down to finding that right person and knowing it deep down that this is truly the one for me. Nobody wants to make mistakes there because at a point, it’s not rectifiable. It’s a good post you’ve written there. Awesome stuff

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you Henderson for the compliment. Really appreciate it. When people are in love, emotions remind me of a roller coaster, flowing up and down the tracks of life. Some folks can handle it, some can’t, getting very emotional. Some individuals, regardless being man or woman, don’t even know what true love is. You must respect good committed relationships. They are hard to find!  

  99. What an insightful article.  Your humor kept me intrigued and genuinely interested.  

    As for the dating game, I have been out of it for many years now, but believe you have hit the nail on the head with this article.  We need to remember we are not in a relationship for the short term (hopefully not) but for the long term.  You want someone compatible and shares your interests.

    I love that you included ways to approach the opposite sex.  I am sure you included approaches that others would never think of.  It is amazing how many ways you can approach conversations with others.  You just need to do it, the more you do it the more it comes natural to you.

    Thanks!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      I’m glad you enjoyed my article, Wanda. Hopefully, you can pass this valuable information along to others who may benefit from it. Trust along with being compatible & honest is ‘key’ in any relationship. Get it right! A person should go for the long term and be happy (Hopefully)! 

      My friend Wanda do me a favor, please let me know if your receive this reply by sending me an ‘OK’ from your dashboard back office comment section. Thanks much. 

  100. You got a funny and interesting way on explaining things about dating. What I like most, is your real an honest suggestion on how to approach singles. It’s all true in a woman’s point of view – one who’s really interested in dating and not hustling. Being yourself on a date would bring out the best in you. Pretending would lead to lies which is the complete opposite of your goal – to know each other better. Always start with a right foot and good intention. Thanks for sharing your point of view in this matter. 

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you my friend, for reading and enjoying my article. I try keeping things on a ‘real tip’ and giving my single readers a ‘springboard’ to getting started in the dating world. We all need a platform and I’m hoping I could provide that voice along with action for the single person. Please share my article with others.

  101. What a great place. As a man, I have to say that it is difficult to find a person to fit in and decide to get along with. It is necessary for the relationship to succeed to have trust, mutual retreats, mutual respect. The word commitment scares most people. Of course, I’m not because I’m committed. Although, I appreciate your source humor and your approach. It’s very smart and I find it amusing and really true.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hey Water life, I’m so glad you enjoyed my post. Trust and honesty is for sure the ‘glue’ that holds any and all relationships together. Being committed is also ‘key’ once you’ve established yourself. Like I said before, commitment give some folks a ‘heart attack’ just thinking about it. LOL. Please share my article with others.

  102. Dear Ronald, thank you for writing this entertaining and easy to digest article filled with several tips in relevant areas. We enjoy your frankness and also the tips you share. As a loved up couple (who have experienced the lessons of prior relationships… and are highly engaged in this one), we agree that Honesty and Commitment is key in any relationship… especially if you want it to survive! Another big one for us is having an open mindset where one is dedicated towards personal development. RESPECT is another biggie. We agree with you on many points raised and have gone ahead to read the rest of your articles on your website. We LOVE them too!  “Make Love, Not War”, is a saying that iTo says regularly! The book reminds us of an ancient Asiatic way in determining mates for people based on facial profiles as well as body types (apart from astrology and other intricate methodologies). We look forward to reading your book!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hello my friend. Thank you for the nice compliment regarding my article. Glad you enjoyed it. Sometime relationships are compared to a carnival roller coaster. Up & down and a feeling of unsteadiness. Hopefully, it’ll all smooth out! All relationships function differently. You can get a free copy of my book by plugging in your info in the box.

  103. Wow, this is really interesting, it’s so realistic that some guys just choose to be plain lazy, sitting around at home with no work to do, this thing is so frustrating and discouraging for ladies. This article is a very sensitive one and it should be taken with utmost seriousness. Relationships are breaking day after the other just because of some understanding issues and even frustrations from partners. Taking time to find the special one is really nice, this made me remember the saying that goes thus, there’s a man for every woman and vice versa. This article is well composed, it’s really thoughtful of you to share it.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you Dreajay for stopping by. Yes, it was important that I touch on many key elements, and construct this article in a humorous way: a way that anyone with a sense of humor can relate to. We all have been in love at some point in our lives. Some relationships are ‘hit’ and ‘miss,’ but he, you win some, lose some. Please share this post with others.

  104. Selecting a compatible partner is one big decision that is taken in one’s life, making a wrong choice can be so disastrous and calamitous to both the man and the woman. This article has touched the most important aspect of dating and relationships, the simple mistakes young people make nowadays when it comes to dating makes it so hard for them to stay in a relationship for long. This should go into the public and make great changes in the lives of many people and teach them to make wise decisions when it comes choosing a partner and dating. I’ve enjoyed reading every bit of this article, so nice of for sharing it.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you my friend for enjoying my article. I write and construct my articles in a humorous way, as to where the readers will experience an enjoyable mix of laughter and truth. The dating arena is filled with a ‘roller coaster’ of emotions harbored by misguided individuals seeking love and romance. But it’s all just ‘hit & miss.’ As the saying goes; “If at once you don’t succeed, try, try again.” Please share this post with your social media downline.

  105. One thing I could say when two people meet up for the first few times, or talk on the phone they should not be asking for sex right off. Should also not be asking how much money one makes. It’s almost like they don’t really care about a long lasting relationship. I love the article, nicely done.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hey Jim, I think they have special sites out there strictly for ‘knocking the boots.’ LOL. I know it’s a turn off for many dudes looking for decent and respectable women out here. Run the other way, if a woman question your income right out of the starting gate. I’d cuss her out first, or put her down so bad, she would think twice about questioning a man’s financial status again. Please share this with others.

  106. I think this also very important to note that, whilst looking for dinner beauty don’t forget to find someone whose outward looks will have you satisfied enough to keep you away from going after other women or men and also don’t let the outward beauty receive you. Character always should go first from my own point of view, because we are talking about building a home here not looking for a part time mate and destroying the future of your kids. Before deciding on important issues like getting married or having babies always be sure they are really who you think they are and you know their worst parts and how to take care of it.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Hi Donny, you made some good points. Beauties only skin deep. Inner beauty is more important than outer beauty. Of course, regarding either sex, everybody wants a nice looking person on their arm. When you’re out, you like to show off your prize possession to the public. It makes you feel proud. But all in all, couples should really sit down, plan things out and carefully focus to see where their lives are headed.

  107. jessetoikkanen

    Great article about love and playing love games and much more! I really loved your quote “the sad truth is that so many people are in love but not together and so many people are together but not in love. This really shows the reality of many relationships nowadays. What comes to red flags, I have been in semi-long relationships with two different women who were (are) narcists and last time the end of the story was when I was in the hospital after her and her sisters knife attack on me. However, thanks for sharing this, bookmarked your site to read more articles later on today

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you my friend, for enjoying my work. Shaky relationships within couples are like going on a roller coaster ride. Up and down, all around! it’s always a good thing if we can find that special someone in the ‘first shot.’ I’m sorry to hear about your woman & her sister lashing out on you with violence. (I’m hoping you soon cut her loose behind that) You did press charges, I hope?

      I always say ‘there’s somebody for everybody.’ When the right person comes along, you’ll know it. Please share my post with others.

  108. Andy Zeus Anderson

    Its been twenty years since I was in the dating scene but I can still remember being anxious and unsure. Sure I was confident on the outside but sweaty hands and shaky knees were the norms when I met my wife. You have some great dating tips here. The one thing I would recommend though is I spent too long looking for love and when I stopped looking so hard I finally found the one and it didn’t take long.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Yes Andy, it’s amazing how an individual can slow down their search and without any additional effort, have the person of their dreams walk into their lives. It can turn out to be a match made in heaven! It’s only fair to say that there’s someone out there for everybody. Some make the mistake of grabbing the first thing that comes along, so they don’t have to be lonely. You got lucky my friend by slowing down. Congrats to you. Please share this post with others.

  109. The comment about conversation is great. It does definitely help to talk about what you are currently doing — whether it’s big projects or just little daily activities — you never know what small catalyst is going to lead to learning fun new things about someone else. Definitely try to be your best self and enjoy meeting new people no matter what!

    • Ronald Kennedy

      It’s great Aly, to put your best foot forward and keep yourself available to all. Of course, great conversation is good because you have to get to know the person you’re seeking. Everyone is different and the approach will vary. If at first you don’t succeed,….

  110. I believe that from a male’s perspective confidence is key. You can say anything, do anything, but if not done confidently you’ll won’t go anywhere even in dating. So it’s really important for a guy to work on his inner game: meaning work on getting himself amped up, to say, for the big plunge, like self-motivation before approaching women, and work on what to say with confidence. That’s my take.  

    This is a great article. It reminds us that we men need to do the approach, the woman will unfortunately not, and if you blunder, seek the next until you get a good reception. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.  

    • Ronald Kennedy

      I agree my friend. Without confidence, you’ll always feel ‘down in the dumps’ as though no one will ever want you. In the dating world, they’ll be up & down situations. One of those situations, you may feel things are finally going your way. But on the other hand, your confidence must be at a high enough level to except the ‘bitter with the sweet.’ Only time will tell. Please share my post with others.

  111. What an interesting and eye-opening video. I guess the scenario works for both men and women. I really loathe partners that believe they are the most important party n the relationship. This only makes the other partner feel like the relationship is tedious works that needs to be finished and done with. There is really a lot to consider before settling for a mate. I don’t know how this checklist can be ticked by one single person. Then there are those who know how to perfectly conceal their true nature until when the relationship is sealed. Thank you for an entertaining and informative piece.

    • Ronald Kennedy

      Thank you for visiting my site, my friend. Sometimes the world of dating can produce an field of mixed emotions. Sometime, you don’t know if you’re coming or going. Depending on ever occurring issues in most relationships, things have to be clear and understood right from the get go. Don’t wait! Establish the ‘real self’ in your relationship and don’t be a phony. Please share my site with others.

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